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Clever People Live A Microlife While Busy People Live A Linear Life. Which One Are You Living?

Clever People Live A Microlife While Busy People Live A Linear Life. Which One Are You Living?

Happiness is what we all strive for in life. We are told, and often dictated by society, which way is best when it comes to how we should lead our lives in order to get the best outcome. Of course, we are all different and diverse in our ways of thinking and have opinions on how we should live our own lives but how willing are we to see things from another perspective?

Living a linear way is the most common approach we adopt to deal with life. This, for example, could mean studying hard while we’re young, working hard in our jobs and make sure we are married by a certain age. While all these benefit us in certain ways, it can sometimes lead us to unhappiness especially if we struggle to study, work hard in a job we don’t enjoy or reach that certain age and still haven’t met the right person.

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A linear life has a tendency to dictate how ‘successful’ you are. It gives people guidelines that can’t always be met and don’t take into account that life is unpredictable and unexpected.

Why A Linear Life Isn’t Always The Best

Not only does leading a linear life put pressure on us to achieve goals by a certain time, it creates a mindset where we blind to other opportunities that are there for the taking. We tend to focus on the one path we set out for ourselves and we rarely venture away from the ‘norm’.

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When we’re young, we usually rebel against walking in a linear path and we live more in the moment. We have more of a tendency to explore and embrace the journey more in order to find out about ourselves either consciously or subconsciously. But once we’re older, this often gets forgotten and we can easily slip into the rigid, expectancy of adult life.

The Regret of Living a Linear Life

Living a carved-out linear path can often cause regrets later on. We believe happiness will come once we’ve worked hard and created a nice pot of money and only then relax and enjoy life. We believe we’ll be happy when we’ve met our soulmate and checked off another goal on our list because that’s what’s expected of us.

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It’s a big cliché when people say it’s all about the journey but that’s exactly what creates a full life; not having our heads down, sacrificing the now in order to fulfill the end cause. By doing this we can miss huge opportunities to grow and develop ourselves and give us the chance to obtain sufficient self-understanding.

Don’t get me wrong, living a linear life can suit some people and can provide a certain structure that someone can adhere to but if this is you and you’re not entirely happy with your life, it might be time to gain a different perspective and consider the benefits of living more in the present moment.

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The Benefits of Living a Microlife

Living a microlife is all about living every day as though it’s your last day – that doesn’t mean quitting your job and going on a permanent holiday – it means finding the right balance in every aspect of your life. For example, don’t make your job your whole life, don’t make having money the be all and end all of your happiness, don’t be afraid to follow a different career path, or don’t settle for that okay relationship just because you feel it’s about time you settled down already.

The advantage of this more open way of living is that we are living in the moment and adopting a mindset where you expect life to change and embrace different paths that life has to offer you – that’s it’s okay to go off the beaten track. By contrast, a well-planned linear life can’t prepare you for the uncertainties that life throws at you nor can it prepare you for disruptions that inevitably come up.

So try and ignore the fear, change your mindset and perspective on how to live your life. Embrace each moment and create a balance in all areas of your life and most of all expect and embrace change – trust that the change or the different way of life is there to help you grow and live the ultimate happy life you deserve!

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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