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10 Tips to Encourage Fathers to Become Better Dads

10 Tips to Encourage Fathers to Become Better Dads

Each day, men are becoming fathers in a society that has shifted focus from a woman being the primary caretaker, to co-parenting. When fathers take a more active role in their child’s life, it is not only more fulfilling for the parent, but the child will benefit as well.

1. Have Meals Together

It does not matter which meal it is, but part of a healthy family life lies in sharing meals. It provides structure on days that are busy. This time also facilitates communication between the family. The children and parents can discuss what they are doing and what they would like to do.

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2. Provide Your Kids With a Lifelong Self-worth

Whether you realize it or not, you are a role model for your child. A father can show a daughter how she ought to be treated and respected by a man, and a father can show his son how he should act with humility, honesty, and responsibility.

3. Instill in Your Children a Love for Reading

It is obvious that television and other technology dominates our lives every single day. Taking the time to read to your child will instill a love for reading, and this will carry on through their life to ensure growth. Read to them when they are young, and encourage them to read when they are able to on their own.

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4. Listen!

When a child has something that they would like to say, always listen. If you continuously tell them that they need to hold on, they will learn that is an acceptable answer to tell someone as they grow up. Put down the smart phone or laptop and engage in a conversation with them.

5. Spend Time with Your Children Doing Fun Things

This is not as easy as it may sound. If you are unable to make time for the kids, they will feel neglected. You will need to make sacrifices sometimes, but once time is lost, you can’t go back. A great way to enjoy time together is to plan fun outdoor activities, like hunting or fishing.

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6. It’s OK to Show Your Tender Side

Children need to be shown that they are loved, wanted, and accepted by their family. Hug your children, kiss them goodnight – just take a moment out of your day to show them how much they mean to you, even if it is just a small gesture.

7. Display Integrity

Be the same father in public that you are behind closed doors. If you make promise upon promise all week about having fun on the weekend, but never pull through, your children will start to see the transparency of what you are saying. Keep your promises and practice what you preach.

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8. Discipline Equates Character Development, Not Anger

It is inevitable that a child will need discipline in their lifetime, but often times, one common mistake that parents make is that their anger overshadows the lesson that should be taught. Discipline out of love while being fair. Remind them that actions have consequences, but desirable behavior comes with rewards.

9. Communicate as a Family

Don’t underestimate the power of positive words. When problems arise regarding the child, be sure to include the child in the conversation. When they know that the family is one united unit, they will feel more secure. This will also help to build trust within the parent-child relationship.

10. Always Remember that Being a Father is a Permanent Job

Even when the children are grown up and are leaving home, they will still look to you for advice and wisdom. You will always be an indispensable part of their life, with the ability to provide a model for how they should live as responsible adults.

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Last Updated on November 20, 2018

10 Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail

10 Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail

A new year beautifully symbolizes a new chapter opening in the book that is your life. But while so many people like you aspire to achieve ambitious goals, only 12% of you will ever experience the taste of victory. Sound bad? It is. 156 million people (that’s 156,000,000) will probably give up on their resolution before you can say “confetti.” Keep on reading to learn why New Year’s resolutions fail (and how to succeed).

Note: Since losing weight is the most common New Year’s resolution, I chose to focus on weight loss (but these principles can be applied to just about any goal you think of — make it work for you!).

1. You’re treating a marathon like a sprint.

Slow and steady habit change might not be sexy, but it’s a lot more effective than the “I want it ALL and I want it NOW!” mentality. Small changes stick better because they aren’t intimidating (if you do it right, you’ll barely even notice them!).

If you have a lot of bad habits today, the last thing you need to do is remodel your entire life overnight. Want to lose weight? Stop it with the crash diets and excessive exercise plans. Instead of following a super restrictive plan that bans anything fun, add one positive habit per week. For example, you could start with something easy like drinking more water during your first week. The following week, you could move on to eating 3 fruits and veggies every day. And the next week, you could aim to eat a fistful of protein at every meal.

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2. You put the cart before the horse.

“Supplementing” a crappy diet is stupid, so don’t even think about it. Focus on the actions that produce the overwhelming amount of results. If it’s not important, don’t worry about it.

3. You don’t believe in yourself.

A failure to act can cripple you before you leave the starting line. If you’ve tried (and failed) to set a New Year’s resolution (or several) in the past, I know it might be hard to believe in yourself. Doubt is a nagging voice in your head that will resist personal growth with every ounce of its being. The only way to defeat doubt is to believe in yourself. Who cares if you’ve failed a time or two? This year, you can try again (but better this time).

4. Too much thinking, not enough doing.

The best self-help book in the world can’t save you if you fail to take action. Yes, seek inspiration and knowledge, but only as much as you can realistically apply to your life. If you can put just one thing you learn from every book or article you read into practice, you’ll be on the fast track to success.

5. You’re in too much of a hurry.

If it was quick-and-easy, everybody would do it, so it’s in your best interest to exercise your patience muscles.

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6. You don’t enjoy the process.

Is it any wonder people struggle with their weight when they see eating as a chore and exercise as a dreadful bore? The best fitness plan is one that causes the least interruption to your daily life. The goal isn’t to add stress to your life, but rather to remove it.

The best of us couldn’t bring ourselves to do something we hate consistently, so make getting in shape fun, however you’ve gotta do it. That could be participating in a sport you love, exercising with a good friend or two, joining a group exercise class so you can meet new people, or giving yourself one “free day” per week where you forget about your training plan and exercise in any way you please.

7. You’re trying too hard.

Unless you want to experience some nasty cravings, don’t deprive your body of pleasure. The more you tell yourself you can’t have a food, the more you’re going to want it. As long as you’re making positive choices 80-90% of the time, don’t sweat the occasional indulgence.

8. You don’t track your progress.

Keeping a written record of your training progress will help you sustain an “I CAN do this” attitude. All you need is a notebook and a pen. For every workout, record what exercises you do, the number of repetitions performed, and how much weight you used if applicable. Your goal? Do better next time. Improving your best performance on a regular basis offers positive feedback that will encourage you to keep going.

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9. You have no social support.

It can be hard to stay motivated when you feel alone. The good news? You’re not alone: far from it. Post a status on Facebook asking your friends if anybody would like to be your gym or accountability buddy. If you know a co-worker who shares your goal, try to coordinate your lunch time and go out together so you’ll be more likely to make positive decisions. Join a support group of like-minded folks on Facebook, LinkedIn, or elsewhere on the internet. Strength in numbers is powerful, so use it to your advantage.

10. You know your what but not your why.

The biggest reason why most New Year’s resolutions fail: you know what you want but you not why you want it.

Yes: you want to get fit, lose weight, or be healthy… but why is your goal important to you? For example:

Do you want to be fit so you can be a positive example that your children can admire and look up to?

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Do you want to lose fat so you’ll feel more confident and sexy in your body than ever before?

Do you want to be healthy so you’ll have increased clarity, energy, and focus that would carry over into every single aspect of your life?

Whether you’re getting in shape because you want to live longer, be a good example, boost your energy, feel confident, have an excuse to buy hot new clothes, or increase your likelihood of getting laid (hey, I’m not here to judge) is up to you. Forget about any preconceived notions and be true to yourself.

  • The more specific you can make your goal,
  • The more vivid it will be in your imagination,
  • The more encouraged you’ll be,
  • The more likely it is you will succeed (because yes, you CAN do this!).

I hope this guide to why New Year’s resolutions fail helps you achieve your goals this year. If you found this helpful, please pass it along to some friends so they can be successful just like you. What do you hope to accomplish next year?

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