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How to Get What You Want ASAP (But Still Be Okay If You Don’t)

How to Get What You Want ASAP (But Still Be Okay If You Don’t)

So many of us have thoughts and beliefs that stop us from reaching our goals. They’re like roadblocks set up between us and what we want in life. Everybody wants something that they don’t have. It’s easy to want things, but harder to get them.

If it was always easy to get what you want, then you wouldn’t want anything — right? There’s no sure-fire way to reach all of your goals, but here are a few tips that can make it easier.

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Ask for it.

This may seem obvious, but a lot of people have problems with just asking for what they want. Do you want a pay raise? Do you want to know if that guy you’ve been seeing is ready to get serious? Be confident, go to the source, and ask for what you want. This could be the easiest way to get it.

Quit waiting for the “right time.”

A lot of people put off going for what they want because they’re sitting around waiting for the “right time.” Well, if you keep waiting for the perfect moment, you could be waiting for a very long time. Sometimes you just have to go for it. So unless you have a really good reason to wait, start now.

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Make a plan.

One of the most helpful ways to get what you want is to make a plan and write it down. Set yourself some goals and write them down. Writing your goals down on paper is the key factor here. And for each goal that you have, give yourself a series of actionable steps that you can take to achieve them and do something to work towards them every day.

Focus, focus, focus.

Focus on the thing that you want. Block out your distractions, quit wasting time, and put your work and energy into the steps that you need to take to achieve your goal or attain the thing that you want. And don’t compare yourself to other people — that’s just asking for trouble. Stay focused on yourself and what you can do to get what you want.

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Believe it —

Know exactly what you want, down to the very last detail. Picture yourself already achieving your goal and be confident about it. Stay positive and believe that it will really happen. Of course, you can’t just believe it and do nothing to make it happen. You still have to work for it.

— and visualize it.

Spend some time each day visualizing what your life would be like if your dream came true. Picture yourself getting what you want. Thinking about it and imagining that it is happening makes your dreams easier to achieve. Visualizing yourself achieving your goals also helps you feel more confident, which can make it easier to get what you want.

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Network and build relationships.

Create relationships with the right people. Networking with people who are already in the position that you want, or have whatever it is that you want, can be very beneficial. It’s always good to have connections and positive friendships when it comes to achieving goals — especially in your career.

Act now.

Yes, the future is scary. What if you don’t get what you want? What if you fail? There are so many possibilities, but you can’t let fear stop you from acting on your goals. What if you get everything that you’ve wanted? What if you succeed? I don’t know about you, but I’d rather live a life of “oh wells” than a life of “what-ifs.”

Compromise.

Sometimes you just have to compromise and settle for what you get. As The Rolling Stones wisely said, “You can’t always get what you want.” If you’ve tried and worked hard, and you still didn’t get what you wanted, you might just need to accept it. Just move on, set yourself new goals, and don’t give up.

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Last Updated on May 15, 2019

How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

As it appears, the human mind is not capable of not thinking, at least on the subconscious level. Our mind is always occupied by thoughts, whether we want to or not, and they influence our every action.

“Happiness cannot come from without, it comes from within.” – Helen Keller

When we are still children, our thoughts seem to be purely positive. Have you ever been around a 4-year old who doesn’t like a painting he or she drew? I haven’t. Instead, I see glee, exciting and pride in children’s eyes. But as the years go by, we clutter our mind with doubts, fears and self-deprecating thoughts.

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Just imagine then how much we limit ourselves in every aspect of our lives if we give negative thoughts too much power! We’ll never go after that job we’ve always wanted because our nay-saying thoughts make us doubt our abilities. We’ll never ask that person we like out on a date because we always think we’re not good enough.

We’ll never risk quitting our job in order to pursue the life and the work of our dreams because we can’t get over our mental barrier that insists we’re too weak, too unimportant and too dumb. We’ll never lose those pounds that risk our health because we believe we’re not capable of pushing our limits. We’ll never be able to fully see our inner potential because we simply don’t dare to question the voices in our head.

But enough is enough! It’s time to stop these limiting beliefs and come to a place of sanity, love and excitement about life, work and ourselves.

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So…how exactly are we to achieve that?

It’s not as hard as it may seem; you just have to practice, practice, practice. Here are a few ideas on how you can get started.

1. Learn to substitute every negative thought with a positive one.

Every time a negative thought crawls into your mind, replace it with a positive thought. It’s just like someone writes a phrase you don’t like on a blackboard and then you get up, erase it and write something much more to your liking.

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2. See the positive side of every situation, even when you are surrounded by pure negativity.

This one is a bit harder to put into practice, which does not mean it’s impossible.

You can find positivity in everything by mentally holding on to something positive, whether this be family, friends, your faith, nature, someone’s sparkling eyes or whatever other glimmer of beauty. If you seek it, you will find it.

3. At least once a day, take a moment and think of 5 things you are grateful for.

This will lighten your mood and give you some perspective of what is really important in life and how many blessings surround you already.

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4. Change the mental images you allow to enter your mind.

How you see yourself and your surroundings make a huge difference to your thinking. It is like watching a DVD that saddens and frustrates you, completely pulling you down. Eject that old DVD, throw it away and insert a new, better, more hopeful one instead.

So, instead of dwelling on dark, negative thoughts, consciously build and focus on positive, light and colorful images, thoughts and situations in your mind a few times a day.

If you are persistent and keep on working on yourself, your mind will automatically reject its negative thoughts and welcome the positive ones.

And remember: You are (or will become) what you think you are. This is reason enough to be proactive about whatever is going on in your head.

Featured photo credit: Kyaw Tun via unsplash.com

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