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11 Reasons Friends Who Grew Up With You Will Stay With You Forever

11 Reasons Friends Who Grew Up With You Will Stay With You Forever

There is something particularly special about the kind of friends you have known forever. There is an exceptional bond that is formed over time, one which creates the kind of relationship that can only come from the a life spent alongside each other. You might have your good and bad patches, you might even fall out with each other from time to time, but just like a brother or a sister you have to admit that friends who grew up together have got something pretty magical. They don’t have to live in the house next door, but there are a lot of reasons why they remain close to your heart.

  1. You trust each other more than anyone, because they are like family.
    As the saying goes, you can’t choose your family but you can choose your friends. The only other people who know you as well as your family are the friends you choose. So in this sense, your lifelong friends become your family.
  1. They know your biggest secrets.
    You’re their number one confidante. And they are yours. Because you trust them like family, and because you have shared so       much life together, they know your heart. And you trust them with it.
  1. You had all your ‘firsts’ together
    Friends who grew up together got to experience so many new things together! Your first day of school, your first date, your first kiss! These are memories that only your lifelong friends share with you. No one else has the same kind of special history as this.
  2. You know what each other needs
    Like family, you don’t just know each other you know what is best for each other. And you want it for each other, no matter what.
  3. You don’t need words to communicate
    When things happen, you don’t need to tell them how you’re feeling. They have known you long enough, and know you well enough, to know what to do in certain situations. When tragedy strikes, somehow you know you don’t need to ask them to come. You know they will be at your door just as soon as they can.
  4. The reasons that you became friends always remain
    You picked each other for a reason. Maybe it’s because they make you laugh until you cry, or maybe it is because they stood up for you when no one else did. Whatever the reason, you’ve got each others backs, and the fundamental reasons you found each other will always be there.
  5. They were there for all the big events growing up and they will be there for all the big events in the future
    They were there when your Grandma died, when you graduated, when your dad remarried. They were there by your side for all those enormous moments of your formative years, and so its extra important that they be there for all the ones that are still yet to happen.
  6. You can share your history together
    One of the greatest joys in life is sitting with an old friend and reminiscing about the ‘good old days’. It’s very special having a friend that you love and trust to help you sift through beautiful memories, and laugh together about moments both good and bad.
  7. They are one of few people in your life you will have this kind of relationship and connection with
    There is a lot to be said for a friendship of this caliber. There is so much history and care and time invested, it is a rare and special gift to have such a thing with another person, and good friends recognize this in each other.
  8. They are a continuous (and trusted) source of learning
    It is not only our similarities that see a deep friendship flourish, but our differences as well. Our long-term friendships will inevitably experience times of change, and it encourages us to learn from each other and support each other during these moments of learning.
  9. They know who you are because they know who you were
    Your pasts can help determine the strength of your future. Having someone to walk through this life with you is golden — having someone who knows your entire journey, is priceless.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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