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13 Books To Read Before Turning 30 That Can Make Your Life Much Better

13 Books To Read Before Turning 30 That Can Make Your Life Much Better

1. The Intelligent Investor

The Inteliigent Investor

    When Warren Buffet endorses as a book as “the best book on investing ever written”, you pay attention.

    This book focuses more on loss minimization rather than profit maximization. It focuses on the fundamentals and basics of smart financial investing to help its readers understand the market.

    2. Rich Dad Poor Dad

    Rich Dad Poor Dad

      This unique book is one title amongst many the seeks to teach financial literacy not shown in everyday school.

      Books such as this allow you to take away another meaning of being financially successful in life. Letting your money work for you, not the other way around.

      3. Man’s Search for Meaning

      Mans search for meaning

        Man’s Search for Meaning takes place in an Auschwitz Concentration Camp during World War 2.

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        While the book focuses on the author’s time there, the underlying message focuses on hope and determination being the keys to getting through difficult situations. Viktor Frankl captures the picture in only the way someone who lived through it could.

        4. The 48 Laws of Power

        The 48 Laws of power

          The book takes its lessons from 3000 years of history.

          It’s been read by CEO’s, Millionaires and Celebrities to help them get ahead. While the tactics focus on a world built around you and paint things in a dark light, many of the laws cannot be denied.

          5. On The Road

          On the Road

            Jack Kerouac paints a vivid picture of his life as a beatnik in the 50’s.

            Based on experiences in his life, his character Sal Paradise as a “beat”. A word which Jack describes as being at the bottom of your personality and looking up. On the Road is a must read for anyone who who wonder what life was like for other generations of youth.

            6.  Zero to One

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            Zero to One

              “There is no more frontiers”.

              This quote has been uttered by many, many people who wished to make their mark on the world but had no idea how. This book’s focus is to help people understand that this is a misconception. It helps readers think on the best way to innovate and think critically!

               7. Awaken the Giant Within

              Awaken the Giant Within

                Awaken the Giant Within was written by Tony Robbins to give you the necessary tools to help inspire change in your life.

                Tony is an expert in change, and his main focus is to help you build the life that you’re looking for, to inspire the change that you so desperately want.

                8. The Richest Man in Babylon

                The Richest Man in Babylon Cover

                  George Clason wrote this book to help increase people’s ability for Common Sense.

                  He states that Common Sense is not the same as common knowledge. As a result wished to help people understand exactly what common sense is in the workplace. This book is a must have for those wishing to understand the true essence of business.

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                  9. Oh, The Places You’ll Go

                  Oh The Places Youll Go

                    What? A Dr. Seuss Book? How can this book help when you’re in your 20’s?

                    This book is a cleverly disguised read that actually helps people understand that feeling lost as an adult is normal! Life is complicated and filled with doors, this book helps you realize that being unsure of yourself is perfectly okay.

                    10. How to Cook Everything

                    How to Cook Everything Cover

                      Who doesn’t need a good cookbook? How to cook everything is equipped with 1000 meals to help you achieve freedom at home.

                      At some point our lives we all need to be able to cook and fend for ourselves. So this book is a great start to help you reach that goal.

                      11. Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

                      GRIT-book-cover

                        Angela Duckworth puts forth an interesting theory in this book.

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                        She states that success is not talent-based, but is based on persistence and passion. It is true that even a small voice can make big waves, and her books are a must read for those wishing to achieve more in their lives!

                        12. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

                        The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Cover

                          This book aims to change your attitude and habits towards success.

                          Instead of just going through the normal humdrum day that is an ordinary life, Stephen Covey wants to help you live a life of exuberance. But if you can’t change who you are now, your odds of achieving that are severely limited.

                          13. Think and Grow Rich

                          Think and Grow Rich Cover

                            This classic novel focuses on the ability to acquire wealth.

                            Not just in a monetary sense, but in a life sense. Napoleon comes from the school of thought that success doesn’t just mean financial freedom, but enjoying your life as a whole.

                            Featured photo credit: Aaron Ang via unsplash.com

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                            How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

                            How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

                            “Entitlement is an expression of conditional love. Nobody is ever entitled to your love. You always have a right to protect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being by removing yourself from toxic people and circumstances.” -Dr. Janice Anderson & Kiersten Anderson

                            It’s not always obvious if you have someone toxic in your life. A toxic relationship is one that is harmful to you. A toxic person can create distress to the degree you feel inadequate and isolated. So, what makes a toxic person?

                            A toxic person has toxic behavior, meaning it’s not that the whole person is toxic[1]. It’s what they do that counts. Most toxic people run from accountability and misrepresent reality to you. They misrepresent your worth and your ability to heal from them can be stifled the longer you keep them in your life. You have a role to play with it as well; if your values are dismissed by them and you don’t act on it, you have allowed room for toxicity to grow.

                            When you are in a toxic relationship, you feel less than. You feel as though you are not worth anyone’s time or effort. You feel unheard, and sometimes you feel unsafe. You don’t feel good about yourself in a toxic relationship, whether it be with a partner, friend, or family member.

                            You may stay in a toxic relationship for a number of reasons. You may believe yourself to be a burden, have a lack of boundaries, resist change, fear conflict, try to be a people pleaser, find yourself codependent, or are partially stuck in a pattern or unhealthy cycle of abuse.

                            Letting go of toxic people may not be easy. In order to do so, you have to know why or how they are toxic to you and read between the lines that they do not have your best interests in mind.

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                            Letting go of toxic people is hard because you are good and want to see the good in others. You think their apologies are authentic. You have trouble believing they are being dishonest. You don’t spend time healing from it. You get pulled back into the pain because you don’t want it to end. However, if you feel like something isn’t right, it probably isn’t right.

                            You should walk away from a toxic person because you need to preserve your peace. You need to feel like yourself again. And you need better support.

                            Letting go of toxic people can involve four major steps.

                            1. Recognize the Red Flags

                            Red flags are signs a person is being toxic. It’s when someone shows characteristics that you should feel caution about. It’s when you feel any level of dissatisfaction and distrust. Trust your gut. When you recognize red flags, you can evaluate whether a person is trying to manipulate you or not. This gives you some level of control over what you allow in your life. The earlier you detect these behaviors, the better off you will be.

                            Red flags can include:

                            • They always put themselves first.
                            • They point out imperfections and sabotage your self-esteem.
                            • You may feel drained or used when you’re around them.
                            • What you give isn’t reciprocated. They don’t return the goodness you provide as a friend.
                            • They ignore your boundaries and get angry when you tell them “no.”
                            • You catch them in half truths or outright lies when you confront them about anything.
                            • You are the villain; they are the victim.
                            • Second chances always lead to repeated patterns of behavior.
                            • They may engage in abuse.

                            2. Set Boundaries

                            There are emotional boundaries that one can set, but there are also physical ones[2]. You can leave any time. Setting boundaries is also an important part of self-care.

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                            You shouldn’t walk on eggshells. Tell them how you feel. Are they respecting you, fulfilling your needs, and listening to you? If not, it’s time to set up a healthy emotional distance and start letting go of toxic people around you.

                            There are levels to this. You have your inner circle, which could include family, and then you have acquaintances and strangers. If a toxic person is in your inner circle, it’s time to pull back and put up some boundaries for them to follow. If they can’t hear you out, you can cut off the connection completely.

                            You can give second chances, but you have to be careful. If someone knows they can get away with something, they will do it again. If there’s any chance for the relationship, they have to know not to cross certain lines.

                            3. Invest in Yourself

                            You deserve to know you are worthwhile. Try to remember that things will get better and that anything is possible. How do you do so? Invest in yourself.

                            This means self care, goal setting, surrounding yourself with positive support, and feeling a sense of peace. Your greatest ambition should be to love yourself. Without self-love, letting go of toxic people will be difficult.

                            Every relationship is a risk, but if you know yourself and what you will allow, toxic people will have less of a hold over you. If you are a giver or people pleaser, you are most at risk to being in a one-sided relationship. You shouldn’t be punished for caring, but sometimes trust needs to be earned. If you have self-love, you are treating yourself the best way possible. You know that others need to meet your standards; otherwise, they don’t get to be a part of your life.

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                            It’s possible that you can love yourself and still not see the signs. It can be difficult for some to be aware that toxic people exist. However,, if you know how much you mean to others in your life and what you are worth, you will be less likely to take on a relationship that is harmful to you or repeat negative patterns. Self-love is how we get out of toxic relationships, but it’s also how they never begin.

                            4. Know When Forgiveness Is Possible

                            There are times a person will prove their worth to you. They may make a mistake that makes them seem like a horrible person. They may forget to be good to you because of their own issues. They may just have no example of what a healthy relationship looks like. They may have an inflated ego that really comes from insecurity. The list goes on.

                            If they apologize, that’s a start. Look at their actions. Are they changing for the better because they really want to change or just seeming to in order to manipulate you? A person may control others with their image or perceived personality, but if you see through them, you may be able to discern the degree to which they are willing to be there for you.

                            If they start to do the right thing, you may begin to trust them again. Don’t start forgiving them until time has passed and you are sure there is growth, even if they show vulnerability or remorse. You can give a second chance if they truly have an awakening. Otherwise, it’s best to get out. Don’t let them walk all over you; let them walk out the door.

                            If you do give a second change and they still refuse to change, you have every right to remove them and continue the process of letting go of toxic people. The moment you even want to leave may also be a good time to get out. You don’t have to compromise yourself in order to care for them.

                            Forgiveness is the release of resentment or anger[3]. Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. You have to go back to the same relationship or accept the same harmful behaviors from someone. You don’t have to let them back in. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.

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                            Remember, forgiveness is ultimately for you, not them. You don’t need that person in your life in order to forgive them, and if you give them a second chance, proceed with caution.

                            Final Thoughts

                            Recognize the red flags, set boundaries, invest in yourself, and know when forgiveness is possible. This is how you cope with a toxic person impacting your life. You have power in the direction of your life and the people who accompany you as you move forward. Use it.

                            If a person is worthwhile, they will prove themselves through their actions, not their words. If they cross certain lines that really harm you, you owe them nothing. You have every right to feel what you feel and to be upset. Honor your feelings and communicate them because it’ll only continue to keep happening if you don’t.

                            If this is happening to you, it’s time to put a stop to it. It’s time to take control. It’s time to live for yourself, not for what others say about you. It’s time to set your standards higher than they’ve ever been before. And most of all, it’s time to let go.

                            Resource reminder: A physically abusive relationship is ALWAYS toxic. There are resources for you. Always speak up.

                            If you are in such a cycle or domestic violence or abuse reach out for help. For example, there is The National Domestic Violence Hotline (https://www.thehotline.org/) which can be reached at 1−800−799−7233. There are other ways to get help if you simply ask for it. 

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