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17 Things I Wish I Did Before Turning 35

17 Things I Wish I Did Before Turning 35

Did we do all the things we had hoped to do? Are we where we had hoped we would be? Life is a series of choices, so have no regrets. But we can always imagine!

17 things I Wish I Did Before Turning 35

  1. Travel alone to a far away country
    If you have never done this before, you should. Traveling alone is an entirely different experience than traveling with a friend. Challenge yourself. It might not be comfortable at first, but you will reap rewards you are not even aware of yet.
  2. Get rid of toxic relationships earlier
    It seems like such an easy one! But sometimes we don’t do the thing for ourselves that we know is best. It can be hard. But consider your relationship with yourself – consider caring for yourself, the way that you would expect a friend to. Then love yourself enough to cut toxicity out of your life. Now.
  3. Put my own needs before anyone else
    We often barge through life doing what we have learned, or what is expected of us. Sit with yourself a while. Find out what you need. Then be unapologetic going after them, or for putting yourself first. Not all the time, balance is everything. But find out when you need to put yourself first, and just do it.
  4. Violate unnecessary rules Rules were made to be broken! Just kidding. But the rules that are made for your life are often made by others. Consider them. Are they really what is best for you? If not, break the rules. Make your own, that work for you, and stick to them instead.
  5. Say no firmly
    This does not make you a monster. If people are not listening, and you do not wish to proceed, just say no. Practice this. Practice makes perfect. Know your rights. In time it will not feel uncomfortable at all, you will simply be taking a stand for yourself, and reaping the rewards.
  6. Care less about what others think
    Practice this too! You are the only person that should be concerned with your choices. Forget the rest.
  7. Take the class you always thought about
    Remember that painting/ pottery/ hip hop class you always thought about taking because it would be SO fun? Do it while you have the time.
  8. Study abroad
    Before family or any kind of responsibility comes into the equation, look into studying abroad. You can learn invaluable things about the world and forge lifelong friendships. This is a life-changing opportunity so take it if, and while you can.
  9. Try a risky career move
    Ever had a business idea you wanted to go gangbusters with, and only needed young craziness to actually pursue it? Go for it.The worst that can happen is that you will fail. But at least you would have given your nude modelling career a go, and had fun in the process!
  10. Listen to my heart
    Listen to your heart, instead of your head. See where it takes you.
  11. Plan a dream holiday with all of my best friends
    Although we can still try and do this throughout our lives, making memories like this can set the precedent for the future. Do it early. Do it as much as you possibly can.
  12. Trust myself
    Easier said than done. But again, practice makes perfect. If we perfect this in our twenties, we are setting the standard for the years to come.
  13. Play music
    Sing in a band! Have fun! Not only will you meet people and have a great time, you can learn about a new world, and gain confidence through performance.
  14. Do everything your parents told you not to
    Well, at least one. See where your own path takes you. Learn to trust yourself.
  15. Take the road less traveled
    We do this subconsciously sometimes when we don’t even realize it. Try to get off the beaten path in your earlier years, at a time when you might not have anyone to care for but yourself. (But always tell someone where you’re going.)
  16. Fall in love with the right person
    We all know the fun stories of the bad boys or girls. But practice falling in love with the good person. It will propel you toward happiness, and fill you with decency and peace that you deserve.
  17. Love your past, as part of you
    Remember that our pasts make us who we are! So whatever happens, the journey you took brought you right to this moment. And it’s never too late.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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