“Our culture tends to value logical, analytical thinking. That doesn’t make their way better. In fact, emotionally sensitive people are the ones who become passionate about causes and make changes in the world. They are artists and caregivers and those who contribute to humanity.” — Lori Deschene
Have you ever been described as hot headed or impetuous? You may also find that you cry easily and take things to heart. If this sounds familiar to you, then your emotions may often take charge and leave your rationality behind. The prominence and dominance of your emotional self may also make you emotionally sensitive. So, what does it mean to be emotionally sensitive? What causes it? And what are the positives of being emotionally sensitive?Advertising
What is emotional sensitivity?
Psychologist and author of the book The Emotionally Sensitive Person, Karyn D. Hall, explained what emotional sensitivity is and how it manifests itself. When someone is emotionally sensitive, they tend to experience emotions more intensely than other people do. Common feeling such as love, happiness, anger, and fear are felt to a greater degree. As your emotions can sometimes get the better of you, you tend to be apprehensive about how you will react in different situations.
Emotionally sensitive people have a sensitive way of viewing the world around them. They are acutely aware of the emotions of others and can be overly tolerant or intolerant. Many emotionally sensitive people work on an intuitive level and thus do not know how to verbalize themselves and their thoughts with great accuracy. If they believe they have been rejected, emotionally sensitive people can take it very personally. Decision making can be a difficult process for these people.Advertising
What is the cause of emotional sensitivity?
Lori Deschene, the founder of Tiny Buddha and Recreate Your Life Story explained the cause of emotional sensitivity as follows:
“Emotional sensitivity is biological. Research shows that some individuals are born with more intense emotions, meaning you react faster to emotional situations, your emotions are more intense, and your emotions take longer to fade. Events in a person’s life could also influence that emotional sensitivity.”
What are the two distinct types of emotional sensitivity?
Deschene identified two types of emotional sensitivity: reactive and avoidant. There are those who are reactive; these people tend to act on feelings before they undertake the process of thought. They are exposed to an emotional trigger and they react. They can be spontaneous and fun because they possess strong impulses.
People who are avoidant tend to shy away from uncomfortable emotions and situations that they believe will be unpleasant. If, for example, someone has offended them, they will move to the other side of the room to avoid talking to that specific individual.Advertising
What are the positive aspects of being emotionally sensitive?
Emotionally sensitive people have a heightened awareness of what other people are feeling. They experience intense joy and tend to be very passionate about things that are dear to them. Because they’re passionate, they tend to strive to make a difference to their surroundings. Emotionally sensitive people also tend to care intensely about others and express themselves authentically.
People who fall under the category of being emotionally sensitive are often careful not to hurt people’s feelings. They value memories and tend to dwell on things that have happened in the past. For these people happiness is more important than success and mistakes are viewed as part of the process, rather than something to get upset about.Advertising
Hall said, “Being emotionally sensitive can be a gift. It can also be very painful and more difficult than most can understand. If I could communicate one idea, it would be to accept your sensitivity rather than reject it or hate it, and learn to manage your emotions so you can find joy and peace. You may learn to cherish your emotional sensitivity—it can be done.”
If you are someone whose emotions tend to override their rationality, then do not view this as a negative trait. Being emotional and emotionally sensitive is a very positive thing. As Hall said, it is a gift.
Last Updated on October 9, 2018
27 Ways to Instantly Feel Better When You’re Down
Who has never gone through some ups and downs in the life? But some people can feel better in a quicker way than others because they’ve found their own remedies to heal the bad feelings.
If you haven’t found yours, these ways will help you instantly feel better and ditch that negative self talk when you’re feeling bad about yourself:
- Listen to the songs you loved when you were in high school or university, this will recall you of the old good times.
- Write something. Write down how you feel as a way to express your thoughts if you don’t feel like talking to anyone.
- Draw something. Draw anything you want because no one’s going to judge your drawing skills.
- Read the postcards or letters your friends or family sent you before, remind yourself there are people who always remember you.
- Silently think of a day or moment which you truly enjoyed and try to recapture that very first feeling. Was it the day of your graduation? The moment you traveled with your loved one?
- Take out your photo albums and go over your childhood photos.
- Cry when you feel like doing so. There’s nothing wrong with crying; cry out all your fear and stress and just face the truth after crying.
- Sing loudly like no one can hear you. Do you know that in Japan, people always sing karaoke to relieve stress?
- Cook a nice meal for yourself or for your family.
- Read your previous diary entries and look at your great memories.
- Dress up nicely to feel happier.
- Don’t stay in your bed! Get your laptop or a book and sit in a coffee place.
- Take a walk outside and feel the fresh air.
- Sweat yourself! Go jogging or play some sports.
- Pick up the musical instrument you used to play a lot and start to play it.
- Tidy up your desk or wardrobe, you’ll feel good that you’re being productive and actually doing something.
- Watch some funny videos, sure you can find a lot of them on Youtube.
- Eat something you like, be it a chocolate cake, or an ice-cream. Just please yourself with the flavour you like.
- Re-read your favorite book and write down the sentences or passages that you love.
- Watch a new movie, there must be a movie which you’ve always interested in but had no time to watch it.
- Do something nice that no one will notice, say picking up a rubbish in the street and throw it to a trash bin.
- Call your best friend and just talk whatever you want! Human beings are social animals after all, connecting with people close to you will make you feel better.
- Do voluntary work and help people in need, you’ll feel happy and satisfied.
- Get drunk with your close friends at home – a safe place for you to get drunk and get crazy. Let loose and have fun with your very close friends.
- Write an email or a note to a friend who you care about.
- Get out of your routine life and meet new friends. Get out of your comfort zone! Meeting new people can give you new inspirations in life.
- Look into the mirror and smile. Act like today’s already a wonderful day. How we act affects how we feel. It’s difficult to go on feeling sad if you’re trying to smile!
It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters. — Epictetus
If you want to feel better, change what you’re doing because obviously what you’re doing doesn’t make you happy!
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