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13 Books To Read Before Turning 30 That Can Make Your Life Much Better

13 Books To Read Before Turning 30 That Can Make Your Life Much Better

1. The Intelligent Investor

The Inteliigent Investor

    When Warren Buffet endorses as a book as “the best book on investing ever written”, you pay attention.

    This book focuses more on loss minimization rather than profit maximization. It focuses on the fundamentals and basics of smart financial investing to help its readers understand the market.

    2. Rich Dad Poor Dad

    Rich Dad Poor Dad

      This unique book is one title amongst many the seeks to teach financial literacy not shown in everyday school.

      Books such as this allow you to take away another meaning of being financially successful in life. Letting your money work for you, not the other way around.

      3. Man’s Search for Meaning

      Mans search for meaning

        Man’s Search for Meaning takes place in an Auschwitz Concentration Camp during World War 2.

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        While the book focuses on the author’s time there, the underlying message focuses on hope and determination being the keys to getting through difficult situations. Viktor Frankl captures the picture in only the way someone who lived through it could.

        4. The 48 Laws of Power

        The 48 Laws of power

          The book takes its lessons from 3000 years of history.

          It’s been read by CEO’s, Millionaires and Celebrities to help them get ahead. While the tactics focus on a world built around you and paint things in a dark light, many of the laws cannot be denied.

          5. On The Road

          On the Road

            Jack Kerouac paints a vivid picture of his life as a beatnik in the 50’s.

            Based on experiences in his life, his character Sal Paradise as a “beat”. A word which Jack describes as being at the bottom of your personality and looking up. On the Road is a must read for anyone who who wonder what life was like for other generations of youth.

            6.  Zero to One

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            Zero to One

              “There is no more frontiers”.

              This quote has been uttered by many, many people who wished to make their mark on the world but had no idea how. This book’s focus is to help people understand that this is a misconception. It helps readers think on the best way to innovate and think critically!

               7. Awaken the Giant Within

              Awaken the Giant Within

                Awaken the Giant Within was written by Tony Robbins to give you the necessary tools to help inspire change in your life.

                Tony is an expert in change, and his main focus is to help you build the life that you’re looking for, to inspire the change that you so desperately want.

                8. The Richest Man in Babylon

                The Richest Man in Babylon Cover

                  George Clason wrote this book to help increase people’s ability for Common Sense.

                  He states that Common Sense is not the same as common knowledge. As a result wished to help people understand exactly what common sense is in the workplace. This book is a must have for those wishing to understand the true essence of business.

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                  9. Oh, The Places You’ll Go

                  Oh The Places Youll Go

                    What? A Dr. Seuss Book? How can this book help when you’re in your 20’s?

                    This book is a cleverly disguised read that actually helps people understand that feeling lost as an adult is normal! Life is complicated and filled with doors, this book helps you realize that being unsure of yourself is perfectly okay.

                    10. How to Cook Everything

                    How to Cook Everything Cover

                      Who doesn’t need a good cookbook? How to cook everything is equipped with 1000 meals to help you achieve freedom at home.

                      At some point our lives we all need to be able to cook and fend for ourselves. So this book is a great start to help you reach that goal.

                      11. Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

                      GRIT-book-cover

                        Angela Duckworth puts forth an interesting theory in this book.

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                        She states that success is not talent-based, but is based on persistence and passion. It is true that even a small voice can make big waves, and her books are a must read for those wishing to achieve more in their lives!

                        12. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

                        The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Cover

                          This book aims to change your attitude and habits towards success.

                          Instead of just going through the normal humdrum day that is an ordinary life, Stephen Covey wants to help you live a life of exuberance. But if you can’t change who you are now, your odds of achieving that are severely limited.

                          13. Think and Grow Rich

                          Think and Grow Rich Cover

                            This classic novel focuses on the ability to acquire wealth.

                            Not just in a monetary sense, but in a life sense. Napoleon comes from the school of thought that success doesn’t just mean financial freedom, but enjoying your life as a whole.

                            Featured photo credit: Aaron Ang via unsplash.com

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                            How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

                            How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

                            Do you say yes so often that you no longer feel that your own needs are being met? Are you wondering how to say no to people?

                            For years, I was a serial people pleaser[1]. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time, especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

                            But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

                            It took a long while, but I learned the art of saying no. Saying no meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. When that happened, I became a lot happier.

                            And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

                            The Importance of Saying No

                            When you learn the art of saying no, you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

                            In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

                            Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey, considered one of the most successful women in the world, confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything.

                            Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

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                            Warren Buffett views “no” as essential to his success. He said:

                            “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

                            When I made “no” a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success, focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

                            How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

                            It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say no.

                            From an early age, we are conditioned to say yes. We said yes probably hundreds of times in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work, to get a promotion, to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

                            We say yes because we feel good when we help someone, because it can seem like the right thing to do, because we think that is key to success, and because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist.

                            And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves.

                            At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we are feeling bad that we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

                            The message, no matter where we turn, is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

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                            How Do You Say No Without Feeling Guilty?

                            Deciding to add the word “no” to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say no, but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of no that you could finally create more time for things you care about.

                            But let’s be honest, using the word “no” doesn’t come easily for many people.

                            3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

                            1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

                            Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time, especially you haven’t done it much in the past, will feel awkward. Your comfort zone is “yes,” so it’s time to challenge that and step outside that.

                            If you need help getting out of your comfort zone, check out this article.

                            2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

                            When you want to learn how to say no, remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it: who else knows about all of the demands in your life? No one.

                            Only you are at the center of all of these requests. You are the only one that understands what time you really have.

                            3. Saying No Means Saying Yes to Something That Matters

                            When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else that we may care more about. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

                            6 Ways to Start Saying No

                            Incorporating that little word “no” into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

                            1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

                            One of the biggest challenges to saying no is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no will reflect poorly on you?

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                            Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

                            2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

                            Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because of FOMO, even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

                            Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better[2].

                            3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say No

                            Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say yes because we worry about how others will respond or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose their respect. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

                            Keep in mind that saying no can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way.

                            You might disappoint someone initially, but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to. And it will often help others have more respect for you and your boundaries, not less.

                            4. When the Request Comes in, Sit on It

                            Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

                            Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say no. There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

                            5. Communicate Your “No” with Transparency and Kindness

                            When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest[3] to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

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                              Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

                              Clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

                              6. Consider How to Use a Modified No

                              If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” as this will give you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

                              Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task, but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

                              Final Thoughts

                              Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

                              Use the request as a way to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself.

                              Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project, but not by working all weekend. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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                              Reference

                              [1] Science of People: 11 Expert Tips to Stop Being a People Pleaser and Start Doing You
                              [2] Anxiety and Depression Association of America: Tips to Get Over Your FOMO, or Fear of Missing Out
                              [3] Cooks Hill Counseling: 9 Healthy Ways to Say “No”

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