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6 Philosophies Every Woman Trying To Lose Weight Should Read

6 Philosophies Every Woman Trying To Lose Weight Should Read

If you’ve ever tried to lose weight – for whatever reason – you’ve probably found that one bit of dietary or fitness advice does not fit all! Whether you’re trying to drop a little extra weight, or just trying to keep in shape, here are 6 top pieces of advice I always share with my clients to help their weight loss journey be more harmonious and successful.

1. Stop trying to emulate others

Find out what works for your body and what does not.

Do not make the mistake that many people make when they try to copy their idol. These idols may make random comments such as “spirulina changed my life.” The result being a massive increase in spirulina sales. Yet, spirulina may not suit everyone. I know when I tried spirulina, after 4 days I was so constipated I felt like I had swallowed a brick. Having sufficient iron levels already, adding spirulina to my daily routine did not suit my constitution at all.

The same for a 7 day juice only plan. All it gave me was a headache and rebound weight gain.

You will know when a food or diet program suits you when you gain energy and vitality as opposed deprivation and irritability.

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2. You have the tools you need at hand

Don’t have any money? Going for a run is free.

Not sporty? Take up walking, even if it means walking 10 minutes a day.

Step outside your front door and get started.

Need weights for your arms? Carry a 500ml water bottle in each hand.

Once you have made a start, no matter what level, you can raise the level of exercise from one week to the next.

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3. There will be pain

I am not going to sugar coat this point.

Of course there will be pain, or else you would have made changes to your lifestyle long ago.

I liken myself to a fat person living in a thin body. Yes, you heard me correctly. Just like a reformed alcoholic who is only a drink away from falling off the wagon, if I find myself wandering from my usual eating habits (for example start eating processed foods on a regular basis) I will fall off the wagon and be on the slippery slope to obesity once again.

When I first stopped eating the processed foods that I mistakenly thought was okay to eat, such as brown pasta and breads, I felt miserable. I would crave these foods. But instinctively I knew that I had to work through the initial pain.

Having cereal for breakfast, sandwiches for lunch and pasta for dinner was a carb overload that did not suit my body at all. Where was the fruit and vegetables in all this? When I first stopped eating the processed foods and introduced a diet comprising more fruit and vegetables, the withdrawals were so severe I had to send my husband and children away for a weekend away!

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But after a couple of days, I woke up with such clarity and energy, I knew that I had overcome the worst days and the future was going to be okay. The pain was gone and was replaced with enthusiasm and strength to move on.

4. Find out what you enjoy doing and modify what you do not

If your aim is to lose weight or to improve your exercise endurance but do not like the thought of joining a gym, then find something that you do enjoy. There may be a walking club in your area, or explore other possibilities such as line dancing, pole dancing (keep an open mind here!), or water aerobics.

Even if you have a regular exercise regime, it is always important to break your routine to give your body a change of scenery. Do you take the same walk to the bus stop every morning, or evening while out walking the dog? Try and vary your route and you will be amazed at what you discover. Maybe you may find the new street has less traffic or better access. You will see something new and pay attention to it. This is the way your body reacts to a new exercise regime. Different muscles may be activated thus reigniting your body.

5. Stay positive

There will be bad days as well as the good.

When I decided that it was time to lose weight and no longer be trapped in the obese body I was encased in, the journey was not all smooth sailing. There were times I would look at my husband with envy and anger. He is one of those rare people who actually has trouble gaining weight. He does not have to watch what he eats and has never had to worry about his weight.

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Being angry with him served me no purpose. It was only making me miserable so I decided to concentrate on my own journey. When the weight started to go down, and clothes shopping became easier (buying off the rack has its benefits) the journey was that much sweeter because I had earned it.

6. Develop a plan by visualizing your goal

There are 3 steps that you must take if you want to achieve your goal and these are vision, goal, action.

Vision is self explanatory. You want to visualize yourself as being slimmer than you are now. You can do it. You must create a vision not about what you can do but about what you want to be able to do.

Goal: whether it is an upcoming wedding or your own birthday party, having a goal to work towards is a great tool to work towards. In my instance, my goals kept changing as I lost the weight, At first I thought it would be great to look good for an upcoming family reunion. I aimed to lose 5kg for that event that was one month away.  Once I started losing the weight, I then knew that I could achieve even more weight loss. Never in my wildest dreams did I think that I would lose the weight that I did (25kg), but breaking it down into achievable goals allowed to me achieve what I originally thought was impossible. (On a side note here, before I decide I had to lose weight when I was obese and in my late 40’s I had resigned myself to being obese for the rest of my life. If I had not changed this mindset and made the changes that I made, I know that I would not be the same person I am today, both inside and out and so glad that I made the decision to do something about my ever expanding waistline all those years ago.)

Action: vision without action will get you nowhere fast! This is where the hard work begins. The first step is the hardest, but once you have made the first step the journey becomes easier, albeit with a few bumps along the way to keep you on top of your toes. This is where you have to find a program that suits your style and way of life.

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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