“Whatever makes you uncomfortable is your biggest opportunity for growth.” ~Bryant McGill
He silently packed his bags. Brushing passed her, he walked out the door and never looked back. Stephanie fell to her knees, shaking uncontrollably as muffled sobs escaped her body. The pain was unbearable.
She had two babies- the oldest five and the youngest three. What was she going to do? She had no job, no experience and no marketable skills.Advertising
Six months passed and still he wouldn’t return her calls. The house was in foreclosure, the car was in danger of being repossessed, and she was down to the last $100 in her savings account. Thoughts of suicide incessantly lingered on the fringes of her thoughts invading them more each day, but she had those two babies.
Then one day the tears dried up. The hurt and devastation morphed into anger and determination. She would come through this. She would not just survive. She would thrive- for her two babies!
It took seven years. She lost the house and had to live with friends. She worked two full-time jobs, cleaned houses on weekends, and earned an online degree. She struggled, she suffered, she cried, but she kept going- because of her two babies.Advertising
Stephanie became the Chief Operating Officer (COO) of a fortune five hundred company and makes well over six figures. She repaired her credit, bought a new home, fully funded her two babies’ college funds, and is preparing to start her own company. She is the hero to her two babies.
“Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you are climbing it.” ~Andy Rooney
Most of us mistakenly believe that happiness is the absence of heartache and struggle. We desire a life of comfort and ease, void of difficulty. However, the truth of the matter is that happiness–true gratification– is shrouded in struggle and facing challenges gives us the traction needed to move forward and live purpose-driven lives. A few fundamental changes always accompany personal growth. There are three hard truths about personal growth and development.Advertising
1. Change is a big part of growth.
Stephanie had to change (although the change was forced upon her) to achieve what she did. The experience of being left by her husband and losing almost everything changed who she was. She had to adapt and overcome. Don’t be afraid of change and don’t run from challenges because every challenge is an opportunity for growth.
2. Pressure and struggle are the fertilizers of growth.
Consider bodybuilding as an example. The basic strategy for building muscle is to keep lifting heavier weights. The stress you put on your muscles is what helps them increase in size and strength. The opposite is also true. Avoiding struggle is the quickest way to stunt your personal growth, become stagnant, ensure that you never fully optimize your potential, and doom yourself to a life of mediocrity.
3. You learn more from failure than you do from success.
Failure is the best way to learn and grow. When you fail at something you usually analyze both the situation and your efforts to try to determine what went wrong. Failure makes you think. It makes you assess and it makes you change. Success feels good but it reinforces what you are already doing. It causes little thought, assessment, or change.Advertising
Life’s inherent challenges are what make it possible to thrive. Pain produces progress. Without challenges and the weight of your own personal load there would be nothing to overcome, nothing to achieve, nothing that could bring you happiness. You can’t appreciate the good without experiencing the sting of the bad. Bad is what makes “good” good!
Last Updated on June 23, 2019
20 Things People Regret the Most Before They Die
Close your eyes and imagine that you’re at your own funeral—a bit morbid I know, but there’s a reason for it. Now think about what you’d like people to say about you. What kind of a life do you want to lead? People die with all kinds of regrets. Don’t be one of them.
1. I wish I’d cared less about what other people think.
It’s only when you realise how little other people are really thinking of you (in a negative sense) that you realise how much time you spent caring and wasting energy worrying about this.
2. I wish I had accomplished more.
You don’t have to have won an Oscar, built up a business or run a marathon, but having small personal accomplishments is important.
3. I wish I had told __ how I truly felt.
Even if the “one” doesn’t exist, telling someone how you truly feel will always save you from that gut wrenching”but what if…” feeling that could linger for life if you stay quiet.
4. I wish I had stood up for myself more.
Sometimes, it’s too easy to think that if you go all out to please everyone you’ll be liked more or your partner won’t run off with anyone else. I think age probably teaches us to be nice but not at the expense of our own happiness.
5. I wish I had followed my passion in life.
It’s so easy to be seduced by a stable salary, a solid routine and a comfortable life, but at what expense?
6. I wish our last conversation hadn’t been an argument.
Life is short, and you never really know when the last time you speak to someone you love will be. It’s these moments that really stay clear in peoples’ minds.
7. I wish I had let my children grow up to be who they wanted to be.
The realisation that love, compassion and empathy are so much more important than clashes in values or belief systems can hit home hard.
8. I wish I had lived more in the moment.
Watching children grow up makes you realise how short-lived and precious time really is, and as we age, many of us live less and less in the present.
9. I wish I had worked less.
There’s always a desire to have loosened up a bit more with this one and the realisation that financial success or career accomplishment doesn’t necessarily equal a fulfilled life.
10. I wish I had traveled more.
It can be done at any age, with kids or not but many talk themselves out of it for all kinds of reasons such as lack of money, mortgage, children, etc. When there’s a regret, you know it could have been possible at some stage.
11. I wish I had trusted my gut rather than listening to everyone else.
Making your own decisions and feeling confident in the decisions you make gives us fulfilment and joy from life. Going against your gut only breeds resentment and bitterness.
12. I wish I’d taken better care of myself.
Premature health problems or ageing always makes you wonder if you’d eaten healthier, exercised more and been less stressed, would you be where you are today?
13. I wish I’d taken more risks.
Everyone has their own idea of what’s risky, but you know when you’re living too much in your comfort zone. In hindsight, some people feel they missed out on a lot of adventure life has to offer.
14. I wish I’d had more time.
Many people say time speeds up as we age. The six weeks of summer holidays we had as kids certainly seemed to last a lifetime. If time speeds up, then it’s even more important to make the most of every moment.
15. I wish I hadn’t worried so much.
If you’ve ever kept a diary and looked back, you’ll probably wonder why you ever got so worked up over X.
16. I wish I’d appreciated ___ more.
The consequences of taking people for granted are always hard to deal with.
17. I wish I’d spent more time with my family.
Some people get caught up with work, move to other parts of the world, grow old with grudges against family members only to realise their priorities were in the wrong place.
18. I wish I hadn’t taken myself so seriously.
Life is just more fun when you can laugh at yourself.
19. I wish I’d done more for other people.
Doing things for others just makes life more meaningful.
20. I wish I could have felt happier.
The realisation that happiness is a state of mind that you can control sometimes doesn’t occur to people until it’s too late.