100 Ways To Calm Yourself When Life Is Getting Tough

100 Ways To Calm Yourself When Life Is Getting Tough

“I think that, for most of us, there are times in life when it all just feels like Too Much.” – Therapist, Annie Wright

Life isn’t always easy. There may be times when you stumble and struggle through the day; times when you feel like you’ve had enough. Circumstances where you feel totally overwhelmed. Occasions when you feel sad, depressed, angry or even unloved.

Sometimes, there maybe no apparent reason for these feelings. Other times, they may stem from obvious reasons such as being heartbroken, suffering from anxiety or even a mental illness. It’s okay! We are only human after all. We feel. It’s a part of who we are.

When you feel that life is tough, here are 100 ways to calm yourself, restore the inner peace and make yourself happy. It’s often the simple things in life, that make all the difference.

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    #1 Be Generous. Give something to a total stranger. Acts of giving make us feel warm and fuzzy inside.

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      #2 Sit in a coffee shop or a busy street and soak up your surroundings. You don’t have to talk to people.

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        #3 On the flip side, if being around people is feeling too much for you. Go home. Relax.

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          #4 Practice self-love. Each day remind yourself that you are a strong, beautiful person, with a lot to offer.

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            #5 Educate yourself: research what it is you are experiencing. Arm yourself with knowledge and the resources to tackle the problems head on.

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              #6 Preparation: Write the day’s to-do list the evening before.

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                #7  Create a dream sanctuary; surround yourself with inspirational quotes and positivity. You can use your laptop and create a folder dedicated to this.

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                  #8 Strengths: Write down a list of 20 of your strengths. [ good communicator, empathetic etc.]

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                    #9 Keep going forward. Keep taking small steps, no matter what. Being stagnant doesn’t serve you. Are you looking to start a business? What steps can you take each day to make that dream a reality.

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                      #10 Walk: Walking helps clear your mind. It offers you a different perspective.

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                        #11 Indulge. Take a day off to spend a whole day doing exactly what you want. Eat what you want. Watch series. Go wild.

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                          #12 Cry: Release all that emotion. You will feel better.

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                            #13 Talk: Call or meet someone in person to chat about problems.

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                              #14 Re-visit an old hobby. If you don’t have one, create one. Paint. Read. Sculpt. Gardening.

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                                #15 Prioritize: Decide what’s important right now. Say no to extra obligations.

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                                  #16 Alleviate pressure: Reduce expectations of yourself and others.

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                                    #17 Sleep: Get enough rest. Sleep 7-9 hours each night.

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                                      #18 Nap: Give yourself a break. Afternoon naps have been shown to increase creativity.


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                                        #19 Help: Don’t be afraid to ask someone for help; friend, colleagues or a therapist. Maybe you are struggling emotionally. Maybe you need help with launching a business. Often we get caught up in what we are doing, we forget that help is just a phone call away.

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                                          #20 Be silly: Do something that you did as a child. Don’t take life too seriously.

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                                            #21 Surround yourself with beauty: Visit an art gallery. Re-instill beauty in your life.

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                                              #22 Restore your faith in humanity: Search the internet for inspiring stories.

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                                                #23 Surround yourself with positive people who can support you.

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                                                  #24 Let your hair down: A night out in town might help you blow off some steam.

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                                                    #25 Meditate: Learn to calm yourself.

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                                                      #26 Hydrate: Don’t forget to drink enough water.

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                                                        #27 Check your self-talk. Negative self-talk does not serve you.

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                                                          #28 Change your self-talk to positive self-talk.

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                                                            #29 Eat: Make sure you eat healthy foods; if possible,smaller portions.

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                                                              #30 Watch a silly movie: This can be a welcome distraction.

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                                                                #31 When you wake up, stretch like you did when you were young.

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                                                                  #32 Shower: A nice warm shower makes you feel good.

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                                                                    #33 If you feel something is wrong physiologically, schedule a meeting with your doctor.

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                                                                      #34 Cuddle: whether it’s your dog, cat, friend or partner. We are human. We require touch.

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                                                                        #35 Intense Exercise: running or even swimming. This will increase energy levels.

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                                                                          #36 Journal: Develop a habit of journaling. This will help free your mind.

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                                                                            #37 Small steps: If you feel overwhelmed by everything, break it all up into small actionable steps.

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                                                                              #38 Gratitude list: Write down a list of 20 things you can be grateful for.

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                                                                                #39 Accomplishments: Write down a list of 20 things you have accomplished so far.


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                                                                                  #40 Remind yourself of the value you have to offer. We are often so good at something, that it becomes second nature. We don’t recognize that it’s something other people can’t easily do. Recognize that value.

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                                                                                    #41 Write down the two most important things you want to complete each day.

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                                                                                      #42 Wake up. Complete the two most important things. Then do other tasks.

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                                                                                        #43 Clean your bedroom. De-cluttering your environment is magical.

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                                                                                          #44 Relax: Lie in an open field and stare at the clouds.

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                                                                                            #45 Read a good book. Get lost in another world.

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                                                                                              #46 Take a break from social media, if it all feels too much.

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                                                                                                #47 Avoid the comparison game. If you find yourself comparing yourself to others remind yourself (daily) that it’s not healthy.

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                                                                                                  #48 Pamper yourself. Go to the spa.

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                                                                                                    #49 Ask for reassurance from family and friends. Hearing ‘all will be fine’ is often all that is needed.

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                                                                                                      #50 Listen to your favorite music (not a love song, if you are heartbroken).

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                                                                                                        #51 Volunteer and give back to your community. Maybe a pet shelter?

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                                                                                                          #52 Find a safe place to scream and let it all out. Keeping emotions bottled up is not healthy. It creates stress and can cause anxiety.

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                                                                                                            #53 Eat foods that make you feel comfortable.

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                                                                                                              #54 Embrace silence. Go somewhere to be alone.

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                                                                                                                #55 Think about your dreams. Allow yourself to dream. Write down your dreams.

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                                                                                                                  #56 Do simple coloring in books. Be like a child.

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                                                                                                                    #57 Take a walk on the beach. The ocean is soothing.

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                                                                                                                      #58 Mountains are strong and secure. Find them. Absorb them.

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                                                                                                                        #59 If Self-help books overwhelm you. Read fiction instead.


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                                                                                                                          #60 Get inspired. Watch inspiring videos on Youtube.

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                                                                                                                            #61 Find those that have overcome what you are going through to restore inner strength.

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                                                                                                                              #62 Get expert help (psychologist, doctor etc) if required. Ask family for help with this.

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                                                                                                                                #63 You have won the lottery. Just being alive and being able to breathe is a privilege. Remind yourself of this each morning when you wake-up.

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                                                                                                                                  #64 Routines: When life is chaotic, establishing a routine provides stability.

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                                                                                                                                    #65 Embrace the sun. Soak it up. Go outdoors.

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                                                                                                                                      #66 10 min alignment exercise. Set a deep meaningful goal (e.g. being self-employed). Write down all the skills and abilities you have to achieve it now. Sit with those thoughts until you feel excited.

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                                                                                                                                        #67 Sit in silence and just breathe. In and out. Nice deep breaths.

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                                                                                                                                          #68 Seek out happy memories: go through photos of loved ones or even postcards from friends.

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                                                                                                                                            #69 Relax. Have a warm bath. Clear your mind.

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                                                                                                                                              #70 Invest in a miniature Zen Garden. Start by searching on the internet.

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                                                                                                                                                #71 Walk barefoot in the grass. This can be therapeutic.

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                                                                                                                                                  #72 Bake bread. Enjoy the process. Absorb the comforting smells of your creation.

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                                                                                                                                                    #73 Watch the sunrise, whilst sipping your favorite coffee. Get excited about the day that lies ahead.

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                                                                                                                                                      #74 Watch the sunset, with a glass of wine. Recap on the day.

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                                                                                                                                                        #75 Decorate your room or house. Make it look beautiful.

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                                                                                                                                                          #76 Call your boss. Tell him you’re sick. Just take the day off to unwind from all the stress.

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                                                                                                                                                            #77 Create a morning ritual that provides the needed support.

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                                                                                                                                                              #78 Or (because everyone is different) you can develop an evening ritual instead.

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                                                                                                                                                                #79 Switch off all devices an hour before you sleep for a good night’s rest.

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                                                                                                                                                                  #80 Help someone else with their problems. This can often be the best self-care.


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                                                                                                                                                                    #81 Watch a comedy show (live or on T.V.). Get yourself to laugh. Laughter, as they say, is often the best medicine.

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                                                                                                                                                                      #82 Dance. Dance on your own. Dance in your house. Dance wildly.

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                                                                                                                                                                        #83 Walk your dog and get exercise.

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                                                                                                                                                                          #84 Walk someone else’s dog and do them a favor in the process.

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                                                                                                                                                                            #85 Seek out new experiences. Do something you haven’t done before.

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                                                                                                                                                                              #86 Ideas. Start writing down all your ideas. Carry a notepad with you.

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                                                                                                                                                                                #87 Be spontaneous. Instill excitement into your life. For example, take a drive on the spur of the moment. If a friend calls you to do something, do it.

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                                                                                                                                                                                  #88 Sign-up for the gym. Exercise helps clear your mind.

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                                                                                                                                                                                    #89 Or exercise in the comfort of your home – you don’t have to spend lots of money to stay fit.

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                                                                                                                                                                                      #90 Plan a short road trip with a friend to get away.

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                                                                                                                                                                                        #91 Speak to a nutritionist to develop a food plan that can support you.

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                                                                                                                                                                                          #92 Try yoga. It’s great for the body and the mind.

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                                                                                                                                                                                            #93 Get rid of limiting beliefs that do not serve you. You may believe that you cannot do something, but is this really true? Consider what you can do right now to make it happen. Maybe you can ask for a friend’s advice to start?

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                                                                                                                                                                                              #94 Use your senses. Buy some incense for your house.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                #95 Love. Call someone (instead of texting). Tell them you love them.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                  #96 Listen to classical music. Get relaxed and improve your intelligence.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                    #97 Spoil yourself. Buy yourself presents – flowers or even a new dress.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      #98 Sketch. Take out a notepad and start sketching. This can be therapeutic.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        #99 Wake up and listen to inspirational podcasts to get you motivated.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          #100 Remind yourself that life is a journey. Remember that what you are going through is temporary, It will pass.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

                                                                                                                                                                                                          60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

                                                                                                                                                                                                          Sometimes it’s easier to focus on what we don’t have, rather than what we do have. It’s important to take time out and remember all of the things to be thankful for that many of us take for granted.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Here you’ll find 60 very solid things to be thankful for in your everyday life. These are great reminders for you to treasure everything you have.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            1. Good Health

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Even if you’re health isn’t great, it could be worse and you likely still have some working parts to be thankful for.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            2. Money in the Bank

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Having just a few coins makes you richer than most people on Earth.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            3. Good Friends

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Often, it’s the quality of friendships, not the quantity.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            4. Freedom of Religion

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Being able to worship whomever and however you want is something many people don’t ever experience.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            5. Your Parents

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Even if they’re dysfunctional, they gave you life.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            6. Weekends

                                                                                                                                                                                                            There’s something magical about weekends.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            7.Having a Partner

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Being in a romantic relationship can teach you so much about the world and yourself.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            8. Pets

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Pets offer one of the best examples of unconditional love.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            9. Learning from Mistakes

                                                                                                                                                                                                            If we never made mistakes, we wouldn’t learn much so it is one of those things we should be thankful for.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            10. Opportunity to Get an Education

                                                                                                                                                                                                            The opportunity to attend school is something many people don’t have.


                                                                                                                                                                                                            11. Having a Home

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Whether you live in an apartment, a mansion, or a tent, having a place to call home is something to be thankful for.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            12. An Ability to Read

                                                                                                                                                                                                            If you’re reading this right now, you have a lot to be thankful for.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            13. Breathing Fresh Air

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Being able to step outside to breathe in fresh air is a good reminder how many little things we should be thankful for.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            14. A Bed to Sleep

                                                                                                                                                                                                            A bed is one of those things that’s easy to take for granted, until you don’t have one.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            15. Laughter

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Without laughter, the world would be a sad place.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            16. Safety and Security

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Being able to wake up without immense fear frees us up to really live life.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            17. Cars

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Without cars, it would take a lot longer to get our activities done.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            18. Sunshine

                                                                                                                                                                                                            The sun’s warmth can brighten any day.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            19. Time

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Although we often don’t think there’s enough of it, time is something we shouldn’t take for granted.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            20. Clean Water

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Many people on earth lack access to clean water.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            21. Cell Phones

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Cell phones make talking to loved ones easy.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            22. Love

                                                                                                                                                                                                            The world sure would be a different place if we lacked the ability to love.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            23. Books

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Books provide an opportunity to enter another world all from the comfort of your own home.


                                                                                                                                                                                                            24. Kindness of Strangers

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Never take the kindness of a stranger for granted.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            25. Campfires

                                                                                                                                                                                                            The simplicity of a campfire creates lifelong memories.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            26. Pain

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Without pain, it would be difficulty to appreciate life’s joys.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            27. Art

                                                                                                                                                                                                            The world would be less beautiful if art didn’t exist.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            28. Holidays

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Any reason to celebrate is something we should be thankful for.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            29. Freedom of Speech

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Being able to express your thoughts and feelings freely should never be taken for granted.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            30. Rainbows

                                                                                                                                                                                                            The beauty of a rainbow is unmatched.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            31. Tears

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Sometimes when there are no words to say, tears express how we feel for us.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            32. Waking up Today

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Simply waking up today means you have things to be thankful for.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            33. Indoor Plumbing

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Indoor plumbing not only provides convenience, it spares us from disease.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            34. Wisdom that Comes with Age

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Thankfully, we grow smarter over time.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            35. Mountains

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Mountains provide us with beauty and recreation.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            36. Eyesight

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Being able to see allows us to view the world’s beauty.


                                                                                                                                                                                                            37. Grocery Stores

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Grocery stores mean we don’t have to spend all of our time getting our own food.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            38. Sunsets

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Sunsets are a reminder that we should enjoy the simple things in life.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            39. Entertainment

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Entertainment gives us a way to relax and enjoy life.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            40. Your Mind

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Being able to think, remember, and solve problems sure makes life easier.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            41. Employment

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Even if you don’t like your job, being employed means someone thought you were special enough to hire.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            42. Diversity

                                                                                                                                                                                                            The world would be a boring place without diversity.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            43. Moon and Stars

                                                                                                                                                                                                            The moon and stars encourage us to dream.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            44. Electricity

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Electricity makes most of our chores efficient.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            45. Air Conditioning

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Staying cool on a hot day is something people wouldn’t have dreamed about in past centuries.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            46. Hearing

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Being able to hear your loved one’s voice is something that not everyone gets to do.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            47. Children

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Watching children laugh, grow, and dream can keep things in perspective.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            48. Ability to Learn

                                                                                                                                                                                                            The ability to learn new things means we have endless potential.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            49. People Willing to Teach

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Whether it’s your grandmother teaching you to knit or your plumber showing you how to prevent future problems, be grateful that others are willing to use their time and talents to teach you something new.


                                                                                                                                                                                                            50. Oceans

                                                                                                                                                                                                            The sea creatures in the ocean almost seem too mystical to be real.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            51. Modern Medicine

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Without advances in modern medicine, many of us wouldn’t be alive.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            52. Music

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Music brings out new emotions.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            53. Entrepreneurs

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Some of life’s best inventions resulted from an entrepreneur who was willing to take a risk.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            54. Warm Clothing

                                                                                                                                                                                                            On a cold day, there’s nothing more important than warm clothing.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            55. Freedom to Vote

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Being able to have a say in the laws should never be taken for granted.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            56. An Internet Connection

                                                                                                                                                                                                            It’s hard to believe how easy it is to take the internet for granted, seeing how none of us had just a couple of decades ago.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            57. Challenges

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Without challenges in life, we wouldn’t be the people we are now.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            58. Hiking Trails

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Hiking trails give us the chance to enjoy mother’s nature beauty.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            59. Vaccines

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Many of us wouldn’t be alive without today’s vaccinations.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            60. Armed Forces

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Our lives would likely be very different if we didn’t have protection from the armed forces.

                                                                                                                                                                                                            Realizing all the things you should be thankful for is the first step, practicing gratitude is what you should start doing:

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