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If You Think Achieving Big Goals Takes Time, Get A Kickstart With These 25 Little Things

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If You Think Achieving Big Goals Takes Time, Get A Kickstart With These 25 Little Things

Many people use big goals to improve themselves and their lives — things like, “get a promotion” or “buy a car.” However, these goals can often feel huge and intimidating, so most end up avoiding them or putting them off.

Many people actually find it easier to focus on small goals based around self-improvement, because they quickly see results and progress. You don’t have to drastically change your life to see progress — check out these 25 little goals you can start today to improve your life.

1. Learn one new thing every day: the name of a capital city, a fun fact, something about someone you care about.

2. Unfollow all of the social media accounts that make you feel low. Remember that most things online are totally edited, and it isn’t an accurate representation of real life.

3. Swap a bad habit for a good habit. For example, you could cut down on coffee and try to drink more water.

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4. Look after your hair and skin. Coconut oil makes a great moisturizer for both!

5. Try to laugh every day for the next month. If you need inspiration, you could buy a joke book or bookmark a great online comic.

6. Write down two things you want to accomplish every day for half a year. This will help you to be more productive — after a week, you will already see some progress.

7. Schedule “you time” into every day, even if it is only for 15 minutes. Do something you truly love during this time, like playing games or taking a bath.

8. Be more aware of your diet. Make sure you are eating enough vegetables and try to cut down on unhealthy snacks.

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9. Focus on saving a small amount of money every day. It all adds up; if you save $10 a week for a year, you will have $520!

10. Take the time to appreciate the world around you. Smell the flowers, stroke the cat, and admire the awesome graffiti. It will improve your mood and your appreciation for the world around you.

11. Make a conscious effort to maintain your friendships. Often great relationships end simply because people are too focused on their new careers and friends.

12. Invest in one good pair of shoes for work and one good pair of shoes for exercising. Your feet will thank you when you are older!

13. Try new foods whenever you get the opportunity. If someone offers you a forkful of their food, take it!

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14. Read an article that interests you every day.

15. Don’t just accept your flaws and say “I can’t help being this way.” If you are short-tempered, try to be more relaxed and empathetic. If you are very shy, make an effort to talk more when you are with your loved ones. Everyone can set goals to be a better revision of themselves.

16. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You should always be your own number one supporter.

17. Learn how to cook your favorite dish from the takeaway. This means you can always have a meal you love without spending too much money.

18. Sit up straight.

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19. Look nice even when you have nothing special going on. Remember you make an effort to make yourself feel nice, not anyone else.

20. Look after your technology. Your laptop and phone were probably fairly expensive, so download the updates and keep your laptop on a flat surface!

21. Make sure you get enough sleep. You will feel happier, more relaxed, and you will achieve more.

22. Listen to a comedy show during your commute. It will put you in a great mood for work!

23. If you can, stop showering every day. It will be better for your hair and skin — and you get extra time to yourself to enjoy!

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24. Take a class in something you have always been interested in, like boxing or learning to play the guitar.

25. Smile at a stranger every day.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

Featured photo credit: Jacek Dylag via unsplash.com

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