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Why Some People Are Not Pretty Or Handsome But Are Still Extremely Attractive

Why Some People Are Not Pretty Or Handsome But Are Still Extremely Attractive

Would you rather be referred to as beautiful or as extremely attractive?

The question sounds a bit redundant, doesn’t it? The words beautiful and attractive seem to be synonymous or at the very least synonyms, right?

Not quite.

Although we use the words interchangeably, they are, in fact, two very different and distinct attributes. Beauty refers only to our outward appearance. It encompasses things like:

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  • Hair style, length, and color
  • Eye color and shape
  • Bone structure
  • Physique

Generally speaking, pure and true beauty is genetically produced and cannot be artificially created — but it can be enhanced. In other words, if one is not naturally beautiful, the appearance can be improved but the person will never truly be gorgeous.

“Attractive,” on the other hand, is a co-mingling of external attributes and internal traits that combine to produce a type of magnetism that is un-explainable.

Attractiveness combines:

  • Physical appearance
  • Attitude
  • Personality
  • Disposition

Therefore, a highly attractive individual can be less than average in the looks department. We see the effects of this phenomenon in our day-to-day lives.

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Consider that “odd couple.” You know the one, where the female is drop-dead gorgeous and the guy is just OK looking?

We all ask ourselves: “What the heck is she doing with him?”

The answer is quite simple: what he lacks in looks department he compensates for by being desirable in other areas.

We think that the best-looking individuals enjoy choice pickings in the dating pool. But in fact, it’s the one who is most attractive that wins at this game.

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Take the wildly popular British R&B singer and songwriter Seal as an example. Let’s be honest — he is not exactly what most of us consider “eye candy.” He was, however, attractive enough to become world famous in an industry where good looks are a prerequisite and a golden ticket to success. Also, consider that he won the heart of the very beautiful supermodel Heidi Klum.

Attractive vs Beautiful

Beautiful:

  • Beauty is a rigid, static physical image.
  • Beauty can be inherited, photoshopped, or surgically attained.
  • Beauty leads individuals toward the pursuit of the physical features associated with the word.

Attractive:

  • Attractiveness is fluid and variable. It flows from the inside out.
  • Attractiveness is developed and evolves over time. It is ageless.
  • Attractiveness is an attainable goal for those who take care of their bodies, enjoy their lives, maintain sensuality, and engage with others.

We can alter our appearance with makeup and cosmetic procedures. We can manipulate our body and hair with clothing, tattoos, and adornments. But appearance is only part of the equation. Of all the elements that make us truly attractive, physical beauty is only one.

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So What Makes A Person Attractive?

Webster defines attractive as, “The quality that arouses interest and pleasure. The power to attract.” It lists synonyms such as:

  • Charming
  • Charismatic
  • Captivating
  • Engaging

Being an attractive person takes more than rock-hard abs, a round and firm bubble butt, and a great set of teeth. It encapsulates and exudes the true essence of who we are as human beings.

The way in which we interact with others and the world around us is the key to being truly attractive. It is the way we carry ourselves. It is how we feel about ourselves. And, most importantly, it is how we make others feel about themselves when they are in our presence.

Make no mistake about it, physical beauty is a critical element in being attractive. Taking pride in our appearance by being neat, clean, polished, and presentable screams of self-esteem and self-worth — two very attractive qualities.

Simply put, being attractive is our ability to draw people to us… it is our magnetism.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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