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13 Things That Will Happen When You Always Speak The Truths

13 Things That Will Happen When You Always Speak The Truths

Speaking the truth is rewarding. Speaking only the truth opens up new paths in life, relationships and even careers. While difficult, focusing on being 100% honest is a characteristic that should be strived for every day. People who speaks the truths have more to offer than people who lie. Here are 13 reasons why you should always speak the truth.

1. It opens your heart

When you speak with honesty, it usually stems from your inside passion, compassion and interests. When you’re talking with your friend, lover or coworker, start by being honest while talking to them. You will showcase what interests and fuels you, while also bettering the state of your heart because honesty feels, and looks better from the outside.

2 You forget fear

When dealing with truths, a lot of people will feel butterflies inside their stomach when they present a lie. Remember the last time you lied to someone’s face? What did you feel? Was the pit of your stomach twisting, was your chest right? Did you walk around with fear hoping they would not find out you lied? Being honest sheds all of these issues. The more you are honest, the more fear will not reside in you.

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3. You will become more authentic to the people around you

When dealing with situations where you are being honest instead of fictitious, people will witness your character and feel more inclined to notice you as a “one of a kind” friend to them.

4. The truth saves you from a lot of trouble

This can’t be stressed enough. Being honest saves you the stress of digging yourself in a hole by lying. If someone finds out the lie, you have not only dug yourself deeper, but have to dig yourself out. Why not just be truthful instead?

5. It will shape up your morals

When dealing with honesty, often the moral issue of feeling guilty about a situation will break away from you. Instead, morally safe situations will be open to you and your life. If your gut, spirit and even head feel wrong about something happening? Speak up and speak the truths. Soon you will trust your decisions more often than not.

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6. Your spirit will be more at ease

Whether religious or spiritual, opening yourself up to a more honest lifestyle will soothe your soul and promote a more productive, healthy and positive person to promote to others.

7. Others will seek you out

Friends, family and even acquaintances will notice when you’re giving an honest opinion. If you always speak the truths, more people will feel safer and at ease while asking your 100%, honest opinion on an issue.

8. People will listen to you

Coupled with the above note, people will feel more inclined to listen to your advice and even act on it. When you value your truths instead of your lies, others will take care to really hear what you have to say, because now you promote value and authenticity by being embedded in truths.

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9. Honesty opens up more paths to a better career

Who wants to work in a place where they have to lie to move upwards? No one. While in the process of interviewing, save the hassle of lying to yourself and the people looking to hire you. You will land a better job for you when you are being direct and honest in your approach.

10. Honesty makes your love life more whole

Whether in a long term relationship or single, being truthful is the key to a better romantic life. Your partner will appreciate honesty in the worst of times, making the path to resolve easier to see and walk together. Being honest while single betters your chances at finding someone you truly care about. No one wants to start a relationship full of deceit.

11. Your creative side will flourish

People who lead artistic lives don’t do so to lie and manipulate others. They do it with honesty and their entire soul, body and truth invested in it. Start being truthful and watch your creative identity flourish.

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12. Your beauty will last longer

People have discussed that being a better person results in you having better looks. Think about it, lying puts stress on you, whether by guilt or fear of others finding out your lie. Added stress results in loss of hair, wrinkles and even stops you from smiling. Speak the truths to make your appearance beautiful and increase your luscious longevity.

13. It betters you

No one wants to have a friend, companion, child, sibling or parent that lives in a world of lies. Think about whom you call your best friend, how often are they honest with you? If it’s often, that’s why you love and value them. Seek out a lifestyle full of 100% honesty, and watch how many people begin to value you.

Featured photo credit: Aurora Martin via flickr.com

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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