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Signs That You Seem Childish But You’re Actually Very Mature

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Signs That You Seem Childish But You’re Actually Very Mature

Have you always been a rebel who was opposed to growing up? I have always been like this, and I still am, but this doesn’t mean that I remained a kid. There is a big difference between how people perceive you and how you really are as a person. You may appear childish to others due to some habits which are typical for immature people, but this doesn’t mean that you don’t take care of important things in your life.

This can have a negative effect on you. Why? Simply because you will start to think that it’s true. Furthermore, this may lead you to feel bad about yourself, thinking that you are worse than everybody else since you don’t seem to be growing up. Just stop. Don’t go down that road—it won’t do you any good. Some people are boring, they stop having fun at some point, and just because you like to fool around doesn’t mean that you are doing something wrong. Here is how your childish habits may actually be signs of maturity.

You admit to not knowing things

When someone admits that he or she doesn’t know simple things, people tend to think of them as immature. For example, if you admit things like not knowing how to turn on the washing machine, it does not mean that you are incompetent. One of the major steps towards improving as a person is to face your shortcomings, so that you can correct them in the future.

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You have the courage to do things that scare you

No matter if we are talking about riding a skateboard, taking martial arts courses, or asking the person you like out, you’ve got to have the guts to do it. Going for things in life and risking failure or rejection is much better than sitting in your comfort zone, watching your life pass by. This courage you have empowers you to progress in life and make changes that others are scared of.

You make quick decisions

To others, it seems like you don’t think when you make certain choices. In actual fact, you think faster than the rest, and that’s why you don’t need as much time to make a decision. Rather than thinking about the things you like, you focus on actually doing them, and this can give you an advantage at work or in other situations that require quick decision-making.

You disagree with your parents

Parents will always be parents. They like to meddle in our lives and tell us what to do even when we are fully grown. It is a common belief that, as we mature, our point of view starts to align with how our parents think. This is not true, and you prove this every time you make decisions that your parents dissaprove of. If every generation thought the same, we wouldn’t have evolved much as a civilisation.

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You admit you’ve been hurt in the past

Talking openly about your feelings is a healthy thing and it helps you deal with your past. Insecure people don’t like showing their human side and how fragile they are. By speaking openly about your hardships, you overcome baggage and become a more stable person who cannot be shaken by similar things.

You enjoy sitting home and watching your favorite TV shows

After a hard day at work, the thing you like doing the most is to prepare some tasty food and binge watch your favorite TV shows. You’ve outgrown partying all the time and you now enjoy partying at home with a popular epic fantasy series rather than with people. Who needs people when you have Game of Thrones, right?

You like sleeping

This is one of the things on which you disagree with your parents, and even your friends. You like to go to sleep when you feel like it. Even though people think you are lazy, you know that getting a good night’s sleep is essential for being fresh and ready for each new day. There is no point in staying awake if you are incapable of performing the simplest of tasks.

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You go crazy when you party

You don’t go out very often, since you like to take a good nap or watch TV, but when you do, you go out with style. In a way, you try to make up for everything you’ve been missing out on during your night out and do crazy things, meet new people, drink and dance, even if you don’t really know how to do it. You simply don’t care! The important thing is that you’ve fulfilled the need to do meaningless things and you’ve recharged your batteries for the next week.

You speak honestly

Beating around the bush is not your favorite thing and you like to tell it like it is. If you dislike someone, you will let them know, because there is no need for pretending. Adults don’t waste time on things that they don’t like, and that’s why being honest with others and yourself gets you where you want to be.

You try to have fun as much as you can

When you have some free time on your hands, you like to make the most of it. You enjoy doing things you’ve always dreamed of doing and have no shame when it comes to trying something new. Others may think you are crazy, but you don’t care. Being mature doesn’t mean that you have to be old, and why should you care if others don’t know how to enjoy life?

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These are just a few of the significant signs that you are probably more mature than you (and others!) might think. Being mature is very important for making progress in your career, improving your life skills, and having meaningful relationships. However, I will always nurture the child in me. Sometimes, it’s better to have a less serious outlook on life, and through this perspective, you can even come up with positive solutions to serious issues.

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Ivan Dimitrijevic

Ivan is the CEO and founder of a digital marketing company. He has years of experiences in team management, entrepreneurship and productivity.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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