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8 Seeming Weaknesses Of Creative People That Are Actually Their Strengths

8 Seeming Weaknesses Of Creative People That Are Actually Their Strengths

When you think about the typical characteristics of creative people, what comes to mind? You may conjure up stereotypical images of pained artists, eccentric dressers with big ideas or living a life outside of the norm from everyone else.

There are many negative connotations when it comes to someone who is described as creative but are these assumptions fair? Are we too quick to judge someone for their natural creative flair and the ways in which they steer their personality and way of life?

Creative people often feel like outcasts in today’s society because they don’t always match up to the same ideals as other people, but what are seen as weaknesses are actually, in fact, strengths. Here are 8 ‘negative’ personality traits of creative people that make them unique and an asset to the world we live in.

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1. Following Their Instincts

We would all secretly like to trust our instincts and follow our gut feeling a lot more than we actually do. Sometimes gut feelings don’t make logical sense and it’s the fear of them being wrong. Creative people tend to just trust what they feel is the right thing to do and are attuned to what their intuition is telling them. Many people may see some of their decisions as reckless but they just know they are being fearless and brave with following the unknown.

2. Being Seen As Eccentric

Probably one of the most common characteristics of creative people is being eccentric. But who exactly decides what being eccentric looks like? The negative words used to describe eccentricity are usually ‘strange’ or ‘weird’ but these are only words used to label something we feel threatened by and don’t understand.

Being eccentric should be looked at as being unique, being different enough to stand out from the crowd and being happy enough in your own skin to live your life as your true self.

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3. Changing Their Minds Often

Changing our mind about ideas or what we want to do in life is often seen as a negative trait. It is proof for many that someone can’t stick to anything and will most likely sabotage their happiness because they aren’t staying with their one calling.

However, changing your mind means you aren’t stuck in one place. So many people just stay in one job or live in the same place for years because they’re too afraid of making the wrong decision if they were to change their circumstances in any way. Creative people have the ability to see different opportunities and act on them.

4. Dreaming Too Big

Creative people are often seen as big dreamers and this is usually deemed as reckless. But dreaming big is how we become successful in the first place – it’s the seed of success. Creative people aren’t afraid to follow their dreams no matter how big they are, they just need support from those around them rather than being told it’s out of their reach, fanciful and full of nonsense.

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5. Being Independent Thinkers

When people think independently they are usually portrayed as being difficult or rebellious. However, this is only a label given to independent thinkers by those who feel threatened or misunderstand intentions and attempt to shut them down. Creative people are willing to think outside the box and question ideas and ways of doing things more often. This is how new innovations, strategies and ideas are established and created in our world so it should never be seen as a weakness.

6. Making Lots Of Mistakes

Someone who makes a lot of mistakes is always known as the person who doesn’t know what they want, is a failure in life and has an inability to live in the ‘real world’. But we all know we need to make mistakes to learn from them in order to know what we truly want.

Making mistakes is a common trait of creative people which can tend to label them as lost in life, reckless or not willing to commit to anything. However, creative people learn much better from failure and use it as a catalyst for new ideas, to have the ability to see failure as a triumph and turn it into a new path to where they want to go.

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7. Getting Bored Easily

Monotony kills the spirit of creative people so linking back to the point of changing their minds frequently, creative people will more likely change their job regularly or refuse to hold down a boring office job that offers them no stimulation. To others this comes across as non-committal and flighty but creative people would much rather work a huge amount of different interesting jobs and be penniless than be in one soul-destroying job that gives them nothing but boredom and no challenge whatsoever.

8. Having Busy Minds

A busy mind is seen as one that can’t focus and is constantly distracted. But for a creative person, this is possessing the ability to think about, and pursue, multiple interests and passions. This allows them to open up their world to a much bigger perspective and they are willing to expand their minds to new cultures, people, ideas and beliefs. If it wasn’t for people like this, the world would be a much smaller, less broadened place to live in.

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Published on May 4, 2021

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

How to Spot Fake People?

When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

1. Full of Themselves

Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

3. Zero Self-Reflection

To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

4. Unrealistic Perceptions

Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

5. Love Attention

As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

6. People Pleaser

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

8. Crappy friend

Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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1. Boundaries

Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

4. Ask for Advice

If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

5. Dig Deeper

Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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6. Practice Self-Care!

Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

Final Thoughts

Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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