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Why It’s Great To Make Friends With Girls Who Get Along Better With Guys

Why It’s Great To Make Friends With Girls Who Get Along Better With Guys

It’s an age old dilemma.

Is it better to make more friends of your own gender or branch out and become friends with girls? Some awkward experiences in the past probably tell you it’s a lot less messy if you stick to hanging out with the guys. But the truth is, having girls around brings a whole new perspective to life that you might not know you were missing out on.

Here are nine reasons why you need girls who get along with the guys in your life.

They Are Forgetful

Girls who get on well with guys don’t hold on to things. In fact, they’re pretty forgetful when it comes to the negative stuff. They don’t hold grudges and you can accidentally wrong them without fear of them exacting vengeance on you.

They Have an Open Mind

Girls who hang out with guys have an open mind on life, love and relationships. Because they’re cool with platonic relationships between men and women they’re already bucking the trend.

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They value having several different perspectives. That’s why they surround themselves with great girlfriends and lost of trustworthy guys.

Their open minds think clearly and rationally. It makes them a huge help when you’re trying to make a serious decision.

They Are Cheerful

Girls who get along better with guys are generally in a better mood. They think positively and they don’t let the little things drag them down.

Having anyone like this in your life is essential. When you’re having one of those days, these kinds of friends can remind you that you have got a lot to smile about.

They Don’t Care About Petty Things

These girls don’t care about petty things. In fact, they don’t even think about caring about petty things.

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They won’t ask you trick questions and they won’t attack you for using the wrong words. Instead, they just get to the point. It lets the conversation flow because there is no hidden agenda.

They’re Eager to Try New Things

Girls who have friends of both sexes want to have new experiences and try new things. They want to get the most out of life and their passion is infectious. Having people like this around is perfect because they’ll help you get over any apprehensions you have when facing something difficult.

Essentially, girls like this will hold your hand as you jump off the cliff, proverbial or otherwise.

They’re Energetic

Girls who have a lot of friends of both sexes are energetic. They have a lot going on and a lot that they still want to do. There aren’t enough hours in the day so they have to pack it in, filling every second of their day with something interesting and exciting.

This energy is inspiring. It inspires you to better, to do more and to chase your dreams. Who doesn’t want someone who inadvertently encourages you to go after what you want?

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They’re Emotionally Consistent

Girls who have male friends are pretty emotionally consistent. They’re stable and always cheerful and generally satisfied with what’s going on around them.

Sure, they are a rock but it’s because they made themselves that way. They’re in control of their own happiness and they don’t let others get them down.

Take their advice on important issues and you’ll learn a lot about making solid, rational decisions.

They Like Your Male Friends and Your Female Friends

A girl that gets along with everyone is a girl that you can take everywhere. They will like your male friends, they’ll get on with your female friends and they’ll never get in the way of your romantic interests.

Having someone that you can introduce to your best friend, your date, your parents or even your boss is amazing. You’ll never have to worry if they’ll be nice to the other people in your life. That’s someone you can rely on even when everything has gone wrong.

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They Understand How You Feel and Don’t Push

Girls who get along with guys are accepting of the personalities of both sexes. She’ll never push you into elaborating on your feelings to validate her own feelings. She’ll get that there are somethings that you don’t want or need to talk about and she’ll let that be.

In fact, she will probably find a way to make sure you know she understands without even having to ask you what is wrong.

Hollywood thinks that being friends with girls is hard. But being friends with the right girl is the easiest thing you’ll ever do. Girls who get on with guys get what’s going on in your head. These girls will let you be you and that doesn’t just make them good friends but good people too.

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Last Updated on April 8, 2020

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

We all know some overachievers: supermoms who manage to get online degrees between cleaning, cooking, and taking kids to practice; students who write 10-page papers when the directions call for 4; managers whose resumes look more like pages from the Guinness book of Records.

How do they do it all? How is it possible that one person can graduate at the top of their class, found an orphanage in India, run 30k marathons, write a best-selling book, travel all over the world and learn to speak Mandarin Chinese while having a full-time job?

What’s the secret of an overachiever? Here’re 11 things overachievers do differently that you can learn from.

1. They Know How to Manage Their Time

It’s pretty simple actually – you can never become an overachiever if you don’t know how to organize your time efficiently.

The great thing is that overachievers are ready to share their knowledge and time management talent with the rest of the world. Read The 4-Hour Workweek or The 4-Hour Body by Timothy Ferriss, and you’ll know what I’m talking about.

2. They Don’t Spend Hours Watching TV or Playing Computer Games

Mostly because they have better things to do, like exercising, reading, spending an evening with their family or volunteering to work in the local soup kitchen. Their philosophy is simple – the world is full of wonderful things to try, explore and experience. Watching TV is not one of them.

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3. They Are Obsessed With Perfection

Imagine Steve Jobs’ work approach and you’ll understand the level of perfection and painfully high standards that overachievers set for themselves and those around them. Often it pays off (especially if they focus on just one domain). But sometimes compulsive over-striving turns into a sure-fire road to disappointments and unfinished tasks.

Learn how to strike a balance: How Not to Let Perfectionism Secretly Screw You Up

4. They Know How To Inspire

Overachievers learn quickly that it is much easier to achieve goals through collaboration (and especially delegation). So they know how to inspire, encourage, persuade and motivate people around them. Even though they often drive their team crazy with their stubbornness and perfectionism, people quickly follow under the spell of their enthusiasm and greater vision.

Learn these 10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively.

5. They Set Clear Goals

The term “overachiever” itself implies that they know how to achieve goals. That is kind of hard to do if your goals are vague, unclear and lack specific deadline, which is why overachievers educate themselves, read goal-setting books, and think about the best way to approach a new task.

Although, it’s worth mentioning that overachievers usually use their time management and goal-setting skills towards competitive, “I want to kick butt” type of goals rather than self-improvement, mastery goals.

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Take a look at these tips to help you set clearer goals: What Are SMART Goals (And How to Use Them to Become Successful)

6. They Are Organized

It’s hard to imagine a disorganized overachiever, isn’t it? Their great organizational and planning skills usually serve three main purposes: keeping track of time, keeping track of progress and keeping track of achievements.

This hasn’t been confirmed by scientific research yet, but overachievers might actually get a “runner’s high” from crossing tasks off their to-do lists, and making new to-do lists.

Here’s How to Organize Your Life: 10 Habits of Really Organized People

7. They Try to Avoid Failure at All Costs

Some psychologists believe that overachievers place their self-worth on their competence, driven by an underlying fear of failure. Rather than setting and striving for goals based on a pure desire to achieve, their core motivation becomes avoiding failure. This may explain the fact that overachiever beat themselves up for even little setbacks and seemingly-insignificant mistakes.

But be aware that having a strong fear of failure can wrek havoc your productivity. So the best thing to do? Learn to conquer the fear: Why You Have the Fear of Failure (And How to Conquer It)

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8. They Love Awards

Who doesn’t love them, right? True enough, but unlike most people who like to feel acknowledged and appreciated for their efforts, overachievers are bent on collecting ‘awards’, be it university degrees, spelling bee prizes or unusual destinations.

While loving awares isn’t bad, it’s even better if you’re driven by internal motivation instead of external ones which could be quite uncontrolable or unstable: Why Is Internal Motivation So Powerful (And How to Find It).

9. They Don’t Understand the Concept of Work Hours

Don’t get surprised if you receive a work-related email anywhere between 8 p.m. and midnight. It’s something overachievers usually do and you weren’t the only one. At least 20 more emails have been sent during these hours to other people. The concepts of over-achieving and working overtime usually go hand in hand.

The downside of this is an imbalnced life, which may need to problems in other aspects of life including health and relationships. A better way is to Achieve a Realistic Work Life Balance.

10. They Rest

Overachievers might often be labeled as “workaholics”, because they often ignore bodily signs of hunger, fatigue and even a full bladder, hoping to finish just one last little part. This doesn’t mean that overachievers don’t know how to disconnect and relax.

True that they tend to work in the highest gear, but they also have enough sense to give themselves time to rest and recharge. Of course, they do it in their own overachieving way, preferring climbing Mount Kilimanjaro or hiking through the Amazon jungle to lazing on the beach.

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11. Overachievers Continuously Educate Themselves

A great quality that most overachievers have is the hunger for knowledge. They surround themselves with bright people. They know how to listen, and most importantly, they get tons of mentoring.

Despite the fact that overachievers want to excel at everything they set their minds on, they are humble enough to admit that to get on top of their game, they need help. And they are willing to pay someone to push, coach and guide them.

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