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How Laughing At Yourself Makes You Attractive Instantly

How Laughing At Yourself Makes You Attractive Instantly

Have you ever embarrassed yourself in public and got laughed at for it? Say, Have you accidentally burped in the middle of an important meeting or knocked over the water when you were talking with someone?

Chances are we all have this kind of experience, and it’s okay— you should even have a laugh about them.

Laughing at yourself means embracing who you really are.[1]

Most of us have insecurities, or feel bad about ourselves because of past mishaps. However, it’s normal to be imperfect—it’s our imperfections that make us humans.

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That being said, you should stop worrying about having to convince others of your worth, or maintaining an ideal image of yourself. Let them worry about how they judge you instead.

What’s important is that you are honest with yourself about who you are, and accept yourself despite your flaws. Self-acceptance is key to self-confidence, and you won’t be able to laugh at yourself without first accepting yourself!

Being a little sceptical about yourself actually helps to boost your confidence.

Usually, people who are able to laugh at themselves are the optimistic ones; and optimistic people tend to be more successful in life.[2]. This is because poking fun at ourselves contributes to our mental health and helps lift our mood in the face of difficulties or embarrassment. More importantly, it helps us realize our own weaknesses so we know which areas to do better.

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Another study indicated that  joking about your own mistakes means you are able to move on from them.[3] This is a personality trait that is beneficial to your mental well-being, helping you perform well in stressful situations, contributing to your general happiness.

So, knowing how to joke about your weaknesses actually means you’re happy and confident about yourself — no one is more attractive than a confident person!

When you laugh at yourself, people will probably like you more because you’re being real.

While laughing at someone else may hurt their feelings even if you didn’t intend to, laughing at yourself does not—you might even bring a smile to their faces (surprised?).

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Don’t worry about losing respect from others, because people actually appreciate it when you laugh at yourself.[4] Laughing at yourself shows that you have the courage to do so and you’re being real about your imperfections, making people think you are likeable instead of cranky and uptight all the time.

You don’t need to take yourself seriously all the times, just laugh about yourself more. Don’t know how to start with that? Try this:

Try to laugh about your past experiences, that’s how you find materials for some good jokes.

Laughing at yourself isn’t always easy, but you can start with some past experiences or little flaws in your.

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Try to understand yourself better, think about the things you’re bad in. Think about some past mistakes you made — was it the time you messed up a document with another colleague? or the time you forgot about an important appointment?

Instead of criticizing yourself all over again, spin the mistakes in a positive way. Think of some small details of that experience that you also find them silly to laugh at until today.

Just remember: it is human to make mistakes; and you have to accept yourself just as you are—a perfectly flawed person. Learn to laugh at yourself, and you will be so much happier.

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Wen Shan

Proud Philosophy grad. Based in HK.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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