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How to Get What You Want ASAP (But Still Be Okay If You Don’t)

How to Get What You Want ASAP (But Still Be Okay If You Don’t)

So many of us have thoughts and beliefs that stop us from reaching our goals. They’re like roadblocks set up between us and what we want in life. Everybody wants something that they don’t have. It’s easy to want things, but harder to get them.

If it was always easy to get what you want, then you wouldn’t want anything — right? There’s no sure-fire way to reach all of your goals, but here are a few tips that can make it easier.

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Ask for it.

This may seem obvious, but a lot of people have problems with just asking for what they want. Do you want a pay raise? Do you want to know if that guy you’ve been seeing is ready to get serious? Be confident, go to the source, and ask for what you want. This could be the easiest way to get it.

Quit waiting for the “right time.”

A lot of people put off going for what they want because they’re sitting around waiting for the “right time.” Well, if you keep waiting for the perfect moment, you could be waiting for a very long time. Sometimes you just have to go for it. So unless you have a really good reason to wait, start now.

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Make a plan.

One of the most helpful ways to get what you want is to make a plan and write it down. Set yourself some goals and write them down. Writing your goals down on paper is the key factor here. And for each goal that you have, give yourself a series of actionable steps that you can take to achieve them and do something to work towards them every day.

Focus, focus, focus.

Focus on the thing that you want. Block out your distractions, quit wasting time, and put your work and energy into the steps that you need to take to achieve your goal or attain the thing that you want. And don’t compare yourself to other people — that’s just asking for trouble. Stay focused on yourself and what you can do to get what you want.

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Believe it —

Know exactly what you want, down to the very last detail. Picture yourself already achieving your goal and be confident about it. Stay positive and believe that it will really happen. Of course, you can’t just believe it and do nothing to make it happen. You still have to work for it.

— and visualize it.

Spend some time each day visualizing what your life would be like if your dream came true. Picture yourself getting what you want. Thinking about it and imagining that it is happening makes your dreams easier to achieve. Visualizing yourself achieving your goals also helps you feel more confident, which can make it easier to get what you want.

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Network and build relationships.

Create relationships with the right people. Networking with people who are already in the position that you want, or have whatever it is that you want, can be very beneficial. It’s always good to have connections and positive friendships when it comes to achieving goals — especially in your career.

Act now.

Yes, the future is scary. What if you don’t get what you want? What if you fail? There are so many possibilities, but you can’t let fear stop you from acting on your goals. What if you get everything that you’ve wanted? What if you succeed? I don’t know about you, but I’d rather live a life of “oh wells” than a life of “what-ifs.”

Compromise.

Sometimes you just have to compromise and settle for what you get. As The Rolling Stones wisely said, “You can’t always get what you want.” If you’ve tried and worked hard, and you still didn’t get what you wanted, you might just need to accept it. Just move on, set yourself new goals, and don’t give up.

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Last Updated on March 13, 2019

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on the small tasks.

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

2. Take a break from your work desk.

Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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3. Upgrade yourself

Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a friend.

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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6. Paint a vision to work towards.

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

7. Read a book (or blog).

The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

8. Have a quick nap.

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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9. Remember why you are doing this.

Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

10. Find some competition.

Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

11. Go exercise.

Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

12. Take a good break.

Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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