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Quotes To Cheer You Up When You Are Devastated.

Quotes To Cheer You Up When You Are Devastated.

Siddhartha Gautama, famously known as Buddha, is the chief figure in Buddhism, and also an important personality for humanity. Buddha means the enlightened one. His enlightenment came when one day, he sat under a pipal tree, now known as Bodhi tree, and meditated for 49 days straight. He was 35 years old at that time.

The next 45 years of his life saw him traveling and preaching how to live a life free of greed, detestation among each other, and ignorance. He taught people of liberty, of free spirit, sagacity and compassion. If you want to know more about him, click here. In case, you are feeling down, or are emotionally devastated, here are 20 quotes to cheer you up and enlighten you of your depression.

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1. Only you can save yourself – no one else. We each must walk on our own paths.

2. Our thoughts shape who we are. When our minds are pure, happiness and joy follow us like shadow.

3. Faithfulness is the best relationship. Health is the supreme gift. Contentment is the greatest wealth.

4. Holding onto your anger is like holding onto a hot coal; the only person you’re hurting is yourself.

5. You can only make two mistakes when traveling on the road to truth: not starting, and not going all the way.

6. Sorrow or happiness – whatever emotion may befall you, walk on your path unattached and untouched.

7. The secret to existence is this: have no fear.

8. Choose your words with care. Others will hear them and will be influenced by them for better or worse.

9. Words can heal, or they can destroy. But when words are kind and true, they can change the world.

10. A dog is not a great dog because he’s a good barker. As such, a man is not a good man because he’s a great talker.

11. Every person is the cause of his or her own disease or health.

12. Evil is necessary to prove that good is the purest of all.

13. The past is gone. The future has yet to arrive. The present moment is the only moment for which you can live.

14. If we do not look after others when they are in need of help, who will look after us when we are in need of help?

15. The moment we give into anger, we stop striving for the truth and start striving for ourselves.

16. Nothing in this world is permanent. Everything can and will change. Being will always be becoming.

17. These three things renew humanity: a life of service and compassion, kind words, and a generous heart.

18. Practice compassion if you want others to be happy. Practice compassion if you want yourself to be happy.

19. If the problem has a solution, why worry? Take action instead. If the problem has no solution, worrying will not do you any good.

20. Happiness comes from a disciplined life.

21. You will never be punished for your anger. You will only be punished by your anger.

22. A single moment can change the day. A single day can change an entire life. A single life can change the entire world.

23. Loving kindness will free your mind. Make this your basis; your vehicle. Exercise yourself in it and stabilize it to fully perfect it.

24. The secret to existence is this: have no fear.

25. Sorrow or happiness – whatever emotion may befall you, walk on your path unattached and untouched.

26. Nothing in the world can harm you more than your unguarded thoughts.

27. You can only find peace within. Do not seek peace without.

28. In the end, there are three things that matter the most: how fully did you live? How strongly did you love? How deeply did you let go?

Hope these quotes have cheered you up!

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Featured photo credit: Francis Chung via flickr.com

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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