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10 Reasons Military Men Make the Best Boyfriends

10 Reasons Military Men Make the Best Boyfriends

When it comes to dating military men, the long-distance relationship aspect might be the first thing to come to your mind. Being separated for months away from the person you love and want to be with sucks. The goodbyes that you need to tell time and again are heartbreaking.

However, remember all of the hellos, and that tight hug or sweet kiss that comes with meeting the one who is yours after a long time. Think of the times you get to ride on an emotional roller coaster and the surprises that you get time and again.

Dating a man in the military is bliss! Here are 10 reasons why military men make the best boyfriends.

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1. They love deeply and forever

Remember that 10-minute short phone call he’d make when they are out doing their duty and protecting the nation, or the texts he keeps sending you, or a bouquet with a note saying “I love you”. A military boyfriend is a keeper. He’ll keep thinking about you all of the time and share stories of how you two met with his friends. You are in his mind all of the time and he’s going to do everything possible to love you and be with you, forever.

2. They are stylish

Men in military know how to look great and stylish. Short-trimmed hair, clean and tidy living, and socially constructed men in uniform look hot and stylish. Not just that, they are always in great physical shape and are always well-groomed. Meanwhile, their sexual appeal is way higher than normal men — by leaps and bounds.

3. They are protective

Men in military know their responsibilities and understand how to react quickly. There’s nothing sexier than having someone who loves you and has your back all the time. If someone’s bugging you, he knows how to kick some ass — and why shouldn’t he? Military boyfriends put their life on the line to protect people they’ve never known. Even if it’s a zombie apocalypse, he’ll be there to defend with hand-to-hand combat if necessary.

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4. They’re modest and cocky

Men in the military have confidence even during the times they’re brought down. When it comes to being in a romantic relationship, it is what shines in them and makes you feel that your relationship is the sweetest. Shout at him or push him off when you are angry, he’ll never be stressed about it, and will always look for his chances to make you smile. He’ll tell you how beautiful you are and will stand up against all the odds to be in your heart.

5. They’re great team players

People in the military fight for the nation, together and hand in hand with everyone. They stand by the country and they never let go of their buddies or families. They always stick around to solve problems. They’re really good at making conversations too.

6. They bring you opportunities and benefits

While you might be only thinking about a perfect relationship and a jolly life, you get a lot of additional benefits when you date someone in the military. They get support from the nation and can enjoy several benefits including low cost education, health insurances, and even military travel benefits (which are received by families involving someone in the military).

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7. They give you freedom

There is no one who knows better what “freedom” reallt means other than someone in the military. A military boyfriend lets you have your time and enjoy your life, your way. While he’s out and is often surrounded by an unfamiliar milieu, he also knows how to take care of himself and his team.

Love can be a battlefield sometimes. He knows how to assess such situations and figure out in favor of both.

8. They are great in bed

Strong body, perfect physique, and a good libido, provide military men with everything that is required to have a great sexual life. They are absolutely hot in bed and have a sex drive that gives you all the joy to make you feel happy, satisfied, and complete.

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9. They are adventurous

Men in military know to play with guns and bombs, which means they are familiar with working in a highly difficult environment that includes danger. When it comes to adventure, they are always enthusiastic. They know how to enjoy every moment. They also are perfect planners and creative about their future.

Nothing can be more exciting than planning early and this is what comes with having a military boyfriend.

10. They are patient and kind

People in the military witness a lot of suffering, so they know the value of kindness. He is always patient and will always treat everyone kindly. While serving for the nation, you are the first one who comes to his mind. He understands the pain of being away from you and is always patient about waiting for the day he’ll see you again.

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10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

Most discussions on positively influencing others eventually touch on Dale Carnegie’s seminal work, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Written more than 83 years ago, the book touches on a core component of human interaction, building strong relationships. It is no wonder why.

Everything that we do hinges on our ability to connect with others and formulate deep relationships. You cannot sell a house, buy a house, advance in most careers, sell a product, pitch a story, teach a course, etc. without building healthy relationships. Managers get the best results from their teams, not through brute force, but to careful appeals to their sensibilities, occasional withdrawals from the reservoir of respect they’ve built. Using these tactics, they can influence others to excellence, to productivity, and to success.

Carnegie’s book is great. Of course, there are other resources too. Most of us have someone in our lives who positively influences us. The truth is positively influencing people is about centering the humanity of others. Chances are, you know someone who is really good at making others feel like stars. They can get you to do things that the average person cannot. Where the requests of others sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, the request from this special person sounds like music to your ears. You’re delighted to not only listen but also to oblige.

So how to influence people in a positive way? Read on for tips.

1. Be Authentic

To influence people in a positive way, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else’s version of authenticity, uncover what it is that makes you unique.

Discover your unique take on an issue and then live up to and honor that. Once of the reasons social media influencers are so powerful is that they have carved out a niche for themselves or taken a common issue and approached it from a novel or uncommon way. People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

Contradictions bother us because we crave stability. When someone professes to be one way, but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic. Neither of these combinations bode well for positively influencing others.

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2. Listen

Growing up, my father would tell me to listen to what others said. He told me if I listened carefully, I would know all I needed to know about a person’s character, desires and needs.

To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid. Therein lies the explanation for what people need in order to feel validated, supported and seen. If a person feels they are invisible, and unseen by their superiors, they are less likely to be positively influenced by that person.

Listening meets a person’s primary need of validation and acceptance.

Take a look at this guide on how to be a better listener: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)

3. Become an Expert

Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others. Research and read everything you can about the given topic, and then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

You can argue over opinions. You cannot argue, or it is unwise to argue, over facts and experts come with facts.

4. Lead with Story

From years of working in the public relations space, I know that personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful. But I never cease to be amazed with how effective a well-timed and told story can be.

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If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail. To learn more about how to tell powerful stories, and the ethics of storytelling, take a look at this article: How To Tell An Interesting Story In 4 Simple Steps

5. Lead by Example

It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play. One of the reasons a person who is not an athlete can be in awe of athletic prowess is because human nature appreciates the extraordinary. When we watch the Olympics, Olympic trials, gymnastic competitions, ice skating, and other competitive sports, we can recognize the effort of people who day in and day out give their all. C

ase in point: Simone Biles. The gymnast extraordinaire won her 6TH all-around title at the U.S. Gymnastics Championships after doing a triple double. She was the first woman to do so. Watching her gave me chills. Even non-gymnasts and non-competitive athletes can appreciate the talent required to pull off such a remarkable feat.

We celebrate remarkable accomplishments and believe that their example is proof that we too can accomplish something great, even if it isn’t qualifying for the Olympics. To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.

6. Catch People Doing Good

A powerful way to influence people in a positive way is to catch people doing good. Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.

Once you catch people doing good, name and notice their contributions.

7. Be Effusive with Praise

It did not take me long to notice a remarkable trait of a former boss. He not only began and ended meetings with praise, but he peppered praise throughout the entire meeting. He found a way to celebrate the unique attributes and skills of his team members. He was able to quickly and accurately assess what people were doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.

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Meetings were not just an occasion to go through a “To Do” list, they were opportunities to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

8. Be Kind Rather Than Right

I am going to level with you; this one is tough. It is easy to get caught up in a cycle of proving oneself. For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. The validation that comes with being perceived as “right” feeds one’s ego. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people. Once we’ve hurt someone by being unkind, it is much harder to get them to listen to what we’re trying to influence them to do.

The antidote to influencing others via bullying is to prioritize kindness above rightness. You can be kind and still stand firm in your position. For instance, many people think that they need others to validate their experience. If a person does not see the situation you experienced in the way you see it, you get upset. But your experience is your experience.

If you and your friends go out to eat and you get food poisoning, you do not need your friends to agree that the food served at the restaurant was problematic for you. Your own experience of getting food poisoning is all the validation you need. Therefore, taking time to be right is essentially wasted and, if you were unkind in seeking validation for your food-poison experience, now you’ve really lost points.

9. Understand a Person’s Logical, Emotional and Cooperative Needs

The Center for Creative Leadership has argued that the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs. Their logical need is their rational and educational need. Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner. The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.

The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having an opportunity to collaborate will override emotional connection.

If you know your audience, you will know what they need in order to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people whom you are attempting to influence, you will be ineffective.

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10. Understand Your Lane

If you want to positively influence others, operate from your sphere of influence. Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others. Gone are the days when being a jack of all trades is celebrated.

Most people appreciate brands that understand their target audience and then deliver on what that audience wants. When you focus on what you are uniquely gifted and qualified to do, and then offer that gift to the people who need it, you are likely more effective. This effectiveness is attractive.

You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied by what others do well versus what you do well.

Final Thoughts

Influencing people is about centering your humanity. If you want to influence others positively, focus on the way you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

It’s hard to influence others if you’re still trying to figure out how to communicate with yourself.

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