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How to Get What You Want ASAP (But Still Be Okay If You Don’t)

How to Get What You Want ASAP (But Still Be Okay If You Don’t)

So many of us have thoughts and beliefs that stop us from reaching our goals. They’re like roadblocks set up between us and what we want in life. Everybody wants something that they don’t have. It’s easy to want things, but harder to get them.

If it was always easy to get what you want, then you wouldn’t want anything — right? There’s no sure-fire way to reach all of your goals, but here are a few tips that can make it easier.

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Ask for it.

This may seem obvious, but a lot of people have problems with just asking for what they want. Do you want a pay raise? Do you want to know if that guy you’ve been seeing is ready to get serious? Be confident, go to the source, and ask for what you want. This could be the easiest way to get it.

Quit waiting for the “right time.”

A lot of people put off going for what they want because they’re sitting around waiting for the “right time.” Well, if you keep waiting for the perfect moment, you could be waiting for a very long time. Sometimes you just have to go for it. So unless you have a really good reason to wait, start now.

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Make a plan.

One of the most helpful ways to get what you want is to make a plan and write it down. Set yourself some goals and write them down. Writing your goals down on paper is the key factor here. And for each goal that you have, give yourself a series of actionable steps that you can take to achieve them and do something to work towards them every day.

Focus, focus, focus.

Focus on the thing that you want. Block out your distractions, quit wasting time, and put your work and energy into the steps that you need to take to achieve your goal or attain the thing that you want. And don’t compare yourself to other people — that’s just asking for trouble. Stay focused on yourself and what you can do to get what you want.

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Believe it —

Know exactly what you want, down to the very last detail. Picture yourself already achieving your goal and be confident about it. Stay positive and believe that it will really happen. Of course, you can’t just believe it and do nothing to make it happen. You still have to work for it.

— and visualize it.

Spend some time each day visualizing what your life would be like if your dream came true. Picture yourself getting what you want. Thinking about it and imagining that it is happening makes your dreams easier to achieve. Visualizing yourself achieving your goals also helps you feel more confident, which can make it easier to get what you want.

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Network and build relationships.

Create relationships with the right people. Networking with people who are already in the position that you want, or have whatever it is that you want, can be very beneficial. It’s always good to have connections and positive friendships when it comes to achieving goals — especially in your career.

Act now.

Yes, the future is scary. What if you don’t get what you want? What if you fail? There are so many possibilities, but you can’t let fear stop you from acting on your goals. What if you get everything that you’ve wanted? What if you succeed? I don’t know about you, but I’d rather live a life of “oh wells” than a life of “what-ifs.”

Compromise.

Sometimes you just have to compromise and settle for what you get. As The Rolling Stones wisely said, “You can’t always get what you want.” If you’ve tried and worked hard, and you still didn’t get what you wanted, you might just need to accept it. Just move on, set yourself new goals, and don’t give up.

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

1. Breathe

The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

  • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
  • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
  • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

2. Loosen up

After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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3. Chew slowly

Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

4. Let go

Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

It’s not. Promise.

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Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

5. Enjoy the journey

Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

6. Look at the big picture

The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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Will this matter to me…

  • Next week?
  • Next month?
  • Next year?
  • In 10 years?

Hint: No, it won’t.

I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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8. Practice patience every day

Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

  • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
  • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
  • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

Final thoughts

Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

Featured photo credit: Brooke Cagle via unsplash.com

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