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Dreaming Big vs Being Realistic—”I Just Wanna Know How to Make My Dreams Come True”

Dreaming Big vs Being Realistic—”I Just Wanna Know How to Make My Dreams Come True”

Do big dreams support my journey to success and fulfillment? Does reality even matter? Is “everything” possible? And what is the strategy to make my dreams come true?

There are so many people who are thinking and reflecting about the above-mentioned questions—maybe even you? The following lines provide useful perspectives on the subject of dreaming big vs. being realistic. You should have an answer to the questions after reading this article so you can instantly start making progress on your journey. Enough said; let’s dive into the details.

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It’s a 2-component formula.

Dreaming big is probably the most substantial aspect serving you as a foundation to have a journey paved with success. You should absolutely dream big and reach for more. But obviously it’s not enough to get yourself some food on the table, right? That means there has to be another component you need to implement in your life plan, like living in abundance, for instance.

The second component I’m talking about here is “reality.” I can’t tell you how many times I was told to be realistic in terms of goal setting and pretty much everything else, but I am creating my own world, and I avoid talking about things that aren’t realistic. So where’s the point with that weird reality stuff? Well, I learned something which totally changed my perspective concerning reality. It might sound basic but if you think about it then it’s like the tailwind you actually want. I learned that you have to implement reality as a special tool into your dream-big mindset.

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Inside out and the reality tool—get your freakin’ thoughts out there!

It’s great to have the best ideas and concepts in your head isn’t it? Probably yes. Unfortunately it’s not enough to be the greatest dreamer or the most successful wannabe. So what to do then? This is where reality comes into play.

You have to see reality as a tool—that’s the most beneficial point of view. Reality is the tool you need to make progress in the direction of your dreams. It’s the number-one tool to manifest your visions and dreams in the outer world—the world we consider to be our reality. You have a vision, but you obviously won’t become a doctor, lawyer or business angel simply by believing or dreaming of it.

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No, you should probably get a degree, apply for jobs in your field, get connected with other doctors, lawyers and entrepreneurs. And having a positive “there are no limits” mindset will absolutely support you, but it won’t do the work for you. All in all, you have to align your dreams with the opportunities and capabilities reality offers you. To be specific, in today’s world you can literally learn any skill just by doing some proper Internet research using Google, YouTube, forums, blogs, or sites like this one. By implementing this alignment between dreams and reality in your journey of success, you will definitely achieve results that you didn’t even dream about.

Create an upward spiral of achievement.

Why? Because you have a powerful mindset that doesn’t accept limits, but you also know that you have to take advantage of the “reality-tool” to manifest the things you want to reach. That way, you’re able to push yourself to your personal limits, without getting stuck in an “it’s unrealistic” way of thinking.  And you’re not getting stuck in being a dreamer either. It is strategic self-improvement and self-leadership which ends up in an insanely effective upward spiral of achievement.

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Congratulations, you finally know the so called “secret” about making your dreams come true. Simply add traction to it by letting reality support you the way you want it to. There are thousands of gurus and experts making tons of cash by selling these simple concepts as “secrets.” The weird thing? There is no such thing as “the secret”—just relatively simple strategic concepts that are over-complicated way too often.

Remember this: “Dreams and visions represent your drawing board. Reality is the playground you’re searching for to get things going.”

The problem with so-called motivational “gurus?”

I personally think that most of the so called “gurus” and motivational “experts” just don’t bring up the importance of acting reality-related. They are telling you that everything is possible by having the right attitude, thinking positive and visualizing your goals. But they are not mentioning the action steps you actually have to take to manifest your goals. How do you want to make a living just by imagining yourself being a successful entrepreneur? Probably not at all! In today’s world, having even the “best” mindset is absolutely worthless if you don’t apply for that job, go to the gym, attend that course or see that coach. Whatever it is, please align the resources available to you with the mindset you have.

Yes, everything is possible—if you don’t get stuck due to a lack of reality awareness. It separates the worst from the best, the wannabes from the top performers. Now it’s time to use your whole repertoire to make your wildest dreams come true. Go for it!

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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