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10 Reasons Military Men Make the Best Boyfriends

10 Reasons Military Men Make the Best Boyfriends

When it comes to dating military men, the long-distance relationship aspect might be the first thing to come to your mind. Being separated for months away from the person you love and want to be with sucks. The goodbyes that you need to tell time and again are heartbreaking.

However, remember all of the hellos, and that tight hug or sweet kiss that comes with meeting the one who is yours after a long time. Think of the times you get to ride on an emotional roller coaster and the surprises that you get time and again.

Dating a man in the military is bliss! Here are 10 reasons why military men make the best boyfriends.

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1. They love deeply and forever

Remember that 10-minute short phone call he’d make when they are out doing their duty and protecting the nation, or the texts he keeps sending you, or a bouquet with a note saying “I love you”. A military boyfriend is a keeper. He’ll keep thinking about you all of the time and share stories of how you two met with his friends. You are in his mind all of the time and he’s going to do everything possible to love you and be with you, forever.

2. They are stylish

Men in military know how to look great and stylish. Short-trimmed hair, clean and tidy living, and socially constructed men in uniform look hot and stylish. Not just that, they are always in great physical shape and are always well-groomed. Meanwhile, their sexual appeal is way higher than normal men — by leaps and bounds.

3. They are protective

Men in military know their responsibilities and understand how to react quickly. There’s nothing sexier than having someone who loves you and has your back all the time. If someone’s bugging you, he knows how to kick some ass — and why shouldn’t he? Military boyfriends put their life on the line to protect people they’ve never known. Even if it’s a zombie apocalypse, he’ll be there to defend with hand-to-hand combat if necessary.

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4. They’re modest and cocky

Men in the military have confidence even during the times they’re brought down. When it comes to being in a romantic relationship, it is what shines in them and makes you feel that your relationship is the sweetest. Shout at him or push him off when you are angry, he’ll never be stressed about it, and will always look for his chances to make you smile. He’ll tell you how beautiful you are and will stand up against all the odds to be in your heart.

5. They’re great team players

People in the military fight for the nation, together and hand in hand with everyone. They stand by the country and they never let go of their buddies or families. They always stick around to solve problems. They’re really good at making conversations too.

6. They bring you opportunities and benefits

While you might be only thinking about a perfect relationship and a jolly life, you get a lot of additional benefits when you date someone in the military. They get support from the nation and can enjoy several benefits including low cost education, health insurances, and even military travel benefits (which are received by families involving someone in the military).

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7. They give you freedom

There is no one who knows better what “freedom” reallt means other than someone in the military. A military boyfriend lets you have your time and enjoy your life, your way. While he’s out and is often surrounded by an unfamiliar milieu, he also knows how to take care of himself and his team.

Love can be a battlefield sometimes. He knows how to assess such situations and figure out in favor of both.

8. They are great in bed

Strong body, perfect physique, and a good libido, provide military men with everything that is required to have a great sexual life. They are absolutely hot in bed and have a sex drive that gives you all the joy to make you feel happy, satisfied, and complete.

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9. They are adventurous

Men in military know to play with guns and bombs, which means they are familiar with working in a highly difficult environment that includes danger. When it comes to adventure, they are always enthusiastic. They know how to enjoy every moment. They also are perfect planners and creative about their future.

Nothing can be more exciting than planning early and this is what comes with having a military boyfriend.

10. They are patient and kind

People in the military witness a lot of suffering, so they know the value of kindness. He is always patient and will always treat everyone kindly. While serving for the nation, you are the first one who comes to his mind. He understands the pain of being away from you and is always patient about waiting for the day he’ll see you again.

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How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

Do you say yes so often that you realize you aren’t really happy about this, wondering how to say no to people?

For years, I was a serial people pleaser. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

It took a long while but I learned the art of saying no. Saying ‘no’ meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. I started to manage my time more around my own needs and interests. When that happened, I became a lot happier. And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

The Importance of Saying No

When you learn the art of saying ‘no,’ you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey considered one of the most successful women in the world confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything. It was only when she realized that after years of struggling with saying no, I finally got to this question: “What do I want?”

Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

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Warren Buffett views no as essential to his success. He said,

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

When I made ‘no’ a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say ‘no.’

From an early age, we are conditioned to say ‘yes.’ We said yes probably hundreds of time in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work. We said yes get a promotion. We said yes to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

We say yes because it feels better to help someone. We say yes because it can seem like the right thing to do. We say yes because we think that is key to success. And we say yes because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist like the boss.

And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we feel guilty we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

The message no matter where we turn is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

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How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

Deciding to add the word ‘no’ to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say ‘no’ but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of ‘no’ that you could finally create more time for things you care about. But let’s be honest, using the word ‘no’ doesn’t come easily for many people.

The 3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time especially you haven’t done it much in the past will feel awkward.

2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

Remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it, who else knows about all of the demands on your time? No one. Only you are at the center of all of these requests. are the only one that understands what time you really have.

3. Saying ‘No’ Means Saying ‘Yes’ to Something That Matters

When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

6 Ways to Start Saying No

Incorporating that little word ‘no’ into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

One of the biggest challenges to saying ‘no’ is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no reflect poorly on you?

Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because FOMO even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

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Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better.

3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say ‘No’

Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say ‘yes’ because we worry about how others will respond or the consequences of saying no or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose respect from others. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

Keep in mind that saying ‘no’ can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way. You might disappoint someone initially but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to.

4. When the Request Comes In, Sit on It

Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time, or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say ‘no.’ There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

5. Communicate Your ‘No’ with Transparency and Kindness

When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

A clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

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6. Consider How to Use a Modified ‘No’

If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” giving you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

Final Thoughts

Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

Use the request as a fresh request to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself. If you are the one placing the demand on yourself, try to evaluate the demand as if it were coming from somewhere else.

Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project but not by working all weekend. Or, tell someone in your family you can’t loan them money again because they never paid you back the last time. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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