Here are 7 secrets to a successful life that can be learned from Tony Robbins and his career:
1. Mindfulness
To practice mindfulness, Tony has been channeling his energy by using practices that have been around for more than millennia and used by cultures around the world, and for good reason. They lower blood pressure, reduce anxiety, and improve overall health. Itβs no wonder Tony uses priming exercises every morning!One such practice is called Enlightenment, which began in India more than 2,500 years ago.
2. Raise Standards
Change comes from inside. It doesnβt matter what you do in life, you are not going to improve yourself unless you change and change begins within. Who gives a damn about achieving goals if you arenβt fulfilled when you do?Fulfill yourself by setting your standards way above what you think you can do.
3. Reset Mind & Mood
Tony has made the distinction between peak performance and poor performance clear and believes the difference is the state your body and mind is in.If your body and mind arenβt synced, your performance will suffer, and you wonβt go anywhere. Think about times youβre sad, depressed, or feel like giving up - how productive are you? Do you feel like moving, or doing anything? I certainly don't.
Itβs important to recognize when youβre in a sour mood and evaluate your bodyβs posture. Are you slouched over? Stand up straight. Sporting a frown? Why not try faking a smile? How we feel reflects how we stand β itβs that link between our brain and our body. Thatβs why confident, happy people (such as Tony Robbins) are always upright.
4. Let Go
Thereβs no way you can completely let go of a past thatβs scarred you. When someoneβs wronged us, we tend to hold onto that for years and years and years. Time passes and that grudge has seeded so deep in our subconscious that they affect us without our realizing it.Weβre keeping all of the negative energy balled up in us, right? So, let it go. The past canβt be changed and what happened to you is not the you that you are today. It doesnβt affect your outcome today. So, let go.
Itβs time to face reality: the past canβt be changed. Sure, you can look at the bad things that have happened you differently, but at the end of the day, they still canβt be changed. Center your time and focus on what youβre doing now to make a more efficient you for tomorrow.
Realize your sense of worth by evaluating what is important to you. What do you enjoy doing?
5. Look Confident
You know the conventional wisdom, βDonβt judge a book by its cover?" As good as it is, itβs pure bologna. People form impressions and opinions of you the moment they see you. They make judgments about the way you move, the way you walk, talk, and breathe.How are your shoulders? If theyβre slouched or crouched, fix them. Align your spine upright.
Do you tend to fidget a lot? Play with your hands, clothes, hair, or constantly shift? These movements give you the air that youβre uncomfortable, which is bad news in the eyes of people who seek to judge you.
Howβs your eye contact? Holding eye contact in conversations is a tremendously successful way of showing two things: 1) Youβre actively listening to whatβs being said, and 2) Youβre not afraid. Most people look down, off to the side, or anywhere except who theyβre talking to.
Standing like Superman for two minutes changes you psychologically, too. When you feel more capable handling situations, you start believing in yourself β and your thoughts change. Why? Body language.
Body language is a subtle communication between people. Thatβs why some of the most successful executives seem larger than life β their confidence is astronomical because of their body language. This gives their communication so much meaning.
People will sense this, on a subconscious level, and respect you more because youβre giving them non-verbal cues that you know exactly what youβre worth, as well as what youβre doing.
6. Handle Stress
Believe it or not, how most people handle emotions can be summed up in four basic ways:- We avoid them. We mentally, spiritually, and emotionally shut ourselves off to whatβs happening and refuse to admit whatβs going on. Some people often do this to not feel anything at all. Happiness, sadness, stress - they run from it. This keeps people from experiencing honest love when itβs right in front of them and keeps them in a shell, cutting off the very things life is made of.
- We deny them. No! No! No! We donβt believe weβre experiencing those negative emotions, like a loved oneβs passing. This restraint often multiplies in intensity, and the stronger you bottle those emotions up, what happens? Thatβs right, you explode and lose control of yourself.
- We compete with the misery of other people. How many times, when someoneβs shared an experience with you, you tried to one-up them? Say your friend lost their puppy. βOh yeah?β We say, βThatβs tragic. Reminds me of the time I lost my baby.β Or what about the time someone in your life had something incredible to them? A lot of people, from whom Iβve talked to, couldnβt let it happen. So, they shared their own experiences of happiness, instead of letting their friend enjoy the bonus. This competition helps nobody. Itβs fruitless and isnβt the path to spiritual, or emotional growth.
- They learn from pain, and they learn from stress to better themselves β to challenge themselves and find those incremental shifts in perception, to handle situations later down the road. This is the truth: problems, sorrows, and obstacles are hidden βsecretsβ the universe puts before us to get farther in life.
7. Control Emotions
Controlling our emotions is no easy feat and itβs a struggle a lot of us deal with everyday. The amount of people in the world who donβt realize their potential and arenβt fulfilled because they donβt believe in themselves, and are divorced or their spouse leaves and their job performance is suffering - itβs enough to make anybody crack. And the more I realize this, the more I see this with my own eyes, the harder it is for me to see. I break down.Thatβs why a super-fast way to take control of my emotions (and you can too) is by:
- Identifying what Iβm feeling.
- Acknowledging these emotions, and thanking God Iβm still alive to feel.
- Figuring out whatβs going on: Iβm experiencing this for a reason, right? What is this reason.
- Remembering how youβve gotten over it before.
- Knowing we can handle this emotion in the future, again, by dealing with it today.





