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Why Mentally Strong People Seldom Respond To An Insult

Why Mentally Strong People Seldom Respond To An Insult

A look around, and you realize the world has suddenly become a place where people are there only to fight and argue with each other, be judgmental, and overall negative. You see how people on social media and in real life try to force their opinion on others while always criticizing them. It’s like we’ve all witnessed people breaking into huge fights over social media and a sudden growth of intolerance among people.

However, when we think about people bad-mouthing others or making them feel inferior, we realize, those, with an educated mindset, seldom respond to whatever people say to them. You might often think how people can be so calm and wise to never get bothered by what people think about them and how they just keep on being their amazing selves. Here are a few reasons shared by some of the most mentally strong and stable people, about why they don’t respond to hateful slurs.

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Silence Is Indeed The Best Answer:

Most people often seem to be more interested in pinpointing what you’re doing wrong and how you need to change things. However, there also are individuals who choose to turn a deaf ear towards such negativity. Why? Because they believe people are always on the lookout to find a reason through which they can feel better by giving their insecurities a voice. Such people can never be happy with your success or achievement because they, themselves, were unable to be at your level or have faced failure, at some point, when you didn’t. To be honest, it isn’t even their fault that they are never happy with what you achieve, so it’s best to leave them be. Are you aware of how people laughed at Edison’s initial phonograph invention? Had he paid any attention to their negativity, he wouldn’t have been able to come up with any of his breakthroughs and wouldnt have gotten so many inventions patented to his name. Whatever good or bad you do, people will judge you and not responding to their pessimism will save your time and energy which you can use elsewhere.

Because It’s Just Their Opinion:

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, so, if someone criticizes you it’s what they believe or how they perceive things. You can’t really change that, can you? People who are emotionally and mentally strong don’t take anything as an insult because it’s just someone’s opinion and it can be good or bad. Just like you would be happy to receive positive feedback, overthinking about people’s negative remarks will only make things harder for you. Focus on people who are kind with their words, as for criticism, you should handle that gracefully. The thought process of negative people who are always criticizing others is mostly irrational and illogical, and responding to such unreasonable opinion and behavior will only lead to distracting you from acheiving your ultimate goals in life.

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They Win With Goodness:

While some people’s hobby is to spew hatred and create discomfort in the lives of others, there are also people who respond to their unreasonable attitude with generosity. They do so because they want to end complexity in their’s and the toxic individual’s life. The more you let hatred grow, the more you complicate your life. Your goodness might neutralize their obnoxiousness and force them to change their hateful opinion about you.

Their Health And Happiness Surpasses All:

You can’t always battle the negative impact of people’s unconstructive tirades. But, for people, who want to perform well in their lives and live happily, their physical, mental and emotional well-being is of crucial importance. We know how vocal slurs can leave a lasting impression on our minds and personalities causing people to be stressed, depressed and anxious but it only makes one vulnerable to a number of health risks. Depression and stress can cause irreversible damage to a person’s personality, affecting his/hers performance and happiness. If you’ve noticed people who rarely respond to affronts are relatively happier and healthier in life as compared to those who always end up in an argument with their haters. You should remember that while you may not have control over people’s opinion, you have control over your own emotions and you can eliminate forces that strive hard to rob you off of your peace of mind, joy and success. If your happiness and sadness are based on the opinions of others then you can never be satisfied or let alone, be happy with what you have.

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They Look For Solutions:

We are not here to please everyone; you can never be good or bad enough for someone. People with mental and emotional strength don’t drag themselves into problems, they look for solutions. Interacting with discouraging people and putting all your attention to their words and actions will only give that hatred fillied individual more power over you which in turn creates hurdles for you. If you want to improve your performance and bring peace to your life, your main focus shouldn’t be on what they say, just find a solution to handle them in a dignified manner.

The only person, who should be making any decisions for your life, should be you. It’s never wise to react to an insult and the wisest way to respond to something negative is to simply ignore it. People who make you feel bad about yourself are just people like you and what they think and say is not a word of God, so in this case, ignorance certainly is bliss.

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12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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