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3 Times Men Took Credit for Women’s Accomplishments

3 Times Men Took Credit for Women’s Accomplishments

If, like me, you watched the five proposals that took place during the recent Olympics in Rio and felt that what should have been a proud moment celebrating years of hard work and dedication was overshadowed by their partner’s need to take some of the credit, or lay claim to their prize in public, then Chinese diver Qin Kai’s proposal to his silver medalist girlfriend He Zi, during her medal ceremony would have proven a particularly uncomfortable viewing.

Despite the fact that she said “yes,” this one, of all the public declarations of love, felt inappropriate. This was compounded by the fact that He Zi herself seemed less than jubilant at the sudden interruption of what was probably already the best moment of her life. Qin’s storming of the stage during his girlfriend’s well-deserved moment of celebration, whatever the intent, stole focus from all of the medalists and threw the spotlight on a man during these women’s big moments — not to mention that Qin Kai had enjoyed his own interruption-free ceremony earlier that day when he won a bronze medal.

This is not the only time that a man has stolen a woman’s thunder. In fact there are several times when men have seen fit to jump in and take credit for women’s accomplishments, or steal focus during their big moment.

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1. Kanye and Taylor

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    No one can forget the time that Kanye West stormed the stage at the 2009 Video Music Awards and interrupted Taylor Swift’s acceptance speech for Best Female Video. Mistakenly believing that he was in charge of deciding which woman should get the accolade, the rapper took the microphone from a fresh faced T-Swizz and claimed Beyonce had “one of the best videos of all time.” This was a claim which the VMAs clearly seconded as they awarded her Video of the Year, later that night. Beyonce then donated her time on stage to Taylor, effectively meaning that two famous females were denied their moment of glory thanks to Yeezy.

    But it was earlier this year that Kanye really stole Tay Tay’s thunder. On his track “Famous” the rapper claimed that Swift’s career and position as one of the most successful pop stars of all time was actually all thanks to him, claiming “I made that b**** famous.” Luckily, Taylor got revenge earlier this year, ironically during her acceptance speech after winning a Grammy for “Album of the Year,” saying:

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    “I want to say to all the young women out there: there are going to be people along the way who will try to undercut your success or take credit for your accomplishments or your fame. But if you just focus on the work and you don’t let those people sidetrack you, someday when you get where you’re going, you’ll look around and you will know that it was you and the people who love you who put you there. And that will be the greatest feeling in the world. Thank you for this moment.”

    2. Laura Olin and the Men of Twitter

    During Hillary Clinton’s historic acceptance of the Democratic nomination a few weeks ago, writer and Democratic strategist Laura Olin tweeted a clever meme summing up the importance of the last two Democratic candidates for diversity in the otherwise old, male and pale lineup. However, it was widely noted that shortly after that, many men started to post the exact same tweet, without crediting Laura as the source.

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      Twitter etiquette demands that original content is credited, and the irony of a woman posting a celebration of women’s accomplishments only for it to be stolen and posted by a man, was not lost on the rest of twitter.

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        3. Donald Trump and Lady Gaga

        What would a list of men being unfair to women be without a reference to Donald Trump? In his 2011 book, Trump claimed that he had “at least something to do with” the phenomenal success of singer Lady Gaga. He claimed that: “She became a big star and maybe she became a star because I put her on the Miss Universe pageant. It’s very possible, who knows what would have happened without it, because she caused a sensation.”

        Not only is this a completely deluded view of his influence, but also a completely skewed understanding of his audience base, as it is debatable that many would-be “Little Monsters” tuned into the Miss Universe pageant.

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          How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

          How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

          Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

          You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

          Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

          1. Work on the small tasks.

          When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

          Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

          2. Take a break from your work desk.

          Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

          Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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          3. Upgrade yourself

          Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

          The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

          4. Talk to a friend.

          Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

          Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

          5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

          If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

          Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

          Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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          6. Paint a vision to work towards.

          If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

          Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

          Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

          7. Read a book (or blog).

          The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

          Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

          Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

          8. Have a quick nap.

          If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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          9. Remember why you are doing this.

          Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

          What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

          10. Find some competition.

          Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

          Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

          11. Go exercise.

          Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

          Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

          As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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          Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

          12. Take a good break.

          Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

          Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

          Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

          Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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