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13 Books To Read Before Turning 30 That Can Make Your Life Much Better

13 Books To Read Before Turning 30 That Can Make Your Life Much Better
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1. The Intelligent Investor

The Inteliigent Investor

    When Warren Buffet endorses as a book as “the best book on investing ever written”, you pay attention.

    This book focuses more on loss minimization rather than profit maximization. It focuses on the fundamentals and basics of smart financial investing to help its readers understand the market.

    2. Rich Dad Poor Dad

    Rich Dad Poor Dad

      This unique book is one title amongst many the seeks to teach financial literacy not shown in everyday school.

      Books such as this allow you to take away another meaning of being financially successful in life. Letting your money work for you, not the other way around.

      3. Man’s Search for Meaning

      Mans search for meaning

        Man’s Search for Meaning takes place in an Auschwitz Concentration Camp during World War 2.

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        While the book focuses on the author’s time there, the underlying message focuses on hope and determination being the keys to getting through difficult situations. Viktor Frankl captures the picture in only the way someone who lived through it could.

        4. The 48 Laws of Power

        The 48 Laws of power

          The book takes its lessons from 3000 years of history.

          It’s been read by CEO’s, Millionaires and Celebrities to help them get ahead. While the tactics focus on a world built around you and paint things in a dark light, many of the laws cannot be denied.

          5. On The Road

          On the Road

            Jack Kerouac paints a vivid picture of his life as a beatnik in the 50’s.

            Based on experiences in his life, his character Sal Paradise as a “beat”. A word which Jack describes as being at the bottom of your personality and looking up. On the Road is a must read for anyone who who wonder what life was like for other generations of youth.

            6.  Zero to One

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            Zero to One

              “There is no more frontiers”.

              This quote has been uttered by many, many people who wished to make their mark on the world but had no idea how. This book’s focus is to help people understand that this is a misconception. It helps readers think on the best way to innovate and think critically!

               7. Awaken the Giant Within

              Awaken the Giant Within

                Awaken the Giant Within was written by Tony Robbins to give you the necessary tools to help inspire change in your life.

                Tony is an expert in change, and his main focus is to help you build the life that you’re looking for, to inspire the change that you so desperately want.

                8. The Richest Man in Babylon

                The Richest Man in Babylon Cover

                  George Clason wrote this book to help increase people’s ability for Common Sense.

                  He states that Common Sense is not the same as common knowledge. As a result wished to help people understand exactly what common sense is in the workplace. This book is a must have for those wishing to understand the true essence of business.

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                  9. Oh, The Places You’ll Go

                  Oh The Places Youll Go

                    What? A Dr. Seuss Book? How can this book help when you’re in your 20’s?

                    This book is a cleverly disguised read that actually helps people understand that feeling lost as an adult is normal! Life is complicated and filled with doors, this book helps you realize that being unsure of yourself is perfectly okay.

                    10. How to Cook Everything

                    How to Cook Everything Cover

                      Who doesn’t need a good cookbook? How to cook everything is equipped with 1000 meals to help you achieve freedom at home.

                      At some point our lives we all need to be able to cook and fend for ourselves. So this book is a great start to help you reach that goal.

                      11. Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

                      GRIT-book-cover

                        Angela Duckworth puts forth an interesting theory in this book.

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                        She states that success is not talent-based, but is based on persistence and passion. It is true that even a small voice can make big waves, and her books are a must read for those wishing to achieve more in their lives!

                        12. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

                        The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Cover

                          This book aims to change your attitude and habits towards success.

                          Instead of just going through the normal humdrum day that is an ordinary life, Stephen Covey wants to help you live a life of exuberance. But if you can’t change who you are now, your odds of achieving that are severely limited.

                          13. Think and Grow Rich

                          Think and Grow Rich Cover

                            This classic novel focuses on the ability to acquire wealth.

                            Not just in a monetary sense, but in a life sense. Napoleon comes from the school of thought that success doesn’t just mean financial freedom, but enjoying your life as a whole.

                            Featured photo credit: Aaron Ang via unsplash.com

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                            Last Updated on July 20, 2021

                            How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

                            How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)
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                            You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

                            Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

                            Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

                            Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

                            1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

                            According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

                            “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

                            Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

                            Warming up

                            If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

                            If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

                            Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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                            1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
                            2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
                            3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

                            Stay hydrated

                            Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

                            To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

                            Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

                            Meditate

                            Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

                            Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

                            Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

                            Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

                            2. Focus on your goal

                            One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

                            Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

                            Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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                            Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

                            If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

                            3. Convert negativity to positivity

                            There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

                            ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

                            It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

                            Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

                            Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

                            Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

                            4. Understand your content

                            Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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                            However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

                            “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

                            Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

                            Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

                            One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

                            5. Practice makes perfect

                            Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

                            In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

                            Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

                            6. Be authentic

                            There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

                            Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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                            Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

                            To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

                            With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

                            Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

                            7. Post speech evaluation

                            Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

                            Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

                            We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

                            You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

                            Improve your next speech

                            As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

                            Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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                            • How did I do?
                            • Are there any areas for improvement?
                            • Did I sound or look stressed?
                            • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
                            • Was I saying “um” too often?
                            • How was the flow of the speech?

                            Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

                            If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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