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He Approached The Homeless Man With A Selfish Reason, But Learned Selfless Love From Him In The End

He Approached The Homeless Man With A Selfish Reason, But Learned Selfless Love From Him In The End

What’s the most soul satisfying thing you’ve done in your life so far? This man Adam August shared the experience on Quora of how he approached a homeless man just for the sake of killing time, but end up helping his homeless mate gain a new life in 2 weeks. And most importantly, he learned what selfless love truly means from this unexpected experience. Let’s read the amazing story and see what inspiration you can get from it:

    I’ve seen this guy at Starbucks in Marin City several times. Every time I’d see him I’d tell myself that I would take him to lunch but always found an excuse not to. Today was different. It might have been selfish but I was lonely. I didn’t want to spend the whole day alone. I walked up to him, put my hand on his shoulder and said “ do you want to have lunch with me?”

    Tarec Atkinson was born and raised in Jamaica. When he was a kid, he dreamt of being a famous futbol (soccer) player. He was recruited to play in school but never got the opportunity because of some trouble he got in as a teenager. He moved to the states 8 years ago and has spent the last 12 months living in a tent by the side of the freeway. Tarec goes days without eating, sometimes living off of the berries he picks, he spends 90% of his time alone and has no friends and no family in the states.

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    After hearing it had been a month since he bathed, I brought him back to my apartment so he could enjoy a hot shower. Because of all these hardships, trying to get a job is impossible. How can you fill out an application when you haven’t eaten in days? I told Tarec that I would drive around with him next week and help him fill out applications and even speak on his behalf to help him land a job so he can get back on his feet. We agreed to meet that Friday at 9:30 AM at Starbucks.

    If we were going to make this happen, I knew we had to get Tarec some new clothes. We stopped at Ross so he could pick out a shirt and some slacks. I was blown away at the immediate change in his demeanor. His smile was radiant, he stood up straighter, and even walked with a swagger.

      I couldn’t convince him to tuck in his shirt. I guess you win some and you lose some haha.

      Next step was to hit the streets. We spent the next two days going door to door to see who was hiring. We went to Walgreens, CVS, Safeway, Home Depot, Molly Stones, and Starbucks just to name a few. I would walk in with him so he knew he wasn’t alone. It can be overwhelming to walk into a business and ask for a job. I was very proud of him. We had a few positive responses but the majority of business’s told us that applications were submitted online. Easy enough right?

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      Wrong.

      Tarec doesn’t have a computer. So we went to the local library and began filling out applications. And let me tell you something. We take our computer literacy for granted. Watching him struggle to fill out an application put so much into perspective for me. Some people judge our homeless. We’ve all heard someone say “why don’t they just get a job?” or “they’re lazy”. I saw firsthand how the “system” is set up to fail people like Tarec. There is no way he would have been able to do any of this without my help. Just like there are many things in my life I have needed someone to help me overcome an obstacle. We all need a little help.

        After week of phone interviews Tarec landed an in person interview at Safeway. I remember driving to Safeway being nervous. I looked over to him and asked how he was feeling. He looked back at me and said “I got this”. I believed him.

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        I dropped him off, wished him luck and waited. 20 minutes later, I see him walk out of Safeway with a big smile and a thumbs up. I let out a Rick Flair sounding “WOO!”. We had accomplished a lot together in two weeks. It was an incredible moment.

            Obviously we had to celebrate with a little ice cream! :)

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            Like we all are, Tarec is searching for a purpose in life. He yearns for happiness. He craves for a woman to love and to feel the love from a woman. He wants to create a better life for himself so he could one day have a family and stability. He is just like you and me.

            My hope in sharing this story is that it will inspire others to spread LOVE. We all need help in one way or another. Sometimes all someone needs is a friend. Thank you for taking the time to read my story.

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            10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

            10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

            The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

            In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

            Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

            1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

            What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

            Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

            2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

            Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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            How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

            Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

            Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

            3. Get comfortable with discomfort

            One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

            Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

            4. See failure as a teacher

            Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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            Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

            Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

            10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

            5. Take baby steps

            Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

            Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

            Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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            6. Hang out with risk takers

            There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

            Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

            7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

            Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

            Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

            8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

            What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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            9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

            Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

            If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

            10. Focus on the fun

            Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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