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How to Get What You Want ASAP (But Still Be Okay If You Don’t)

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How to Get What You Want ASAP (But Still Be Okay If You Don’t)

So many of us have thoughts and beliefs that stop us from reaching our goals. They’re like roadblocks set up between us and what we want in life. Everybody wants something that they don’t have. It’s easy to want things, but harder to get them.

If it was always easy to get what you want, then you wouldn’t want anything — right? There’s no sure-fire way to reach all of your goals, but here are a few tips that can make it easier.

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Ask for it.

This may seem obvious, but a lot of people have problems with just asking for what they want. Do you want a pay raise? Do you want to know if that guy you’ve been seeing is ready to get serious? Be confident, go to the source, and ask for what you want. This could be the easiest way to get it.

Quit waiting for the “right time.”

A lot of people put off going for what they want because they’re sitting around waiting for the “right time.” Well, if you keep waiting for the perfect moment, you could be waiting for a very long time. Sometimes you just have to go for it. So unless you have a really good reason to wait, start now.

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Make a plan.

One of the most helpful ways to get what you want is to make a plan and write it down. Set yourself some goals and write them down. Writing your goals down on paper is the key factor here. And for each goal that you have, give yourself a series of actionable steps that you can take to achieve them and do something to work towards them every day.

Focus, focus, focus.

Focus on the thing that you want. Block out your distractions, quit wasting time, and put your work and energy into the steps that you need to take to achieve your goal or attain the thing that you want. And don’t compare yourself to other people — that’s just asking for trouble. Stay focused on yourself and what you can do to get what you want.

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Believe it —

Know exactly what you want, down to the very last detail. Picture yourself already achieving your goal and be confident about it. Stay positive and believe that it will really happen. Of course, you can’t just believe it and do nothing to make it happen. You still have to work for it.

— and visualize it.

Spend some time each day visualizing what your life would be like if your dream came true. Picture yourself getting what you want. Thinking about it and imagining that it is happening makes your dreams easier to achieve. Visualizing yourself achieving your goals also helps you feel more confident, which can make it easier to get what you want.

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Network and build relationships.

Create relationships with the right people. Networking with people who are already in the position that you want, or have whatever it is that you want, can be very beneficial. It’s always good to have connections and positive friendships when it comes to achieving goals — especially in your career.

Act now.

Yes, the future is scary. What if you don’t get what you want? What if you fail? There are so many possibilities, but you can’t let fear stop you from acting on your goals. What if you get everything that you’ve wanted? What if you succeed? I don’t know about you, but I’d rather live a life of “oh wells” than a life of “what-ifs.”

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Compromise.

Sometimes you just have to compromise and settle for what you get. As The Rolling Stones wisely said, “You can’t always get what you want.” If you’ve tried and worked hard, and you still didn’t get what you wanted, you might just need to accept it. Just move on, set yourself new goals, and don’t give up.

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Last Updated on November 22, 2021

Thanksgiving: It’s About The Simple Things

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Thanksgiving: It’s About The Simple Things

Thanksgiving, a day of pure gluttony, football, and possible uncomfortable situations with family members that you may or may not like. Oh, yeah, and the whole “know and reflect on what it is to be thankful and grateful.”

During the holiday season many people forget what this time of year is bout and are too worried about getting the “early-bird” deals on Black Friday and making sure that they have the perfect gifts for their loved ones. I am sort of a “Grinch” when it comes to the holiday season, mostly because of that mentality by many of the poeple around me.

But instead of being grinch-like this holiday season, I decided to simplify things and get back to what this time of year is actually is about; being thankful for what I have and what I can give.

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Simplify

I’m not a “minimalist” in any real sense, but in the last few months the talks of Patrick Rhone and others have got me to rethink my stance. Can you really have too much stuff?

Absolutely.

And with all that stuff comes the burden and the weight of it on your back.

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If you feel that the things around you are out of control, maybe it’s time to simplify and be thankful and grateful for what you have and use. Here are a few things that you can do to simplify:

  • You know those gadgets in the drawer that you said you were going to sell? Well, time to get the listing on eBay and sell them. Or, send them to a place like Gazelle. Even if they are old and won’t get money, you can at least recycle them.
  • Get rid of things you don’t need. Like old books, clothes, tools, etc. Have something that’s been laying around forever with no use? Donate it to a charity or church. If you aren’t using it, someone else could be.
  • Find your productivity tools and stick with them. Use tools and gadgets that serve multiple purposes so you can simplify your tool set.

Be Mindful

You don’t have to be a master Buddhist or meditator to be mindful (although, it can definitely help). Being mindful comes down to being cognizant of the present and not keeping yourself in the past or future. It’s about living in the moment and being aware of yourself and everything around you. It’s just being.

Without getting too “California” on you, it is super important to be mindful during the holiday rush. Rather than worrying about the things that you forgot at your house on the way to relatives or thinking about the next stop in your endless holiday travels, just breath and think about what you are currently doing.

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Spend the time with your family and friends and don’t crush the moment. Try not to concentrate so hard on getting the perfect photo of the “awesome moment” of the day and actually miss the awesome moment.

Being mindful over the holidays will help you be with your families, friends, and yourself allowing you to enjoy your time.

Reflect

As the year is coming to a close (yes, it really is that close!) it’s a great time to start reflecting on what you have accomplished and what you haven’t. Within the next few weeks we will have a more throrough reflection article here at Lifehack.org, but reflecting every now and then over your holiday break is a great way to see where you have been doing well in your life and where you need to improve.

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Reflection shouldn’t be used to “get down” on yourself. Reflection should be used to take an honset inventory of what you have accomplished, how you handeled situations, and what you can do better. If you journal everyday (a daily form of reflection) it may be a good time to start going over some of the things that you have written and start to put together a year’s end journal entry. I mean, how else will you write your autobiography?

But, seriously, reflecting on yourself makes you aware of your successes and faults and helps you plan and make goals for the coming year. It makes you a better person.

So, while you are stuffing your face with bird, stuffing, and mashed taters’, remember that the holidays are much more than the superficial things. Use this holiday to become a better person.

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