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38 Questions That Help You Deeply Understand Your Loved Ones

38 Questions That Help You Deeply Understand Your Loved Ones

Most of us feel like we know our loved ones pretty well, but do we really? It’s easy to fall into a routine when we communicate with others, exchanging pleasantries and avoiding deep, meaningful topics. Making the effort to go deeper during conversation can lead to more authentic relationships and stronger connections.

I’ve picked the best of 38 questions that truly reveal people’s personalities,[1] and compiled them into four sections. Next time you’re with a loved one, forget talking about the weather. Ask these thought-provoking questions instead.

Beliefs

Find out what your loved one really believes by asking them questions that require them to make a difficult choice. You’ll learn a lot about their priorities and how they view the world.

1. Would you rather have more than 5 friends or fewer than 5 friends?

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2. Do you think crying is a sign of weakness or strength?

3. Would you rather have $50,000 free and clear or $1,000,000 that is illegal?

Dreams

We all have dreams, but expressing them to others can feel difficult and embarrassing. Help your loved ones to open up by asking questions about what they’d like to achieve, or how they wish life could be different.

1. What do you want to be remembered for?

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2. What stands between you and happiness?

3. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?

Fears

Fears are part of what makes us who we are, and learning what your loved one is afraid of can deepen your connection. Rather than asking what they’re afraid of outright, ask questions about which they’d prefer out of two unpleasant scenarios. The answers might surprise you.

1. Would you rather spend 48 straight hours in a public restroom or spend the next 2 months taking only public transportation?

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2. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?

3. Would you rather discover something great and share it? Or discover something evil and prevent it?

Thoughts

Conversation is more fun when you ask thought-provoking questions. Listen to what your loved one has to say, then share your own opinion to encourage debate.

1. If you had to choose to live without one of your 5 senses, which one would you give up?

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2. What song typifies the last 24 hours of your life?

3. What did you learn in school that has proven to be the least useful?

Get to know your friends and family on a new level by asking deep, thought-provoking questions.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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