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Why Some People Are Not Pretty Or Handsome But Are Still Extremely Attractive

Why Some People Are Not Pretty Or Handsome But Are Still Extremely Attractive

Would you rather be referred to as beautiful or as extremely attractive?

The question sounds a bit redundant, doesn’t it? The words beautiful and attractive seem to be synonymous or at the very least synonyms, right?

Not quite.

Although we use the words interchangeably, they are, in fact, two very different and distinct attributes. Beauty refers only to our outward appearance. It encompasses things like:

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  • Hair style, length, and color
  • Eye color and shape
  • Bone structure
  • Physique

Generally speaking, pure and true beauty is genetically produced and cannot be artificially created — but it can be enhanced. In other words, if one is not naturally beautiful, the appearance can be improved but the person will never truly be gorgeous.

“Attractive,” on the other hand, is a co-mingling of external attributes and internal traits that combine to produce a type of magnetism that is un-explainable.

Attractiveness combines:

  • Physical appearance
  • Attitude
  • Personality
  • Disposition

Therefore, a highly attractive individual can be less than average in the looks department. We see the effects of this phenomenon in our day-to-day lives.

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Consider that “odd couple.” You know the one, where the female is drop-dead gorgeous and the guy is just OK looking?

We all ask ourselves: “What the heck is she doing with him?”

The answer is quite simple: what he lacks in looks department he compensates for by being desirable in other areas.

We think that the best-looking individuals enjoy choice pickings in the dating pool. But in fact, it’s the one who is most attractive that wins at this game.

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Take the wildly popular British R&B singer and songwriter Seal as an example. Let’s be honest — he is not exactly what most of us consider “eye candy.” He was, however, attractive enough to become world famous in an industry where good looks are a prerequisite and a golden ticket to success. Also, consider that he won the heart of the very beautiful supermodel Heidi Klum.

Attractive vs Beautiful

Beautiful:

  • Beauty is a rigid, static physical image.
  • Beauty can be inherited, photoshopped, or surgically attained.
  • Beauty leads individuals toward the pursuit of the physical features associated with the word.

Attractive:

  • Attractiveness is fluid and variable. It flows from the inside out.
  • Attractiveness is developed and evolves over time. It is ageless.
  • Attractiveness is an attainable goal for those who take care of their bodies, enjoy their lives, maintain sensuality, and engage with others.

We can alter our appearance with makeup and cosmetic procedures. We can manipulate our body and hair with clothing, tattoos, and adornments. But appearance is only part of the equation. Of all the elements that make us truly attractive, physical beauty is only one.

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So What Makes A Person Attractive?

Webster defines attractive as, “The quality that arouses interest and pleasure. The power to attract.” It lists synonyms such as:

  • Charming
  • Charismatic
  • Captivating
  • Engaging

Being an attractive person takes more than rock-hard abs, a round and firm bubble butt, and a great set of teeth. It encapsulates and exudes the true essence of who we are as human beings.

The way in which we interact with others and the world around us is the key to being truly attractive. It is the way we carry ourselves. It is how we feel about ourselves. And, most importantly, it is how we make others feel about themselves when they are in our presence.

Make no mistake about it, physical beauty is a critical element in being attractive. Taking pride in our appearance by being neat, clean, polished, and presentable screams of self-esteem and self-worth — two very attractive qualities.

Simply put, being attractive is our ability to draw people to us… it is our magnetism.

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

What do I want to do with my life? It’s a question all of us think about at one point or another.

For some, the answer comes easily. For others, it takes a lifetime to figure out.

It’s easy to just go through the motions and continue to do what’s comfortable and familiar. But for those of you who seek fulfillment, who want to do more, these questions will help you paint a clearer picture of what you want to do with your life.

1. What are the things I’m most passionate about?

The first step to living a more fulfilling life is to think about the things that you’re passionate about.

What do you love? What fulfills you? What “work” do you do that doesn’t feel like work? Maybe you enjoy writing, maybe you love working with animals or maybe you have a knack for photography.

The point is, figure out what you love doing, then do more of it.

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2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

Think about your past experiences and the things in your life you’re most proud of.

How did those accomplishments make you feel? Pretty darn good, right? So why not try and emulate those experiences and feelings?

If you ran a marathon once and loved the feeling you had afterwards, start training for another one. If your child grew up to be a star athlete or musician because of your teachings, then be a coach or mentor for other kids.

Continue to do the things that have been most fulfilling for you.

3. If my life had absolutely no limits, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?

Here’s a cool exercise: Think about what you would do if you had no limits.

If you had all the money and time in the world, where would you go? What would you do? Who would you spend time with?

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These answers can help you figure out what you want to do with your life. It doesn’t mean you need millions of dollars to be happy though.

What it does mean is answering these questions will help you set goals to reach certain milestones and create a path toward happiness and fulfillment. Which leads to our next question …

4. What are my goals in life?

Goals are a necessary component to set you up for a happy future. So answer these questions:

Once you figure out the answers to each of these, you’ll have a much better idea of what you should do with your life.

5. Whom do I admire most in the world?

Following the path of successful people can set you up for success.

Think about the people you respect and admire most. What are their best qualities? Why do you respect them? What can you learn from them?

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You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.[1] So don’t waste your time with people who hold you back from achieving your dreams.

Spend more time with happy, successful, optimistic people and you’ll become one of them.

6. What do I not like to do?

An important part of figuring out what you want to do with your life is honestly assessing what you don’t want to do.

What are the things you despise? What bugs you the most about your current job?

Maybe you hate meetings even though you sit through 6 hours of them every day. If that’s the case, find a job where you can work more independently.

The point is, if you want something to change in your life, you need to take action. Which leads to our final question …

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7. How hard am I willing to work to get what I want?

Great accomplishments never come easy. If you want to do great things with your life, you’re going to have to make a great effort. That will probably mean putting in more hours the average person, getting outside your comfort zone and learning as much as you can to achieve as much as you can.

But here’s the cool part: it’s often the journey that is the most fulfilling part. It’s during these seemingly small, insignificant moments that you’ll often find that “aha” moments that helps you answer the question,

“What do I want to do with my life?”

So take the first step toward improving your life. You won’t regret it.

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