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8 Seeming Weaknesses Of Creative People That Are Actually Their Strengths

8 Seeming Weaknesses Of Creative People That Are Actually Their Strengths

When you think about the typical characteristics of creative people, what comes to mind? You may conjure up stereotypical images of pained artists, eccentric dressers with big ideas or living a life outside of the norm from everyone else.

There are many negative connotations when it comes to someone who is described as creative but are these assumptions fair? Are we too quick to judge someone for their natural creative flair and the ways in which they steer their personality and way of life?

Creative people often feel like outcasts in today’s society because they don’t always match up to the same ideals as other people, but what are seen as weaknesses are actually, in fact, strengths. Here are 8 ‘negative’ personality traits of creative people that make them unique and an asset to the world we live in.

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1. Following Their Instincts

We would all secretly like to trust our instincts and follow our gut feeling a lot more than we actually do. Sometimes gut feelings don’t make logical sense and it’s the fear of them being wrong. Creative people tend to just trust what they feel is the right thing to do and are attuned to what their intuition is telling them. Many people may see some of their decisions as reckless but they just know they are being fearless and brave with following the unknown.

2. Being Seen As Eccentric

Probably one of the most common characteristics of creative people is being eccentric. But who exactly decides what being eccentric looks like? The negative words used to describe eccentricity are usually ‘strange’ or ‘weird’ but these are only words used to label something we feel threatened by and don’t understand.

Being eccentric should be looked at as being unique, being different enough to stand out from the crowd and being happy enough in your own skin to live your life as your true self.

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3. Changing Their Minds Often

Changing our mind about ideas or what we want to do in life is often seen as a negative trait. It is proof for many that someone can’t stick to anything and will most likely sabotage their happiness because they aren’t staying with their one calling.

However, changing your mind means you aren’t stuck in one place. So many people just stay in one job or live in the same place for years because they’re too afraid of making the wrong decision if they were to change their circumstances in any way. Creative people have the ability to see different opportunities and act on them.

4. Dreaming Too Big

Creative people are often seen as big dreamers and this is usually deemed as reckless. But dreaming big is how we become successful in the first place – it’s the seed of success. Creative people aren’t afraid to follow their dreams no matter how big they are, they just need support from those around them rather than being told it’s out of their reach, fanciful and full of nonsense.

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5. Being Independent Thinkers

When people think independently they are usually portrayed as being difficult or rebellious. However, this is only a label given to independent thinkers by those who feel threatened or misunderstand intentions and attempt to shut them down. Creative people are willing to think outside the box and question ideas and ways of doing things more often. This is how new innovations, strategies and ideas are established and created in our world so it should never be seen as a weakness.

6. Making Lots Of Mistakes

Someone who makes a lot of mistakes is always known as the person who doesn’t know what they want, is a failure in life and has an inability to live in the ‘real world’. But we all know we need to make mistakes to learn from them in order to know what we truly want.

Making mistakes is a common trait of creative people which can tend to label them as lost in life, reckless or not willing to commit to anything. However, creative people learn much better from failure and use it as a catalyst for new ideas, to have the ability to see failure as a triumph and turn it into a new path to where they want to go.

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7. Getting Bored Easily

Monotony kills the spirit of creative people so linking back to the point of changing their minds frequently, creative people will more likely change their job regularly or refuse to hold down a boring office job that offers them no stimulation. To others this comes across as non-committal and flighty but creative people would much rather work a huge amount of different interesting jobs and be penniless than be in one soul-destroying job that gives them nothing but boredom and no challenge whatsoever.

8. Having Busy Minds

A busy mind is seen as one that can’t focus and is constantly distracted. But for a creative person, this is possessing the ability to think about, and pursue, multiple interests and passions. This allows them to open up their world to a much bigger perspective and they are willing to expand their minds to new cultures, people, ideas and beliefs. If it wasn’t for people like this, the world would be a much smaller, less broadened place to live in.

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Last Updated on July 8, 2020

How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

Do you say yes so often that you realize you aren’t really happy about this, wondering how to say no to people?

For years, I was a serial people pleaser. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

It took a long while but I learned the art of saying no. Saying ‘no’ meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. I started to manage my time more around my own needs and interests. When that happened, I became a lot happier. And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

The Importance of Saying No

When you learn the art of saying ‘no,’ you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey considered one of the most successful women in the world confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything. It was only when she realized that after years of struggling with saying no, I finally got to this question: “What do I want?”

Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

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Warren Buffett views no as essential to his success. He said,

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

When I made ‘no’ a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say ‘no.’

From an early age, we are conditioned to say ‘yes.’ We said yes probably hundreds of time in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work. We said yes get a promotion. We said yes to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

We say yes because it feels better to help someone. We say yes because it can seem like the right thing to do. We say yes because we think that is key to success. And we say yes because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist like the boss.

And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we feel guilty we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

The message no matter where we turn is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

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How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

Deciding to add the word ‘no’ to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say ‘no’ but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of ‘no’ that you could finally create more time for things you care about. But let’s be honest, using the word ‘no’ doesn’t come easily for many people.

The 3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time especially you haven’t done it much in the past will feel awkward.

2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

Remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it, who else knows about all of the demands on your time? No one. Only you are at the center of all of these requests. are the only one that understands what time you really have.

3. Saying ‘No’ Means Saying ‘Yes’ to Something That Matters

When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

6 Ways to Start Saying No

Incorporating that little word ‘no’ into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

One of the biggest challenges to saying ‘no’ is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no reflect poorly on you?

Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because FOMO even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

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Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better.

3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say ‘No’

Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say ‘yes’ because we worry about how others will respond or the consequences of saying no or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose respect from others. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

Keep in mind that saying ‘no’ can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way. You might disappoint someone initially but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to.

4. When the Request Comes In, Sit on It

Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time, or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say ‘no.’ There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

5. Communicate Your ‘No’ with Transparency and Kindness

When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

A clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

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6. Consider How to Use a Modified ‘No’

If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” giving you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

Final Thoughts

Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

Use the request as a fresh request to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself. If you are the one placing the demand on yourself, try to evaluate the demand as if it were coming from somewhere else.

Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project but not by working all weekend. Or, tell someone in your family you can’t loan them money again because they never paid you back the last time. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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