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Maybe You’re An Old Soul If You Can Relate To These 11 Signs

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Maybe You’re An Old Soul If You Can Relate To These 11 Signs

Do you sometimes feel like you’ve lived other lives? Maybe dreams or distant memories of faraway lands and languages?

Your body remembers your past lives too, in its aches and illnesses, your mind remembers them through fears and phobias that are a response to past life painful deaths, and your soul remembers them through the wisdom and talents you’ve acquired over those lifetimes.

The more lives you’ve lived, the more experiences you’ve had, and the more lessons you’ve learned. And even though your personal experiences might be different and unique from everyone else’s, there are some common factors that older souls share.

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See if you can relate to these 11 signs:

1. You crave solitude

Are you one of those people who don’t mind being alone? In fact, prefers it? You might notice that there’s a sweetness in solitude that social people don’t understand. Although you enjoy deeper connections, you need solitude and silence to nurture you when you feel disconnected. In your solitude is where you seek connection to the universal soul, and also your deepest self.

2. You’re spiritual, but not necessarily religious

If you’re someone who doesn’t depend on religion for direction, if you’re not afraid to ask the big questions, and letting the answers come up for you, you probably can relate to the “spiritual but not religious” phrase. You seek out activities, people and books that allow you to explore those bigger questions, and not rely on religion to provide you answers. You may be more drawn toward contemplative faiths than traditional practices.

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3. You try to look at the bigger picture

You have an expanded perspective of the universe, and your place in it. You’re aware that human beings have a role to play in the energy cycle of the planet, and you participate in activities that support it, like recycling, making energy-saving choices, or planting more trees rather than taking them down.

4. You generally feel older than your age group

Have you always gravitated towards an older age group than your own, even when you were a child? Do you find it easier to have conversations with people who talk about deeper topics, like philosophy, culture, or consciousness? And do you find yourself giving advice to others in your group who come to you for help?

5. You appreciate history

Although you’re not a hoarder, you’re not so quick to toss out old things to replace them with shiny stuff. You appreciate the story in an antique, you like to learn from history, and you prefer old music and literature. You rely on your own taste, rather than follow trendsetters.

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6. You feel like you don’t fit in with the society

Older souls often find themselves misunderstood. You might have strong opinions, but they’re generally in support of connecting people, rather than creating discord – building bridges versus building walls; and this might be misconstrued as weak or meek. Because you don’t dance to the popular tune, you might feel like you don’t fit in with the general society around you.

7. You are / were sometimes teased for being “too serious”

You realize that life is important, and that your time on the planet is precious. To ensure that you take advantage of this gift, you use your time to focus on self development and spiritual pursuits, that people around you might consider too intense or too serious. They might not understand the urgency you feel within.

8. Your typical activities are introspective and intellectual

You’re generally drawn to introspective activities such as art, literature, or music, rather than aggressive sports like boxing or hunting. You tend to gravitate toward activities that take you deeper within yourself, to understand your mind and soul, as opposed to outward expressions of power and dominance.

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9. You have a deja vu feeling of “been there, done that”

Have you noticed that a lot of skills come naturally to you? You might be naturally dexterous, you might have easy aptitude for drawing or learning, or you might find that you’re quick to pick up on hidden energies. Things that many people struggle to learn might be easy for you to grasp.

10. You’re sensitive toward other helpless, vulnerable beings

Empathy is a gift you’re given as you grow older in soul age. You ache when others cry, you feel their pain when others suffer, and you reach out to those who need a hand. It comes naturally to you, and you don’t think twice about giving away your possessions when someone needs something. You’re one of those people who loves to give more than they receive.

11. You have a strong sense of purpose for your life

You have an overwhelming inner longing for meaning and purpose. You are a seeker, and you want to learn the meaning of life and to know the purpose for your being. You know deep within that you’re here on the planet for a reason and you want this journey of life to be meaningful.

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If you can relate to the 11 signs above, you might be an old soul! At a time when those who talk the loudest, those who can buy their way, and those who step on others to raise themselves up seem to be getting all the attention, what the world needs is YOU – your quiet inner strength, your empathy, and your wisdom. You can change the world by being yourself, by becoming more of who you are, and by discovering your place and purpose on the planet.

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Last Updated on July 20, 2021

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

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