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50 Small Acts That Make Your Partner Feel Loved In A Relationship

50 Small Acts That Make Your Partner Feel Loved In A Relationship
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“Love doesn’t make the world go ’round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.”~Franklin P. Jones

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Romantic relationships seem to require a lot of time and energy once the initial honeymoon stage is over. Keeping the spark in a relationship doesn’t have to entail big, elaborate declarations of love. It’s actually the little things that make your partner feel most loved.

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Here are 50 small thoughtful ideas that can make your spouse feel loved and valued:

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  1. Buy a small “just because” present outside of a special occasion.
  2. Recreate his/her favorite restaurant meal at home.
  3. Say “thank you” and acknowledge the little things your partner does.
  4. Give encouraging words of affirmation on really tough days at work.
  5. Write “I love you” on a slip of paper and hide it in her purse or his pocket.
  6. Hold hands in public.
  7. Plan a surprise lunch date.
  8. Quickly apologize after making a mistake.
  9. Let your partner have his / her way occasionally without a fuss.
  10. Let him / her win an argument.
  11. Take lessons together (the type of lessons don’t matter).
  12. Give your partner a foot rub.
  13. Allow your partner to have space on really tough days.
  14. Say random “I love you” throughout the day.
  15. Seek to do at least one nice thing or random act of kindness for your partner each day.
  16. Give your partner a 20-minute back massage.
  17. Run a hot bubble bath complete with candles and soft music–just for him / her and allow your partner to soak as long as he / she desires.
  18. Read a book together. Take turns reading to each other.
  19. Watch your partner’s favorite show with them and be genuinely interested.
  20. Try an activity that neither one of you are familiar with or have ever tried.
  21. Cook breakfast together.
  22. Wash your partner’s car (or have it professionally detailed–it’s the thought that counts).
  23. Take a couple’s yoga class together.
  24. Play a board game together.
  25. Share your goals and dreams with one another.
  26. Create a few goals together as a couple.
  27. Take an unplanned vacation together.
  28. Skip work together and lay in bed, watch cartoons and eat cereal all day.
  29. Volunteer together.
  30. Go for a walk together.
  31. Hop in the car, turn off the GPS and get lost together.
  32. Do each other’s hair.
  33. Let her give him a shave and let him do her make up–but don’t go out in public like that…
  34. Keep at least one of your spouse’s favorite snacks on hand at all times.
  35. Buy each other an outfit–and actually wear them in public.
  36. Wear matching socks or underwear.
  37. Go on a bike ride together.
  38. Kiss each other hello and good bye.
  39. Fill your partner’s car up with gas.
  40. Tell your partner that he / she is hot.
  41. Ladies be one of the fellas for the night and hang out with him and watch sports or go to a ball game. Fellas become her girlfriend for the evening and participate in one of her “girly” activities.
  42. Bring your partner breakfast in bed.
  43. Write him / her a sweet note in steam on the mirror while he / she showers.
  44. Let your partner sleep in.
  45. Do a chore that he / she usually does.
  46. On movie night, let your partner choose.
  47. Ask your partner what makes him/her feel the most special and then do it.
  48. Call your partner in the middle of the day just to say “I love you”.
  49. Develop a secret code for “I love you” and use it in public when you are not close enough to say it verbally.
  50. Plan an evening for your partner– from start to finish–with multiple activities and pay special attention to ensuring all the details show that everything was tailor made just for him/her.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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