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Be the Man You Want to Be and Attract a Great Lady in 2017

Be the Man You Want to Be and Attract a Great Lady in 2017

If you’re a guy who has been stuck single, try making this the year that you be the man you want to be and attract a great lady in 2017. Starting the year with quality movie-messages can be a great way to expand our ambitions while jolting us back on the track to our dreams. Here are 10 impactful movie clips, with messages and action steps to help you be the man you want to be in 2017.

1. Money Ball

Great leaders consciously choose priorities and principles to direct and guide their lives. They follow them despite the unconventional path it may take them on.


Action Step: What are 3 priorities or principles that would guide you to be the man you want to be? Write them down and reflect on how you can shape your life to be more in line with these values.

2. Selma

Once you’ve chosen your priorities and values, find a role model who has had the courage to live his life according to his values and principles no matter how hard it may have been.

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Action step: Do you have an inspiring role model who has chosen to stick to his or her principles no matter what? Find a picture or quote from this person and put it somewhere in clear view as a reminder for you to stay true to your values.

3. Coach Carter

Live your life for a meaningful purpose that is beyond yourself and practice loyalty toward your true friends in the process.


Action step: Who are the people who support and encourage you to be your best self? Make an effort to be with these people and to support them, too.

4. Eddie the Eagle

With your purpose in mind, set goals and dreams. Then don’t give up on them.

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Action step: If you haven’t already, set some goals, create a plan to see them through and do your best to follow it. Most importantly, if you aren’t perfect with following through on your plan, don’t let that stop you or become an excuse for you to give up completely.

5. Yes Man

Keep your mind and heart open to life and be ready to step up to help a brother (or sister) out with whatever may come up.


Action step: Take an opportunity to do something kind for someone each week without expecting anything in return.

6. October Sky

Live your own life, but don’t forget to show your ‘pops’ some heartfelt love and appreciation even if you disagree on some things.

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Action step: If your mom or dad is still around, write down 3 things you can appreciate about him or her. Feel the appreciation for this person and have a visit with them. Allow your gratitude for this person to come through in your words and presence.

7. Good Will Hunting

Knowledge is not the same thing as wisdom and arrogance is a poor cover up for lack of confidence.


Action step: Set aside some time this week, this month, and this year to take those steps that will help you be the man you want to be. Turn one or two of these actions into habits that will shape your character.

8. Love Actually

If you happen to find a great partner to spend your life with, cherish her and treat her right. Sometimes short-term pleasures are the enemies of lasting joy.

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Action step: If you haven’t already, realize the great pain that infidelity can cause, make a decision not to do it and stick to your decision.

9. Interstellar

Make room for mystery and awe. Love transcends time and space whether we understand how or not.


Action step: Create space for opportunities to experience more wonder and awe this year be it looking up at the stars, watching storms, learning how to meditate or simply choosing to enjoy more ordinary moments.

10. Van Wilder

“Don’t take life too seriously…you’ll never get out alive.” – From Van Wilder. This one might not seem to fit with the rest, but it is riddled with funny (warning: sometimes crude) pieces of advice with a few gems thrown into the mix.


Action step: Was there a time in your life where you found it easy to laugh or where you just seemed to have a great time? What could you do more of to bring that side of yourself out?

Please leave a comment below with the movies or scenes that have inspired or impacted you to be the man you want to be!

Featured photo credit: Clem Onojeghuo via unsplash.com

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My mother was a great knitter and produced some wonderful garments such as Aran sweaters which were extremely fashionable when I was young. She also knitted while my father drove, which caused great amusement. I often wondered why she did that but I think I know the answer now.

Knitting is good for your mental health, according to some research studies. The Washington Post mentions a 2013 survey of about 3,500 knitters who were asked how they felt after a knitting session. Over 80% of them said they definitely felt happier. It is not a totally female occupation as more and more men take it up to get the same benefits. Harry Styles (One Direction) enjoys knitting. So does Russell Crowe although he does it to help him with anger management!

The Neural Knitwork Project

In Australia, Neural Knitworks was started to encourage people to knit and also become aware of neuroscience and mental health issues. Knit-ins were organized but garments were not the only things created. The knitters produced handmade neurons (1,665 of them!) to make a giant brain. The 2015 project will make more neural knitted networks (neural knitworks) and they will be visible online. You can see some more examples of woolly neurons on the Neural Knitworks Facebook page.

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While people knitted, crocheted and crafted yarn, they listened to experts talking about mental health issues such as addiction, dementia, depression, and how neurons work.

The knitting and neural connection

The human brain has about 80 billion neurons. Learning new skills, social interaction, and physical activity all help to forge neural connections which keep the brain healthy and active. They are creating networks to control movement and make memories. The knitters learn that as they create the woollen neurons, their own neurons are forming new pathways in their brains. Their creations are mimicking the processes in their brains to a certain extent. At the same time, their brains are registering new and interesting information as they learn interesting facts about the brain and how it works. I love the knitworks and networks pun. What a brilliant idea!

More mental health benefits from knitting

Betsan Corkhill is a physiotherapist and has published some results of completed studies on her website, appropriately named Stitchlinks. She conducted some experiments herself and found that knitting was really helpful in reducing panic and anxiety attacks.

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“You are using up an awful lot of brain capacity to perform a coordinated series of movements. The more capacity you take up by being involved in a complex task, the less capacity you have for bad thoughts.”- Betsan Corkhill

Knitters feel happier and in a better mood

Ann Futterman-Collier, Well Being Lab at Northern Arizona University, is very interested in how textile therapy (sewing, knitting, weaving and lace-making) can play an important role in mood repair and in lifting depressive states.

She researched 60 women and divided them into three different groups to do some writing, meditating and work with textiles. She monitored their heartbeat, blood pressure and saliva production. The women in the textiles group had the best results when their mood was assessed afterwards. They were in a better mood and had managed to reduce their negative thoughts better than those in the writing and meditation groups.

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“People who were given the task to make something actually had less of an inflammatory response in the face of a ‘stressor’.” – Dr. Futterman Collier

The dopamine effect on our happiness

Our brains produce a chemical called dopamine. This helps us to feel happy, more motivated, and assists also with focus and concentration. We get a boost of dopamine after sex, food, exercise, sleep, and creative activities.

There are medications to increase dopamine but there are lots of ways we can do it naturally. Textile therapy and crafting are the easiest and cheapest. We can create something and then admire it. In addition, this allows for a little bit of praise and congratulations. Although this is likely not your goal, all these can boost our dopamine and we just feel happier and more fulfilled. These are essential in facing new challenges and coping with disappointment in life.

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“Sometimes, people come up to me when I am knitting and they say things like, “Oh, I wish I could knit, but I’m just not the kind of person who can sit and waste time like that.” How can knitting be wasting time? First, I never just knit; I knit and think, knit and listen, knit and watch. Second, you aren’t wasting time if you get a useful or beautiful object at the end of it.” – Stephanie Pearl-McPhee, At Knit’s End: Meditations for Women Who Knit Too Much.

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