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Why It’s Great To Make Friends With Girls Who Get Along Better With Guys

Why It’s Great To Make Friends With Girls Who Get Along Better With Guys

It’s an age old dilemma.

Is it better to make more friends of your own gender or branch out and become friends with girls? Some awkward experiences in the past probably tell you it’s a lot less messy if you stick to hanging out with the guys. But the truth is, having girls around brings a whole new perspective to life that you might not know you were missing out on.

Here are nine reasons why you need girls who get along with the guys in your life.

They Are Forgetful

Girls who get on well with guys don’t hold on to things. In fact, they’re pretty forgetful when it comes to the negative stuff. They don’t hold grudges and you can accidentally wrong them without fear of them exacting vengeance on you.

They Have an Open Mind

Girls who hang out with guys have an open mind on life, love and relationships. Because they’re cool with platonic relationships between men and women they’re already bucking the trend.

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They value having several different perspectives. That’s why they surround themselves with great girlfriends and lost of trustworthy guys.

Their open minds think clearly and rationally. It makes them a huge help when you’re trying to make a serious decision.

They Are Cheerful

Girls who get along better with guys are generally in a better mood. They think positively and they don’t let the little things drag them down.

Having anyone like this in your life is essential. When you’re having one of those days, these kinds of friends can remind you that you have got a lot to smile about.

They Don’t Care About Petty Things

These girls don’t care about petty things. In fact, they don’t even think about caring about petty things.

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They won’t ask you trick questions and they won’t attack you for using the wrong words. Instead, they just get to the point. It lets the conversation flow because there is no hidden agenda.

They’re Eager to Try New Things

Girls who have friends of both sexes want to have new experiences and try new things. They want to get the most out of life and their passion is infectious. Having people like this around is perfect because they’ll help you get over any apprehensions you have when facing something difficult.

Essentially, girls like this will hold your hand as you jump off the cliff, proverbial or otherwise.

They’re Energetic

Girls who have a lot of friends of both sexes are energetic. They have a lot going on and a lot that they still want to do. There aren’t enough hours in the day so they have to pack it in, filling every second of their day with something interesting and exciting.

This energy is inspiring. It inspires you to better, to do more and to chase your dreams. Who doesn’t want someone who inadvertently encourages you to go after what you want?

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They’re Emotionally Consistent

Girls who have male friends are pretty emotionally consistent. They’re stable and always cheerful and generally satisfied with what’s going on around them.

Sure, they are a rock but it’s because they made themselves that way. They’re in control of their own happiness and they don’t let others get them down.

Take their advice on important issues and you’ll learn a lot about making solid, rational decisions.

They Like Your Male Friends and Your Female Friends

A girl that gets along with everyone is a girl that you can take everywhere. They will like your male friends, they’ll get on with your female friends and they’ll never get in the way of your romantic interests.

Having someone that you can introduce to your best friend, your date, your parents or even your boss is amazing. You’ll never have to worry if they’ll be nice to the other people in your life. That’s someone you can rely on even when everything has gone wrong.

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They Understand How You Feel and Don’t Push

Girls who get along with guys are accepting of the personalities of both sexes. She’ll never push you into elaborating on your feelings to validate her own feelings. She’ll get that there are somethings that you don’t want or need to talk about and she’ll let that be.

In fact, she will probably find a way to make sure you know she understands without even having to ask you what is wrong.

Hollywood thinks that being friends with girls is hard. But being friends with the right girl is the easiest thing you’ll ever do. Girls who get on with guys get what’s going on in your head. These girls will let you be you and that doesn’t just make them good friends but good people too.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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