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There Is Nothing Permanent Except Change

There Is Nothing Permanent Except Change

There is nothing is permanent except change. – Heraclitus

Heraclitus, the Greek philosopher maintained that change is the only reality in nature. We’ve all made changes in our lives, both good and bad, expected and unexpected. Relationships, circumstances, and feelings change. Nobody is ever exactly the same in each moment.

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But are the unplanned and unexpected changes bad? What if all changes were good by default?

Every change we make leads us somewhere new. For example, I once got fired from a job that I really needed to support my family. I was completely blindsided at first. However, there was no room for growth, and the work was boring. After the shock wore off, I found that I was actually relieved. Yes, I struggled to make ends meet, but eventually I found a job that I truly enjoyed.

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Why some people won’t change

People are resistant to change. It might be out of fear or they’re just set in their ways and don’t see a need for change. However, sometimes change is inevitable to move forward in life. We all know at least one person who is set in their ways. With these people,I find it best just to let them be. Change could benefit them greatly, but they just won’t do it.

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    Refusal of any type of change can have negative side effects.

    • The managers who refuse to change their management style and can’t keep employees
    • The workaholic who loses his family because he wouldn’t make
      time for them.
    • The stubborn person so set in their ways they have an old duct-taped flip phone that only makes random calls, then they complain about nobody calling them.
    • The person who is always complaining about being sick, but refuses to see a doctor.

    You aren’t going to change the mind of anyone who has considered making a change and decided that it won’t work for them. The more you force change on them, the more they will actively resist you. If they say they won’t change, believe them. The person may come around in time if they see how the change can help, or they never accept the change and you just deal with it.

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    What will happen then when you embrace changes?

    1. Personal growth: We learn new things every time we make a change. We can discover new insights about life, learn life lessons, and grow. Every change is a step closer to where we wanted to be.
    2. Flexibility: When we make changes often, we learn to easily adapt to new situations, new environments, and new people. As a result, we adjust to unexpected changes with ease.
    3. Improvements: We’d all love to improve our lives, whether it’s finances, career, partner, house, etc. We already know that nothing improves on its own. Doing things differently will make that happen. If we don’t make changes, we can’t improve.
    4. The Snowball Effect: We often give up because the thought of making a huge change is too daunting, and we are afraid we can’t accomplish it. That is when small changes come in handy. One small change at a time will eventually lead to the desired outcome.
    5. Strength: Not all changes we make are good. Sometimes, bad things happen too. It’s overcoming the challenges that make us stronger.
    6. Opportunities: We never know what each change will bring. When you stray from your usual path, new opportunities are waiting for you around the corner. Changes will bring new choices for happiness, progress, and bring us closer to our goals.
    7. A Fresh Start: Each time we make a change, we are turning the page on one chapter, and starting a new one. Changes bring fresh excitement to our lives.

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    Last Updated on August 16, 2018

    10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

    10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

    The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

    In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

    Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

    1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

    What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

    Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

    2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

    Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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    How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

    Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

    Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

    3. Get comfortable with discomfort

    One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

    Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

    4. See failure as a teacher

    Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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    Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

    Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

    10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

    5. Take baby steps

    Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

    Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

    Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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    The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

    6. Hang out with risk takers

    There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

    Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

    7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

    Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

    Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

    8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

    What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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    9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

    Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

    If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

    10. Focus on the fun

    Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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