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9 Creative Gift Ideas to Surprise Your Partner

9 Creative Gift Ideas to Surprise Your Partner

If you want to show your partner how much you care, the best way to do that is to make a gift that will mean a lot them. Put some effort into it, for Christ’s sake. Show them that they are special. Even if you have a gift in mind that you already bought, there are ways to present it in a creative manner.

1. Create your own love story book or comic with pictures and drawings

This is the most creative gift you can give your partner, and you’ll both end up shedding tears of joy. In order to make this gift, you need a nice blank notebook or just papers that you can bind together with nice hard covers, as well as pictures of you and a few different pens.

The point of this gift is to tell your life story, and include some humorous situations, as well as romantic ones. You can write a story, and add pictures, or just write some of your quotes related to the picture. It may be hard to picture the love story book at first, but you’ll get a hang of it when you start making it.

If your partner is a comic book fan, and you know how to draw, you can make a comic book of your love story. It can also be just the first chapter, and if your partner is addicted to a particular comic book, you can make it in that style.

Start with the beginning of your relationship, and continue to the very moment you gave them the book. You can just name it “The First Chapter”, so it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been in a relationship. You can even use the last page to propose, if you are at that stage of the relationship. If not, the First Chapter of your love story will be enough to take your partner’s breath away.

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As this gift is made by you, except for being romantic, it will probably be the best gift your partner has ever gotten.

2. Rainbow roses go with every gift

If you know what your partner will love, but you want to make your gift more creative and personal, you can make rainbow roses. You’ll need water soluble colors, a scalpel or sharp blade and white roses.

Take different colors, and make sure they make a high contrast in order to achieve the desired effect. When coloring the first rose, take just one color to practice, and for the second try with four different colors. Split the stem of the rose and then make another cut almost 6 inches, so you have four equal segments.

Put the colors in different cups, and take four parts and put them in each cup. To make the magic happen, you’ll need to leave them for 24 hours.

3. Handmade brass or copper necklace

You cannot make this gift by yourself, unless you know how to make jewelry. However, there are many brass and copper jewelry makers, who can make you a custom and highly original necklace. You can easily find people who make them on Facebook, and Etsy.

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Make sure the page isn’t a scam, and consult with some female friends. When you contact the maker, tell them about the style of your partner, what kind of jewelry they wear, and if there is something special they like such as Harry Potter, Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, or just some others such as dragonfly, rose, butterfly, etc. They can make almost anything from copper and brass, and even put some crystal or other stones.

When making it, they can engrave it to make the gift more personal. This isn’t an expensive gift, but is creative, original and shows how much effort you put into making something special for your special person.

4. Bracelet with pendants describing your love story

If you saw the film “If Only” you know how this bracelet should look like. Basically, you should buy chain link bracelet, on which you can put different pendants. These pendants should represent important moments in your relationship, and tell your love story from the beginning.

This gift is completely original, as it describes your story, so you’ll need to go through a lot of pendants to find perfect ones. If you just put on nice pendants, then it isn’t creative or unique. Put a pendant that describes your first date, and others for some life events. For example, if you met in a bar, then use a pendant representing a beer glass; or if you went to Paris together, then put the Eiffel tower.

5. DIY pillow case

If your partner and you spend a lot of time watching films and TV shows, then one DIY quote pillow is the perfect gift for your partner. You can write whatever you want, and even put a picture on it. In order to make it unique, quote your partner or use a movie quote, but make sure that it’s something you both laughed about for days.

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To make this, you’ll need a pillow, a pillow case, letter stencils, fabric marker, ruler, pencil, scissors, and tape. Measure length of words, then tape the stencils to the pillow case. Measure the rows, as well as the height, so they are evenly spaced. Then use marker, stuff the pillow and your gift is ready.

6. Personalized snow globe

Snow globes are perfect gifts, and are mostly popular during winter as Christmas gifts. However, you can make a snow globe for your partner and instead of a Christmas tree and a deer put something that has a lot of meaning for both of you. For this DIY snow globe you need a small baby food jar, tiny object of whatever you want, Styrofoam, glitter, fake snow, fake snow or confetti, a ribbon and craft glue.

Start with painting the jar lid any color you want. Then, cut a piece of Styrofoam so it can fit the lid, and glue it in the center of the lid. Put it on the surface of the Styrofoam craft glue, and put little item or items. Put in the jar fake snow, confetti, and glitter, and when the items are glued to the jar lids, just close the jar carefully. Put the ribbon and your gift is done.

7. Survival kit in a basket

Working from 9 to 5 is stressful, and weekends are something we look forward to starting with Monday. Surprise your partner with a work survival kit in a basket. Buy a nice basket or just a box, made of wood, and put their favorite chocolates, drinks, some spa soaps, scented candles and some massage vouchers  inside.

For this one, you need to think what your partner loves, and put everything inside. For example, your partner might be saying they need to buy comfy slippers or sleep masks. So, make sure it is in the basket or a box.

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This doesn’t need to be a classic basket with skincare products and the like. If your partner loves video games, you can buy some and put them in with some beer and chips, or anything other they like. If you can afford and if it is a special occasion, surprise your partner by putting some flight tickets in the basket or some road trip plan. If you opt for this one, then plan the whole trip, don’t just suggest it.

8. Mug with meme

Mugs and cups are always a good choice, since your partner will always think about you whenever they drink coffee. Buy a white mug, and by using acrylic paint you can draw whatever you want, if you are skillful. However, mug with meme is also great gift for your partner. You can buy 6 mugs to tell your love story from the beginning, or just put on them memes of your partner and you.

This is also perfect if your partner said something very funny, and the next day you want to surprise them. You can make your own meme or a picture in Photoshop, and they’ll print it on the mug.

On the other hand, if you aren’t good at it, you can find people online who draw and make pictures for mugs, and then print them.

9. Scavenger hunt

A scavenger hunt is always a great and creative way to give someone any gift. Puppies and kittens are always a great gift for people who love animals and would like to have one. Before you decide to give your partner a puppy or a kitten, make sure they can take care of them. Many people love animals, but don’t have a pet, because they don’t have enough time to take care of them. Also, think whether you’ll adopt one or not, and if your partner and you have children, then think about good family dog breeds. It’s always better to adopt a cat or a dog, but there is nothing wrong with giving a dog or a cat that your partner always wanted to have.

Puppies and kittens have always been one of the best gifts ever, and a scavenger hunt is the best way to give this gift. Plan the whole hunt, and make it interesting. You’ll need some time to plan all the clues, but it will be worth it.

Make a special gift for your partner or find the most creative way to give a gift in order to show them how much you care.

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Last Updated on March 30, 2020

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

2. Be Honest

A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

4. Succeed at Something

When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

Final Thoughts

When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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Featured photo credit: Cata via unsplash.com

Reference

[1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
[2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
[3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
[4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
[5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
[6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
[7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
[8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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