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Everything Is Going To Be Fine In The End. If It Isn’t Fine, It Isn’t The End.

Everything Is Going To Be Fine In The End. If It Isn’t Fine, It Isn’t The End.

Sometimes a situation may seem terrible, but eventually it will end. Everyone will go through difficult times in their life; maybe your relationship has ended, maybe you have lost a loved one or maybe you are unhappy in your career and unsure about what to do next.

Many people believe that negative experiences are emotionally damaging, but this isn’t true. In reality negative experiences will make you wiser, stronger and more compassionate. If you are currently going through a difficult time, don’t worry – everything is going to be fine in the end. If it isn’t fine, it isn’t the end.

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Here are four things you can do to improve your current situation.

1. Acknowledge That You Don’t Feel Fine

When we experience pain, such as losing a loved one, it can be tempting to ignore your negative emotions to focus on something else. You don’t like the idea of crying or feeling terrible, but in reality putting it off will make the problem worse. The negative emotions won’t pass until you feel them, and if you ignore them they may turn into anger and resentment. Let yourself feel the sadness, even if you are worried that it will overwhelm you. You don’t have to rationalize your feelings; just accept that they are part of life’s journey.

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2. Talk It Out

Lots of people who are sad struggle to express their sadness to their loved ones. Their partner will ask how they are feeling, and instead of being honest they will claim to be fine. This can make the problem seem bigger as you are dealing with it alone, without any help from the people around you. If you can relate to this, try to talk it out with someone you love and trust. Another perspective is normally very helpful, and simply talking about the problem will make it seem smaller and more manageable.

3. Focus On Your Mindset

Life isn’t perfect for anyone, and everyone experiences difficult times. The only thing that really matters is how you choose to deal with problems. Some people bury their heads in the sand and ignore their problems; if their relationship is failing, they will avoid their partner rather than trying to fix the problem. This attitude may make you feel better in the moment, but it will soon make all of your problems worse.

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Try to have a positive attitude towards your problems so that you can actually solve them. It may seem like a big challenge, but in reality it is a simple choice – either you can deal with your problems or you can avoid them.

4. Deal With Today (And Don’t Worry About Tomorrow Or Yesterday)

When you are going through a difficult time it can be hard to focus on the present. Lots of people focus on past decisions that they regret, and they constantly worry about how their current problem will affect the future. This negative attitude doesn’t benefit anyone, and it will make you feel more anxious and stressed.

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Forget about the past and future so that you can focus on the present moment, and you will find that it is much easier to be positive and optimistic. Spend time with your loved ones and enjoy their company, and smile when something amuses you. You may still feel sad, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy happiness when you find it.

We all go through difficult times in life, and you should embrace the negative things that have happened to you. This will help you to accept the situation so that you can deal with the problem and find happiness. You may not feel fine now, but everything is going to be fine.

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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