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Why Women In Their 30’s Are Extremely Attractive

Why Women In Their 30’s Are Extremely Attractive

There are so many factors that separate the 20’s from the 30’s. Though not as commonly spoken about, there are rites of passage for women growing into their 30’s. The beauty you exude comes from something far beneath the surface. Only those who can get to that depth will truly reach you. Getting fully grounded in your power and wielding it with every swing of your hips is no easy feat.

You say ‘yes’ to saying ‘no’

You’ve learned by now that you accomplish more when you say no more often. Keeping in shape for example, means saying no to other activities that interfere with workout time.

You’re not the grinch, you just have a better understanding of what is suitable for you. You also have your own tastes, and you definitely know the kind of flavor of life you’d like to keep. Opinions? You certainly have your own.

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You’ve reached full self-acceptance, and expect the same from others

You know who you are, and have accepted what you like. Others will have to do the same if they’re going to truly appreciate you. Unlike when you were in your 20’s, now you know the cost of associating yourself with energy-draining vampires. You now know there is nothing beneficial about having a person around who does not value you as much as you value yourself.

You only spend your time with people who can respect the true value of themselves. In return, others enjoy spending time with you because they know the depth at which they are appreciated. This doesn’t mean you enjoy being around people who respect you simply for your external actions, you want to be around people who value the inherent worth.

You don’t panic when disaster strikes

Something’s gone wrong. You’ve experienced this before. When challenges come up, you’re somehow stronger than you used to be. It has required much emotional weight lifting to get to your 30’s. You’re more prepared to take a course of action in times of stress.

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Perhaps because you’re more assured in your decision making skills, you now have the strength to reflect on the times you were under extreme stress and handled things poorly, without really going there emotionally.

You’re healthy, and aging like a sexy bottle of Sangiovese

You’ve been wise enough to add to your storehouse of knowledge as you’ve gotten older. There are benefits to knowing yourself intimately.

You know how much sleep you need, etc. Sugar, salt, and fat get a watchful eye from you now.

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Reaching this far in life is due in part to giving yourself proper emotional care and mental stimulation. The third decade of life beckons you to learn what feeds your soul and put more focus there.

You aim for legendary style, trends suck

If anything, a trend catches your eye because it’s happened before, not because you’re waiting for the next bandwagon to jump on. Trends amuse you. For example, at the root of fashion is a desire to outwardly express the personality.

Trends are layered on top for people to find a subcategory, a home for your personality and you don’t need that. Your trends are self-created and you go through phases of experimenting with who you are.

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You actually learn what you should from your mistakes

For the most part, gone are the days when you kept making mistakes, never really learning anything from them. Now, you definitely learn as much as you can from every experience. You’ve gained a certain level of self awareness and awareness of your environment.

You leverage your strength over weakness and reduce doubt

Successful accomplishments were achieved because you made a choice. At some point there was a shift, you became reward based, and adopted the “what if everything goes right?” mentality. Doubt is crippling and paralyzing. It’s not that you never doubt yourself, you just don’t allow the feeling to linger long. Feelings give your thoughts momentum, and you can’t afford for doubt to roll into a snowball. It’s not about conditioning your weaknesses away, it’s about conditioning your positive thoughts to kick in and take over.

The subtle yet impactful changes that you experience in your 30’s solidify you. But you maintain your flexibility. Things do get better as you age, only because you demand so. Pain is easier to deal with, and the nectar of life is so much sweeter. You’ve found that though it requires more focus and power, it’s very much worth it to create the tide instead of riding it.

Finally, relationships are so much more fruitful because you know yourself and you’re not afraid to say no. You’re not afraid to say yes either, when you have to dig deep and summon a strength you have never known. Watching an exotic flower grow into full bloom is nothing less than stunning… and that’s why you’re attractive.

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Last Updated on August 15, 2018

When You Start to Enjoy Being Single, These 12 Things Will Happen

When You Start to Enjoy Being Single, These 12 Things Will Happen

Being single can make you weary, especially if you didn't initiate a breakup, it could be easy to get carried away with reminiscing and what-if scenarios. Staying caught up in the past is toxic to your growth, however, and interferes with your ability to move forward. Single life can be self-actualizing and enjoyable, but you need to embrace it first. No matter where you are on your journey in coming to terms with being single, the following 12 fantastic things will happen when you accept it.

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1. You will be more focused.

    Once you start to treasure your new-found freedom, you will realize that taking time for yourself will show you what is most important in your life. Enjoying your single time will make what you want clearer and reveal which areas of your life you should build upon. Additionally, studies show that experiencing something alone results in our brain forming a more clear and longer lasting memory.

    2. You will be more active.

      Studies show that unmarried people are also more fit than their hitched counterparts. Let yourself welcome being single, and use this time to your benefit. You'll be more confident and in control when you do meet someone special.

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      3. You will be more likely to have high goals.

        Being single means you can't settle. In case someone who captures your heart comes along, you need to be at the top of your game. By embracing your time being single, you will be more able to pursue your goals and work towards a more complete, fulfilling future.

        4. You will be more creative.

          Spending time alone is also linked to an increase in creative thinking. Spending more time alone will force you to be a deeper thinker, and could lead you to solutions and projects you wouldn't have thought of otherwise.

          5. Your schedule will be your own.

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            Once you get past feeling lonely and realize how wonderful being single is, you will become aware of one of the best perks – your schedule is now completely your own. No longer do you need to have nights out approved, nor will long days at work get interrupted. Relax into loving your single life because nothing is quite as liberating as deciding every moment of your weekly schedule.

            6. You will likely save money.

              Dating is a great way to wave goodbye to all your hard earned cash. When you're with someone, there's nothing more important than impressing them, including your income. However, when the relationship fizzles, you realize how this tactic doesn't pay off. Not only are we more prone to spending when dating, married couples are more likely to have credit card debt than unmarried singles. So don't get depressed when you're eating cheap meals alone – it's really a form of investing in your future!

              7. You won't need to compromise on entertainment.

                Particularly if your significant other tends to have different tastes than you, being single can be a blessing. As soon as you can appreciate being single, you will realize how freeing it is to always watch exactly what you want. There is no longer any need to skimp on your favorite movies, plays, or TV shows that others don't appreciate.

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                8. You will have more time for your family.

                  Another thing you will realize once you learn to relish being single is you now have much more time for family. Especially when it comes to older relatives, time spent with them truly is precious. Make the most of your single time by reconnecting with family members in your life you may have been neglecting.

                  9. You have more time for your friends.

                    Once you start basking in your single glory, you will also find that you have more time for your friends. Not only will increased free time let you reconnect with friends you may have neglected while being half of a couple, studies also show that married people have much weaker social lives than those who are unmarried.

                    10. You will find new haunts in your city.

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                      Once you start to enjoy your single life again you will also find that you have plenty of time to rediscover your city. Where relationships see us fall into the same habit of favorite spots to drink, eat, or dance, when you're on your own you will naturally start to explore fresh venues again.

                      11. You'll find more interests.

                        Similarly, enjoying your time being single will give you more time to consider new hobbies and interests. Instead of repeating the same go-to dates, you can now freely explore activities that really make you passionate.

                        12. You will be more aware of what you want.

                          Ultimately, taking time to ourselves is an important ingredient in discovering what type of person is our ideal match, or what career we can happily commit to. By delighting in your uninhibited life, you are more able to experiment and thereby find out what works for you and what doesn't. Don't look at being single as a drawback, since learning more about yourself and finding out what makes you tick are crucial in forming balanced, healthy relationships in the future.

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