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Be the Man You Want to Be and Attract a Great Lady in 2017

Be the Man You Want to Be and Attract a Great Lady in 2017

If you’re a guy who has been stuck single, try making this the year that you be the man you want to be and attract a great lady in 2017. Starting the year with quality movie-messages can be a great way to expand our ambitions while jolting us back on the track to our dreams. Here are 10 impactful movie clips, with messages and action steps to help you be the man you want to be in 2017.

1. Money Ball

Great leaders consciously choose priorities and principles to direct and guide their lives. They follow them despite the unconventional path it may take them on.


Action Step: What are 3 priorities or principles that would guide you to be the man you want to be? Write them down and reflect on how you can shape your life to be more in line with these values.

2. Selma

Once you’ve chosen your priorities and values, find a role model who has had the courage to live his life according to his values and principles no matter how hard it may have been.

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Action step: Do you have an inspiring role model who has chosen to stick to his or her principles no matter what? Find a picture or quote from this person and put it somewhere in clear view as a reminder for you to stay true to your values.

3. Coach Carter

Live your life for a meaningful purpose that is beyond yourself and practice loyalty toward your true friends in the process.


Action step: Who are the people who support and encourage you to be your best self? Make an effort to be with these people and to support them, too.

4. Eddie the Eagle

With your purpose in mind, set goals and dreams. Then don’t give up on them.

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Action step: If you haven’t already, set some goals, create a plan to see them through and do your best to follow it. Most importantly, if you aren’t perfect with following through on your plan, don’t let that stop you or become an excuse for you to give up completely.

5. Yes Man

Keep your mind and heart open to life and be ready to step up to help a brother (or sister) out with whatever may come up.


Action step: Take an opportunity to do something kind for someone each week without expecting anything in return.

6. October Sky

Live your own life, but don’t forget to show your ‘pops’ some heartfelt love and appreciation even if you disagree on some things.

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Action step: If your mom or dad is still around, write down 3 things you can appreciate about him or her. Feel the appreciation for this person and have a visit with them. Allow your gratitude for this person to come through in your words and presence.

7. Good Will Hunting

Knowledge is not the same thing as wisdom and arrogance is a poor cover up for lack of confidence.


Action step: Set aside some time this week, this month, and this year to take those steps that will help you be the man you want to be. Turn one or two of these actions into habits that will shape your character.

8. Love Actually

If you happen to find a great partner to spend your life with, cherish her and treat her right. Sometimes short-term pleasures are the enemies of lasting joy.

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Action step: If you haven’t already, realize the great pain that infidelity can cause, make a decision not to do it and stick to your decision.

9. Interstellar

Make room for mystery and awe. Love transcends time and space whether we understand how or not.


Action step: Create space for opportunities to experience more wonder and awe this year be it looking up at the stars, watching storms, learning how to meditate or simply choosing to enjoy more ordinary moments.

10. Van Wilder

“Don’t take life too seriously…you’ll never get out alive.” – From Van Wilder. This one might not seem to fit with the rest, but it is riddled with funny (warning: sometimes crude) pieces of advice with a few gems thrown into the mix.


Action step: Was there a time in your life where you found it easy to laugh or where you just seemed to have a great time? What could you do more of to bring that side of yourself out?

Please leave a comment below with the movies or scenes that have inspired or impacted you to be the man you want to be!

Featured photo credit: Clem Onojeghuo via unsplash.com

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How to Overcome Boredom

How to Overcome Boredom

Have you ever been bored? Restless? Fidgety? In need of some inspiration?

I have a theory on boredom. I believe that the rate of boredom has increased alongside the pace of technology.

If you think about it, technology has provided us with mobile phones, laptops, Ipads, device after device – all to ultimately fix one problem: boredom.

What is Boredom?

We have become a global nation that feeds on entertainment. We associate ‘living’ with ‘doing’. People now do not know how to sit still, and we feel guilty when we are not doing anything. Today, inactivity has become the ultimate sin.

You might not realize it, but boredom stimulates a form of anxiety and stress. It evokes an emotional state that creates frustration and feeds procrastination.

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It’s a desire to be ‘doing something’ or to be ‘entertained’ – it’s a desire for sensory stimulation. What it boils down to is a lack of focus.

If you think about those times when you’re bored, it’s usually because you did not know what to do. So, indecision also plays a big part.

When we are focused on what’s important to us and what we want to achieve, it’s pretty hard to be bored. So, one answer to boredom is to become focused on what you want.

Sometimes It’s Good to Be Bored

If boredom is a desire for sensory stimulation – then what’s the opposite of that? To be content with no stimulation – in other words – to enjoy stillness.

Sometimes, it’s not boredom itself that causes the frustration but the resistance to doing nothing.

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Think about it. What would happen if you were to ‘let go’ of the desire to be entertained? You wouldn’t be bored anymore, and you will feel more relaxed!

In my experience, it’s often the most obvious, simplistic solutions that are the most powerful in life. So, when you’re bored, the easiest way to combat this is to enjoy it.

It may sound weird but think of ‘boredom’ as a form of ‘relaxation’. It’s a break from the constant stimulation that 21st-century living provides – constant TVs, mobile phones, radios, internet, emails, phone calls, etc.

Who knows, maybe ‘boredom’ is actually good for us?

Next time you’re ‘feeling bored’ instead of feeding the frustration by frantically looking for something to do, maybe you can sit back, relax, and savor the feeling of having nothing to do.

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In this article, I’ll share with you my 3-step strategy on how to overcome boredom.

3-Step Strategy to Overcome Boredom

1. Get Focused

Instead of chasing sensory stimulation at random, focus on what’s really important to you. Focusing on something important helps prevent boredom because it forces you to utilize your time productively.

You should ask yourself: what would make good use of your time? What could you be doing that would contribute to your major goals in life?

Here are a few ideas:

  • Spend some time in quiet contemplation considering what’s important to you.
  • Start that creative project you’ve been talking about for the last few weeks.
  • Brainstorm: think of some ideas for new innovative products or businesses.

2. Kill Procrastination

Boredom is useful in some ways because it gives you the energy and time to do things. It is only a problem if you let it. But if you use it to motivate yourself to be productive, then you can more easily overcome boredom.

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So, the next time you’re bored, why not put this good energy to use by ticking off those things that you have been meaning to get done but have been too busy to finish? This also presents a great time for you to clear your to-do list.

Here are some ideas:

  • Do some exercise.
  • Read a book.
  • Learn something new.
  • Call a friend.
  • Get creative (draw, paint, sculpt, create music, write).
  • Do a spring cleaning.
  • Wash the car.
  • Renovate the house.
  • Re-arrange the furniture.
  • Write your shopping list.
  • Water the plants.
  • Walk the dog.
  • Sort out your mail & email.
  • De-clutter (clear out that wardrobe).

3. Enjoy Boredom

If none of the above solutions work, then you can try a different approach. Don’t give in to boredom and instead choose to enjoy it. This doesn’t mean allowing yourself to waste your time being bored. Instead, think of it as your time to relax and re-energize, which will help you be more productive the next time you work.

Contrary to popular belief, we don’t need to be constantly doing things to be productive. In fact, research has shown that people are more productive when they take periods of rest to recharge.[1] Taking breaks once in a while helps boost your performance and can help make you feel more motivated.

So, take some time to relax. You never know, you might even like it.

Final Thoughts

Learning how to overcome boredom may be difficult at the beginning, but it can be easier if you make use of some techniques. You can start with my 3-step strategy on how to overcome boredom and work your way from there. So, ready your mind and make use of these tips, and you will be overcoming boredom in no time.

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