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Why Women In Their 30’s Are Extremely Attractive

Why Women In Their 30’s Are Extremely Attractive

There are so many factors that separate the 20’s from the 30’s. Though not as commonly spoken about, there are rites of passage for women growing into their 30’s. The beauty you exude comes from something far beneath the surface. Only those who can get to that depth will truly reach you. Getting fully grounded in your power and wielding it with every swing of your hips is no easy feat.

You say ‘yes’ to saying ‘no’

You’ve learned by now that you accomplish more when you say no more often. Keeping in shape for example, means saying no to other activities that interfere with workout time.

You’re not the grinch, you just have a better understanding of what is suitable for you. You also have your own tastes, and you definitely know the kind of flavor of life you’d like to keep. Opinions? You certainly have your own.

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You’ve reached full self-acceptance, and expect the same from others

You know who you are, and have accepted what you like. Others will have to do the same if they’re going to truly appreciate you. Unlike when you were in your 20’s, now you know the cost of associating yourself with energy-draining vampires. You now know there is nothing beneficial about having a person around who does not value you as much as you value yourself.

You only spend your time with people who can respect the true value of themselves. In return, others enjoy spending time with you because they know the depth at which they are appreciated. This doesn’t mean you enjoy being around people who respect you simply for your external actions, you want to be around people who value the inherent worth.

You don’t panic when disaster strikes

Something’s gone wrong. You’ve experienced this before. When challenges come up, you’re somehow stronger than you used to be. It has required much emotional weight lifting to get to your 30’s. You’re more prepared to take a course of action in times of stress.

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Perhaps because you’re more assured in your decision making skills, you now have the strength to reflect on the times you were under extreme stress and handled things poorly, without really going there emotionally.

You’re healthy, and aging like a sexy bottle of Sangiovese

You’ve been wise enough to add to your storehouse of knowledge as you’ve gotten older. There are benefits to knowing yourself intimately.

You know how much sleep you need, etc. Sugar, salt, and fat get a watchful eye from you now.

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Reaching this far in life is due in part to giving yourself proper emotional care and mental stimulation. The third decade of life beckons you to learn what feeds your soul and put more focus there.

You aim for legendary style, trends suck

If anything, a trend catches your eye because it’s happened before, not because you’re waiting for the next bandwagon to jump on. Trends amuse you. For example, at the root of fashion is a desire to outwardly express the personality.

Trends are layered on top for people to find a subcategory, a home for your personality and you don’t need that. Your trends are self-created and you go through phases of experimenting with who you are.

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You actually learn what you should from your mistakes

For the most part, gone are the days when you kept making mistakes, never really learning anything from them. Now, you definitely learn as much as you can from every experience. You’ve gained a certain level of self awareness and awareness of your environment.

You leverage your strength over weakness and reduce doubt

Successful accomplishments were achieved because you made a choice. At some point there was a shift, you became reward based, and adopted the “what if everything goes right?” mentality. Doubt is crippling and paralyzing. It’s not that you never doubt yourself, you just don’t allow the feeling to linger long. Feelings give your thoughts momentum, and you can’t afford for doubt to roll into a snowball. It’s not about conditioning your weaknesses away, it’s about conditioning your positive thoughts to kick in and take over.

The subtle yet impactful changes that you experience in your 30’s solidify you. But you maintain your flexibility. Things do get better as you age, only because you demand so. Pain is easier to deal with, and the nectar of life is so much sweeter. You’ve found that though it requires more focus and power, it’s very much worth it to create the tide instead of riding it.

Finally, relationships are so much more fruitful because you know yourself and you’re not afraid to say no. You’re not afraid to say yes either, when you have to dig deep and summon a strength you have never known. Watching an exotic flower grow into full bloom is nothing less than stunning… and that’s why you’re attractive.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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