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How To Give Constructive Criticism To Educate Your Kids

How To Give Constructive Criticism To Educate Your Kids

Parenting 5.0 – how to conduct constructive criticism to educate your children. This, in my personal opinion, is extremely crucial in building and shaping your children’s future. It is important because your criticism and your behaviour will greatly influence the life of your children.

Children hardly forget things, words and people. Often, many children, between the age four to six, tend to be sensitive towards everything happening around them. For example, my son, who is four years old, is quite sensitive. If we scold him, he reacts in a negative manner. We have to be very cautious in dealing with him in order to correct his mistakes, and we correct him through constructive criticism.

What is constructive criticism?

Constructive criticism is criticism without judgement that is expressed in a friendly manner, and is valued to be reasonable, logical and effective. These opinions are based on an individual’s work and have the blending of both positive and negative observations. The main purpose of constructive criticism is to improve the result of the individual’s work. For example, when you cook a meal for the first time, you ask your partner for their opinions. Instead of simply hearing, “This tastes so heavenly”, you would rather prefer constructive criticism like “Just add a little bit of salt and bake it for another 10 minutes, I think it’ll taste better”. As much as this is applicable to you, it is equally important to apply this to educate your children.

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How to provide constructive criticism to your children?

When we see our kids doing something wrong or dangerous, we often scold them straight away. But please remember that raising voices, calling them names, or even threatening them are not the ideal ways to bring up your kids. Blaming your children may instantly vent your anger and frustration, but this will hamper your relationship with them in the long-term. For example, if your kids refuse to listen to you and do something opposing, instead of yelling at them and calling them ‘stupid’, you can simply say, “I don’t like what you are doing because it may hurt you. Kindly stop doing it because I love you.”

Does this kind of constructive criticism help? Yes, it does. It highlights what is right and what is wrong in a positive manner, and it should be like the hamburger below formed by compliment and criticism.

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    Here are 6 ways in which you can educate your kid with constructive criticism:

    1. Point out the problem by using descriptive statement instead of language with judgement

    As I have previously mentioned, there is no point in scolding your kids for their mistakes. It will only worsen the situation. Using language with judgement, such as ‘how stupid you are’, or ‘you are behaving like a maniac’ won’t help either. The best solution is to recognize your kids’ previous effort and achievement first and then explain to them about their problems in an objective manner. For instance, if you are disappointed with your boy’s test result in Mathematics, instead of scolding him, tell him “I understand you are good at other subjects, but not Maths. Don’t worry, just practice harder. I think you will achieve a better result next time. If you have any problems in your learning, I can talk to your teacher or I’ll help you with it. I hope to see you having some improvement in the next test.”

    2. Figure out the root of the problem before criticising

    It is important to figure out the root of the problem and it is your duty to do so. It would be easier for you to explain to your child what has gone wrong. Think twice or as many times as you need before you express your dissatisfaction or anger. Your constructive criticism is always more useful than emotional outburst. Let’s continue with your boy’s Maths problem. Maybe he has some problems in the class. Maybe he’s nervous during the test. Just dig deep to find out the root cause and come up with corresponding solutions. Good problem-solving skills are what all parents have to master.

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    3. Control your anger

    Don’t let your anger take the upper hand. You are dealing with a child, not an adult. Remember, children have feelings too. No one likes hearing criticism in an a hostile manner. Next time before you lose your temper, try not to talk to your child. Take time, calm down, even if it takes hours. Only approach your kids when you become even-tempered. You must have a controlled, loving tone when talking to your children.

    4. Tell your children about the consequences of their mistakes

    Another important point is to only criticise about the wrongdoing, but not your child. When you are delivering your criticism, make sure your kids understand that what distresses you is their behaviour but not themselves. For example, if your children get hooked to television or tablet, tell them that you are worried because watching too much may lead to troubled eyesights. Explain to them that you wouldn’t like them to be wearing glasses. Guide them to get involved in different activities that will keep their mind activated.

    5. Be clear about your criticism

    Before you start criticizing your beloved small ones, make sure you know what to deliver. If you hesitate, your children may misinterpret the message. Your aim is to educate your child, not to embarrass or punish them. Think before you deliver.

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    6. Give your children an opportunity to correct themselves

    Be it failing in school or misbehaving, the ultimate goal of constructive criticism is to prompt your children to realize their mistakes and make corresponding corrections. In this way, your kids will learn to take responsibilities of their own actions in the future.

    Raising kids is not an easy task. Through constructive criticism, you can shape a better and more successful future of your children.

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    Published on September 4, 2018

    19 Youtube Children’s Videos That Will Help Make Your Kid Smarter

    19 Youtube Children’s Videos That Will Help Make Your Kid Smarter

    There’s no reason why education should be a bore for kids. Thanks to the wonders of YouTube, they can now find fun, informative, and important videos that can make them smarter one clip at a time.

    Here are 19 Youtube children’s videos to send your kids off into an exciting world of new possibilities:

    1. How big is the ocean? TED-Ed

    TED’s educational channel is perfect for kids. With its fun animations and interesting topics, along with its accessible, means there are some big and complex topics reduced into understandable content. It makes learning fun!

    2. All about nouns – Free School

    Getting to grips with grammar can be hard work. Even authors, journalists, and academics can make elementary errors from time to time.

    The earlier you start, the better, but these Free School videos teach the basics of grammar in vibrant fashion.

    3. Bach’s Partita in E Major – Smalin

    Stephen Malinsowki’s channel takes classical music into the 21st century. With his animated videos, the world’s most famous compositions get transformed into visual treats thanks to his efforts.

    For more about his videos, check out 16 inspiring classic music videos.

    4. First Circumnavigation of the Earth – Simple History

    Here’s an epic history lesson – who were the first humans to circumnavigate the globe? It was Ferdinand Magellan (sort of), although this complex story of bravery and suffering is an incredible story to add to any child’s knowledge of world history.

    The channel offers plenty more like this, too, and simplifies difficult topics.

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    5. Can we “de-extinct” animals? – The Brain Scoop

    The Brain Scoop channel takes a look at many creepy crawlies, plus big questions of our day. This includes whether we can, Jurassic Park style, bring back woolly mammoths and/or mastodons.

    6. Otter cubs get a swimming lesson – BBC Earth

    The BBC is famous for its wildlife documentaries. On BBC Earth’s YouTube channel, you’ll find a large amount of videos of the world’s animals at large.

    Below are some otter cubs finding out how to swim – one of many educational videos about animals.

    7. Elmo riding a tricycle – Sesame Street

    It’s been around for decades, it’s affected many people across the world (even I used to watch it as a young one back in the late 1980s), and it’s on YouTube!

    The channel has the sort of fun material you’d expect, with this video offering a welcome confidence boost for anyone about to learn how to ride a bike.

    8. Jack Back Wants to See Your Weird – SoulPancake

    Weird is wonderful. And Jack Black wants you to embrace your daft side.

    The SoulPancake channel dares kids to think outside the box, as well as embrace their wacky side. Ideal for any young minds looking to unleash their inner creativity.

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    9. Lisa Winter, Robot Builder – Amy Poehler’s Smart Girls

    This is Amy Poehler’s channel that takes a look at inspirational women from around the world.

    Here we have Lisa Winter, who builds robots. It’s a great channel if your daughter is looking to challenge herself, or find an exciting new hobby.

    10. What happens if you eat mold? – SciShow

    We’ve probably all thought about what happens if you eat mold. Now we know, thanks too the SciShow.

    This channel takes a fun look at science and dares to answer some of the big questions of our world (as well as some of the smaller ones).

    11. What’s the hottest hot and coldest cold? – It’s Okay To Be Smart

    Any budding scientists will find this channel helpful. Here we have the answer to the hottest hot and the coldest cold, which anyone can use to enlighten those around them!

    For kids, it’s physics made easy thanks to a fun channel that also uses some excellent animation.

    12. iPhone in molten aluminium – The Backyard Scientist

    This backyard scientist gets up to all manner of unusual experiments.

    Here he’s doing the unthinkable – immersing an iPhone into molten aluminium. What do you think will happen?

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    13. 3D pen wall art – Make Anything

    A 3D printing and design channel! With this clip, kids can find some artistic inspiration.

    A search through the rest of the channel will also be enough for any young mind to find a new project or two.

    14. Mesopotamian ghostbusting with Irving Finkel – British Museum

    Here’s a handy history lesson for inquisitive young minds. Learn about ancient Mesopotamia with Irving Finkel, a philologist and Assyriologist for the British Museum.

    As this video from the museum’s official channel points out, Irv ain’t afraid of no ghost.

    15. What Do We Do All Day?

    This lovely little mini-science experiment will help your kids create an ocean in a bottle. I’m 33 and I want to make one of these things, so I should imagine any younger individual would be positively thrilled to make one of these.

    What Do We Do All Day’s channel offers up many other gems such as this, too.

    16. Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again – Kermode and Mayo

    The BBC’s flagship film review show is an absolute joy – it has an army of fans across the world.

    Asides from being funny and entertaining, film critics Dr. Mark Kermode’s impassioned reviews are educational and progressive.

    Perfect listening for anyone getting to appreciate film criticism.

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    17. Rare double asteroid revealed – NASA

    NASA’s channel is full of other worldly wonders such as this rare double asteroid reveal. Along with its many live streams from the Earth’s orbit, it’s a fascinating and essential channel for any young mind to be following.

    18. What has NASA’s Juno discovered around Jupiter? – Astrum

    Astrum is a bit like NASA’s channel, but more detailed. It takes a close look at some of our planets, for instance, like with the ever-fascinating Jupiter.

    If you have any budding astronauts in your family, this is another essential channel.

    19. Best creative home hacks anyone can do – HooplaKidz

    Last but not least, here we have some arts and crafts.

    Would your kid like one of these cute cushions in your home? Would they also want to create it themselves?

    Then this is the right video and channel for you. Find out the basics for some fun crafts and liven up your home with a few friendly new knickknacks.

    There you go, 19 Youtube children’s videos that will help your kids learn new stuff in a fun way! Of course, with a bit of your guidance while watching these videos together, you’re having some really good quality time with your kids too!

    Featured photo credit: Unsplash via unsplash.com

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