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50 Ways To Show Her You Love Her

50 Ways To Show Her You Love Her

Misunderstandings are the biggest problem in most relationships. Sometimes it can be solved easily, you just don’t know what it is exactly. It could be that she doesn’t feel loved. When you love someone, you can easily take it for granted. But love is not something to think lightly about. It’s one of the most important things in life, because every other aspect is touched by it.

But how do you show it? It may not come easy to everyone. Appreciating a person can be done in many ways. So I will help you on your way. Here are 50 ways to show her you really do love her!

1. Talk respectfully. Don’t make her feel like she is less important.

2. Listen to her. Not just to the words she’s saying but to the feeling she tries to express.

3. Compliment her. Be specific, so she knows you really mean it.

4. Try to show interest in things she enjoys. Does she like cooking? Help her! Does she like sports? Play it with her! Does she like art? Watch it with her!

5. Consider her opinion before making a decision. Ask her what she thinks and honestly consider it.

6. Be forgiving. There is no better way to love someone than to openly forgive and forget. Holding a grudge will not improve your relationship.

7. Plan a small trip. Take her to a place where you can spend quality time.

8. Set goals together. If you know from each other what you are working toward, it is easier to support each other. Also, having goals together will bring you closer.

9. Admit your mistakes. Being open and honest, showing that you too are imperfect will make her feel closer to you.

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10. Have her back. If you get in a situation where you have to choose between your wife and others, choose her. Especially when it is a situation with your family. She already feels like she took you away from them, she needs to feel that you don’t hold that against her.

11. Give her a mini massage, like a backrub. Who doesn’t enjoy attention like that?

12. If she’s not feeling well, even just a headache, make sure you help her out as much as possible. She takes care of you all the time, so show her you appreciate that by taking care of her.

13. When she asks you to help out with something, don’t respond annoyed. Show her you don’t mind giving a hand. She doesn’t enjoy everything she needs to do either, but someone has to do it.

14. When you discus a serious subject, don’t go off joking around. Peacefully listen and talk.

15. When having a conversation, look her in the eye. Show her that you are listening. Don’t get distracted.

16. Spend as much time as possible with her. She wants to feel like she is the most important person in the world to you. Spending time is the number one thing you do with the number one person in your life.

17. Put effort into looking good. Workout, shave, shower, put on some deodorant. Whatever makes her feel attracted to you, do it.

18. Help out around the house, without special recognition! You don’t have to brag about doing something that she does every day.

19. Be supportive. When she shows that something she wants to do means a lot to her, support her. I wanted to be a writer and told my husband, and see where I am today, writing!

20. If she says something is bothering her, don’t ignore it. Talk about it. Small things that stay on your mind, will grow into big things that are hard to solve.

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21. Work on yourself. Everyone changes over time. When she mentions some behavior that she doesn’t appreciate, show her you are trying to improve on it.

22. Surprise her. Give her a lovely card or letter. Show up with flowers. Buy her that bracelet she wanted. Anything small is good. Surprises are what keep your relationship alive.

23. When in a relaxed state, make her comfortable. For example, when watching tv, sit close and cuddle her or hold her hand.

24. Let her know you think of her when you are not together, by texting or calling.

25. Be pro-active. If she notices that you are trying the best you can at all times, she will respect you for that.

26. Show affection in public. Hold her hand, give her a kiss, hug her. Don’t be ashamed or afraid to show her you love her, even when people can see it.

27. Are you going to be later than expected? Let her know! She won’t feel important if you won’t even let her know that you’re late.

28. Ask her what she’s insecure about. If you want to be the hero who helps her out, you should have an idea what’s she’s afraid of. There are a lot of unstable factors in life, so maybe you can help her with things like a job, place to live or even just letting her know she is important.

29. Refuse to compare her to others. She is your number one! Why even start to compare? She has to be the only one you care about.

30. When you started to fall in love, you were dating. Why change what’s good? Take her out on dates to stay in love!

31. She probably makes dinner for you every night… Why not let her relax while you clean up afterwards? Or better, make dinner once in a while.

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32. If she’s feeling discouraged or hurt, hold her and tell her you love and care for her. She just needs to feel you are there for her at the times she needs you the most.

33. Brag about her. When she’s around, and when she’s not around. Brag about her always. Too many people talk negatively. You chose her, so brag about her.

34. Let her be free to say what’s on her mind. When she speaks from the heart, don’t tell her her feelings aren’t important or dumb.

35. Explore who she is. Try to know more about her. Talk about every subject you can think about. See what her viewpoint is on the deeper things in life. Ask as many questions as you can come up with.

36. Don’t make her feel guilty. Don’t put your problems on her. If you have a problem, talk about it patiently.

37. Make her something. Don’t just buy gifts, create them. Maybe you can make a journal about your relationship, noting down all the important things that happened and adding little memories to cherish.

38. Take pictures with her. Girls take a lot of pictures but they don’t have the same meaning as when you do it. Try to make a picture every time you’re together, even when it’s just relaxing on the couch.

39. When you’re around each other a lot, you have to deal with a lot of serious matters. Try to add in a little bit of fun by making a joke or tickling her. (Know when to stop, because you don’t want to annoy her.)

40. Call her cute names. You don’t want to sound like a businessman by just useing her name. But always using the same nickname can also get boring, so mix it up.

41. Be strong enough to let her help you. When it comes to emotional things, men aren’t usually the best. Let her help you. It’ll show trust and love.

42. Don’t give love to expect it back. Don’t show her you care, just to get it back. Give freely.

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43. Don’t see her as weak, but as precious. Women are simply more emotional than men. But that is not weak. She has to be the most important thing in your life. How can she be important if you look down on her? She is precious.

44. Don’t just appreciate how she looks, also love her personality. If she knows you appreciate her for who she is and not just what she looks like, she will feel more love and appreciate you more.

45. Realize that she is like a gift. Every day of your life with her you should remember that she’s a gift in your life. You could be alone, taking care of yourself, but instead she’s there to take care of you. Don’t take her for granted.

46. Do what you say. When you agree on something, follow through. It may not be the easiest for you, but really do the best you can to do as you agreed on.

47. Celebrate accomplishments. Don’t say ‘cool’ and keep on living life. If she did something she’s proud of or you’re proud of, let her know. Get a bottle of wine or get a little something to celebrate.

48. Find out what she likes in bed and do that.

49. Leave little notes around the house, with sweet messages, so every time she enters a room or uses a different appliance around the house, she has a little surprise. (I got this tip from my husband, who did this when I was feeling down. Made me feel amazing!)

And…

50. Tell her you love her! You can never say it often enough. Keep reminding her every day, hour, minute, that you love her!

Featured photo credit: Ariadna Bruna via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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