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3 Times Men Took Credit for Women’s Accomplishments

3 Times Men Took Credit for Women’s Accomplishments

If, like me, you watched the five proposals that took place during the recent Olympics in Rio and felt that what should have been a proud moment celebrating years of hard work and dedication was overshadowed by their partner’s need to take some of the credit, or lay claim to their prize in public, then Chinese diver Qin Kai’s proposal to his silver medalist girlfriend He Zi, during her medal ceremony would have proven a particularly uncomfortable viewing.

Despite the fact that she said “yes,” this one, of all the public declarations of love, felt inappropriate. This was compounded by the fact that He Zi herself seemed less than jubilant at the sudden interruption of what was probably already the best moment of her life. Qin’s storming of the stage during his girlfriend’s well-deserved moment of celebration, whatever the intent, stole focus from all of the medalists and threw the spotlight on a man during these women’s big moments — not to mention that Qin Kai had enjoyed his own interruption-free ceremony earlier that day when he won a bronze medal.

This is not the only time that a man has stolen a woman’s thunder. In fact there are several times when men have seen fit to jump in and take credit for women’s accomplishments, or steal focus during their big moment.

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1. Kanye and Taylor

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    No one can forget the time that Kanye West stormed the stage at the 2009 Video Music Awards and interrupted Taylor Swift’s acceptance speech for Best Female Video. Mistakenly believing that he was in charge of deciding which woman should get the accolade, the rapper took the microphone from a fresh faced T-Swizz and claimed Beyonce had “one of the best videos of all time.” This was a claim which the VMAs clearly seconded as they awarded her Video of the Year, later that night. Beyonce then donated her time on stage to Taylor, effectively meaning that two famous females were denied their moment of glory thanks to Yeezy.

    But it was earlier this year that Kanye really stole Tay Tay’s thunder. On his track “Famous” the rapper claimed that Swift’s career and position as one of the most successful pop stars of all time was actually all thanks to him, claiming “I made that b**** famous.” Luckily, Taylor got revenge earlier this year, ironically during her acceptance speech after winning a Grammy for “Album of the Year,” saying:

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    “I want to say to all the young women out there: there are going to be people along the way who will try to undercut your success or take credit for your accomplishments or your fame. But if you just focus on the work and you don’t let those people sidetrack you, someday when you get where you’re going, you’ll look around and you will know that it was you and the people who love you who put you there. And that will be the greatest feeling in the world. Thank you for this moment.”

    2. Laura Olin and the Men of Twitter

    During Hillary Clinton’s historic acceptance of the Democratic nomination a few weeks ago, writer and Democratic strategist Laura Olin tweeted a clever meme summing up the importance of the last two Democratic candidates for diversity in the otherwise old, male and pale lineup. However, it was widely noted that shortly after that, many men started to post the exact same tweet, without crediting Laura as the source.

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      Twitter etiquette demands that original content is credited, and the irony of a woman posting a celebration of women’s accomplishments only for it to be stolen and posted by a man, was not lost on the rest of twitter.

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        3. Donald Trump and Lady Gaga

        What would a list of men being unfair to women be without a reference to Donald Trump? In his 2011 book, Trump claimed that he had “at least something to do with” the phenomenal success of singer Lady Gaga. He claimed that: “She became a big star and maybe she became a star because I put her on the Miss Universe pageant. It’s very possible, who knows what would have happened without it, because she caused a sensation.”

        Not only is this a completely deluded view of his influence, but also a completely skewed understanding of his audience base, as it is debatable that many would-be “Little Monsters” tuned into the Miss Universe pageant.

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          The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

          Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

          your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

            Why You Need a Vision

            Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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            How to Create Your Life Vision

            Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

            What Do You Want?

            The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

            It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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            Some tips to guide you:

            • Remember to ask why you want certain things
            • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
            • Give yourself permission to dream.
            • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
            • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

            Some questions to start your exploration:

            • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
            • What would you like to have more of in your life?
            • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
            • What are your secret passions and dreams?
            • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
            • What do you want your relationships to be like?
            • What qualities would you like to develop?
            • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
            • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
            • What would you most like to accomplish?
            • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

            It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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            What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

            Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

            A few prompts to get you started:

            • What will you have accomplished already?
            • How will you feel about yourself?
            • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
            • What does your ideal day look like?
            • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
            • What would you be doing?
            • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
            • How are you dressed?
            • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
            • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
            • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

            It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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            Plan Backwards

            It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

            • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
            • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
            • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
            • What important actions would you have had to take?
            • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
            • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
            • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
            • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
            • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

            Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

            It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

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