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Dreaming Big vs Being Realistic—”I Just Wanna Know How to Make My Dreams Come True”

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Dreaming Big vs Being Realistic—”I Just Wanna Know How to Make My Dreams Come True”

Do big dreams support my journey to success and fulfillment? Does reality even matter? Is “everything” possible? And what is the strategy to make my dreams come true?

There are so many people who are thinking and reflecting about the above-mentioned questions—maybe even you? The following lines provide useful perspectives on the subject of dreaming big vs. being realistic. You should have an answer to the questions after reading this article so you can instantly start making progress on your journey. Enough said; let’s dive into the details.

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It’s a 2-component formula.

Dreaming big is probably the most substantial aspect serving you as a foundation to have a journey paved with success. You should absolutely dream big and reach for more. But obviously it’s not enough to get yourself some food on the table, right? That means there has to be another component you need to implement in your life plan, like living in abundance, for instance.

The second component I’m talking about here is “reality.” I can’t tell you how many times I was told to be realistic in terms of goal setting and pretty much everything else, but I am creating my own world, and I avoid talking about things that aren’t realistic. So where’s the point with that weird reality stuff? Well, I learned something which totally changed my perspective concerning reality. It might sound basic but if you think about it then it’s like the tailwind you actually want. I learned that you have to implement reality as a special tool into your dream-big mindset.

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Inside out and the reality tool—get your freakin’ thoughts out there!

It’s great to have the best ideas and concepts in your head isn’t it? Probably yes. Unfortunately it’s not enough to be the greatest dreamer or the most successful wannabe. So what to do then? This is where reality comes into play.

You have to see reality as a tool—that’s the most beneficial point of view. Reality is the tool you need to make progress in the direction of your dreams. It’s the number-one tool to manifest your visions and dreams in the outer world—the world we consider to be our reality. You have a vision, but you obviously won’t become a doctor, lawyer or business angel simply by believing or dreaming of it.

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No, you should probably get a degree, apply for jobs in your field, get connected with other doctors, lawyers and entrepreneurs. And having a positive “there are no limits” mindset will absolutely support you, but it won’t do the work for you. All in all, you have to align your dreams with the opportunities and capabilities reality offers you. To be specific, in today’s world you can literally learn any skill just by doing some proper Internet research using Google, YouTube, forums, blogs, or sites like this one. By implementing this alignment between dreams and reality in your journey of success, you will definitely achieve results that you didn’t even dream about.

Create an upward spiral of achievement.

Why? Because you have a powerful mindset that doesn’t accept limits, but you also know that you have to take advantage of the “reality-tool” to manifest the things you want to reach. That way, you’re able to push yourself to your personal limits, without getting stuck in an “it’s unrealistic” way of thinking.  And you’re not getting stuck in being a dreamer either. It is strategic self-improvement and self-leadership which ends up in an insanely effective upward spiral of achievement.

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Congratulations, you finally know the so called “secret” about making your dreams come true. Simply add traction to it by letting reality support you the way you want it to. There are thousands of gurus and experts making tons of cash by selling these simple concepts as “secrets.” The weird thing? There is no such thing as “the secret”—just relatively simple strategic concepts that are over-complicated way too often.

Remember this: “Dreams and visions represent your drawing board. Reality is the playground you’re searching for to get things going.”

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The problem with so-called motivational “gurus?”

I personally think that most of the so called “gurus” and motivational “experts” just don’t bring up the importance of acting reality-related. They are telling you that everything is possible by having the right attitude, thinking positive and visualizing your goals. But they are not mentioning the action steps you actually have to take to manifest your goals. How do you want to make a living just by imagining yourself being a successful entrepreneur? Probably not at all! In today’s world, having even the “best” mindset is absolutely worthless if you don’t apply for that job, go to the gym, attend that course or see that coach. Whatever it is, please align the resources available to you with the mindset you have.

Yes, everything is possible—if you don’t get stuck due to a lack of reality awareness. It separates the worst from the best, the wannabes from the top performers. Now it’s time to use your whole repertoire to make your wildest dreams come true. Go for it!

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How to Create Your Own Ritual to Conquer Time Wasters and Laziness

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How to Create Your Own Ritual to Conquer Time Wasters and Laziness

Life is wasted in the in-between times. The time between when your alarm first rings and when you finally decide to get out of bed. The time between when you sit at your desk and when productive work begins. The time between making a decision and doing something about it.

Slowly, your day is whittled away from all the unused in-between moments. Eventually, time wasters, laziness, and procrastination get the better of you.

The solution to reclaim these lost middle moments is by creating rituals. Every culture on earth uses rituals to transfer information and encode behaviors that are deemed important. Personal rituals can help you build a better pattern for handling everything from how you wake up to how you work.

Unfortunately, when most people see rituals, they see pointless superstitions. Indeed, many rituals are based on a primitive understanding of the world. But by building personal rituals, you get to encode the behaviors you feel are important and cut out the wasted middle moments.

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Program Your Own Algorithms

Another way of viewing rituals is by seeing them as computer algorithms. An algorithm is a set of instructions that is repeated to get a result.

Some algorithms are highly efficient, sorting or searching millions of pieces of data in a few seconds. Other algorithms are bulky and awkward, taking hours to do the same task.

By forming rituals, you are building algorithms for your behavior. Take the delayed and painful pattern of waking up, debating whether to sleep in for another two minutes, hitting the snooze button, repeat until almost late for work. This could be reprogrammed to get out of bed immediately, without debating your decision.

How to Form a Ritual

I’ve set up personal rituals for myself for handling e-mail, waking up each morning, writing articles, and reading books. Far from making me inflexible, these rituals give me a useful default pattern that works best 99% of the time. Whenever my current ritual won’t work, I’m always free to stop using it.

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Forming a ritual isn’t too difficult, and the same principles for changing habits apply:

  1. Write out your sequence of behavior. I suggest starting with a simple ritual of only 3-4 steps maximum. Wait until you’ve established a ritual before you try to add new steps.
  2. Commit to following your ritual for thirty days. This step will take the idea and condition it into your nervous system as a habit.
  3. Define a clear trigger. When does your ritual start? A ritual to wake up is easy—the sound of your alarm clock will work. As for what triggers you to go to the gym, read a book or answer e-mail—you’ll have to decide.
  4. Tweak the Pattern. Your algorithm probably won’t be perfectly efficient the first time. Making a few tweaks after the first 30-day trial can make your ritual more useful.

Ways to Use a Ritual

Based on the above ideas, here are some ways you could implement your own rituals:

1. Waking Up

Set up a morning ritual for when you wake up and the next few things you do immediately afterward. To combat the grogginess after immediately waking up, my solution is to do a few pushups right after getting out of bed. After that, I sneak in ninety minutes of reading before getting ready for morning classes.

2. Web Usage

How often do you answer e-mail, look at Google Reader, or check Facebook each day? I found by taking all my daily internet needs and compressing them into one, highly-efficient ritual, I was able to cut off 75% of my web time without losing any communication.

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3. Reading

How much time do you get to read books? If your library isn’t as large as you’d like, you might want to consider the rituals you use for reading. Programming a few steps to trigger yourself to read instead of watching television or during a break in your day can chew through dozens of books each year.

4. Friendliness

Rituals can also help with communication. Set up a ritual of starting a conversation when you have opportunities to meet people.

5. Working

One of the hardest barriers when overcoming procrastination is building up a concentrated flow. Building those steps into a ritual can allow you to quickly start working or continue working after an interruption.

6. Going to the gym

If exercising is a struggle, encoding a ritual can remove a lot of the difficulty. Set up a quick ritual for going to exercise right after work or when you wake up.

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7. Exercise

Even within your workouts, you can have rituals. Spacing the time between runs or reps with a certain number of breaths can remove the guesswork. Forming a ritual of doing certain exercises in a particular order can save time.

8. Sleeping

Form a calming ritual in the last 30-60 minutes of your day before you go to bed. This will help slow yourself down and make falling asleep much easier. Especially if you plan to get up full of energy in the morning, it will help if you remove insomnia.

8. Weekly Reviews

The weekly review is a big part of the GTD system. By making a simple ritual checklist for my weekly review, I can get the most out of this exercise in less time. Originally, I did holistic reviews where I wrote my thoughts on the week and progress as a whole. Now, I narrow my focus toward specific plans, ideas, and measurements.

Final Thoughts

We all want to be productive. But time wasters, procrastination, and laziness sometimes get the better of us. If you’re facing such difficulties, don’t be afraid to make use of these rituals to help you conquer them.

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