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11 Reasons Friends Who Grew Up With You Will Stay With You Forever

11 Reasons Friends Who Grew Up With You Will Stay With You Forever

There is something particularly special about the kind of friends you have known forever. There is an exceptional bond that is formed over time, one which creates the kind of relationship that can only come from the a life spent alongside each other. You might have your good and bad patches, you might even fall out with each other from time to time, but just like a brother or a sister you have to admit that friends who grew up together have got something pretty magical. They don’t have to live in the house next door, but there are a lot of reasons why they remain close to your heart.

  1. You trust each other more than anyone, because they are like family.
    As the saying goes, you can’t choose your family but you can choose your friends. The only other people who know you as well as your family are the friends you choose. So in this sense, your lifelong friends become your family.
  1. They know your biggest secrets.
    You’re their number one confidante. And they are yours. Because you trust them like family, and because you have shared so       much life together, they know your heart. And you trust them with it.
  1. You had all your ‘firsts’ together
    Friends who grew up together got to experience so many new things together! Your first day of school, your first date, your first kiss! These are memories that only your lifelong friends share with you. No one else has the same kind of special history as this.
  2. You know what each other needs
    Like family, you don’t just know each other you know what is best for each other. And you want it for each other, no matter what.
  3. You don’t need words to communicate
    When things happen, you don’t need to tell them how you’re feeling. They have known you long enough, and know you well enough, to know what to do in certain situations. When tragedy strikes, somehow you know you don’t need to ask them to come. You know they will be at your door just as soon as they can.
  4. The reasons that you became friends always remain
    You picked each other for a reason. Maybe it’s because they make you laugh until you cry, or maybe it is because they stood up for you when no one else did. Whatever the reason, you’ve got each others backs, and the fundamental reasons you found each other will always be there.
  5. They were there for all the big events growing up and they will be there for all the big events in the future
    They were there when your Grandma died, when you graduated, when your dad remarried. They were there by your side for all those enormous moments of your formative years, and so its extra important that they be there for all the ones that are still yet to happen.
  6. You can share your history together
    One of the greatest joys in life is sitting with an old friend and reminiscing about the ‘good old days’. It’s very special having a friend that you love and trust to help you sift through beautiful memories, and laugh together about moments both good and bad.
  7. They are one of few people in your life you will have this kind of relationship and connection with
    There is a lot to be said for a friendship of this caliber. There is so much history and care and time invested, it is a rare and special gift to have such a thing with another person, and good friends recognize this in each other.
  8. They are a continuous (and trusted) source of learning
    It is not only our similarities that see a deep friendship flourish, but our differences as well. Our long-term friendships will inevitably experience times of change, and it encourages us to learn from each other and support each other during these moments of learning.
  9. They know who you are because they know who you were
    Your pasts can help determine the strength of your future. Having someone to walk through this life with you is golden — having someone who knows your entire journey, is priceless.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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