Advertising
Advertising

Everyone Shows Love In A Different Way, Find Your Partner’s Love Language

Everyone Shows Love In A Different Way, Find Your Partner’s Love Language

Have you ever felt frustrated when your partner doesn’t understand you? Does it ever feel like the two of you speak a different language? The truth is, you probably do. Every single person in the world understands love and expresses it in a different way. You might have trouble understanding each other because you express love differently. This doesn’t mean that one of you loves the other any more or less.

So how are we supposed to understand our partners if we speak different languages? Gary Chapman, relationship counselor and author, wrote a book about it – “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts.” By learning which language you speak and which language your partner speaks, you can make your relationship better.

What are the 5 Love Languages?

Advertising

1. Words of Affirmation

    If you speak this language, it means that you express love through words. Maybe you constantly affirm your love, give praise, or verbalize appreciation of your partner. Tell your partner that this is how you express your love. It also works the other way around. If you understand love through words of affirmation, make sure your significant other understands that. It’s amazing how much a comment like “thank you so much for sharing your life with me,” can make you feel.

    2. Acts of Service

    Advertising

      The ‘acts of service’ love language means that, for you, actions speak louder than words. This is usually the love language of somebody who is practical and isn’t impressed by frills. Tell your partner how much it means to you when they prepare your morning coffee, wash the dishes, or pick up around the house. And if this is your significant other’s love language, make sure to do little things for them, too! Help them get ready in the morning, pack their lunch, or get their car washed. These acts let them know you’re thinking of them.

      3. Receiving Gifts

        A lot of people think that somebody who likes receiving gifts is shallow. But, this simply isn’t true. Receiving gifts from the person you love lets you know that they took time out of their day and thought about you and how to make you happy. If this is your love language, these gifts are little tokens of love and affection. It doesn’t have to be big. Something as simple as your favorite candy bar or a single flower is enough to show that you care.

        Advertising

        4. Quality Time

          For people with this love language, time says it all. You feel on top of the world when your partner chooses to spend their day with you. And why not? In today’s world, time is a precious resource. Let the love of your life know that your love language is quality time. You need picnics at the park, walks on the beach, and weekend road trips. If this is your partner’s language, make sure to give them all the time they need to feel loved and appreciated.

          5. Physical Touch

          Advertising

            Who doesn’t love hugs and kisses? We all do, of course. But, some people need them more than others in order to feel loved. If this is you, let your partner know how safe you feel when you’re cuddled up in bed together. Just for a moment, you can forget about the rest of the world. If this is your significant other’s love language, make sure to grab their hand next time you’re at the supermarket or sit extra close at the movies. Displaying this love language can help them feel appreciated and bring the two of you closer together.

            Remember, there is no one right way to love. When you learn what your partner identifies as an expression of love, it can change your relationship. And when you start “hearing” your love language, you’ll stop feeling misunderstood. We all want and need to feel loved, that feeling just happens in a different way for different people.

            Featured Photo Credits: Couple Smiling Behind Books, Washing Car, Single Flower, People Sitting With Yellow Flowers, Couple Hugging

            More by this author

            Amber Pariona

            EFL Teacher, Lifehack Writer, English/Spanish Translator, MPA

            What Makes a Relationship Boring and How to Avoid It How to Know If You’re Really in Love or Not (Yes It Can Be Confusing) Why You and Your Partner Don’t Need to Speak the Same Love Language to Stay Together Why Worrying About Losing a Friend Is Unnecessary No.1 Relationship Killer: Your Good Intention to Advise Your Partner When They’re Upset

            Trending in Communication

            1 How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One 2 How to Have Happy Thoughts and Train Your Brain to Be Happy 3 20 All-Time Best Entrepreneur Books to Make Your Business Successful 4 How to Attain Self Realization (Step-By-Step Guide for a Better You) 5 The Power of Self-Reflection: 10 Questions You Should Ask Yourself

            Read Next

            Advertising
            Advertising
            Advertising

            Last Updated on June 13, 2019

            How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

            How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

            Think you have a boring life?

            The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

            Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

            1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

            What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

            Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

            2. Go Play with Kids

            Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

            They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

            Advertising

            3. Order a Hot Dog

            While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

            4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

            Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

            5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

            You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

            You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

            6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

            Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

            Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

            7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

            Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

            Advertising

            What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

            8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

            You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

            9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

            Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

            10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

            We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

            11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

            It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

            12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

            This will give you something to look forward to.

            Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

            Advertising

            13. People Watch

            Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

            People are infinitely interesting.

            14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

            Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

            15. Dance

            You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

            If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

            16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

            This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

            17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

            Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

            Advertising

            18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

            Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

            19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

            OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

            20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

            This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

            Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

            Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

            More About Living a Fulfilling Life

            Featured photo credit: Kev Costello via unsplash.com

            Read Next