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Vaginal Birth After Cesarean (VBAC)

Vaginal Birth After Cesarean (VBAC)

Many people view the act of giving birth as being just about the baby. But it is not! Childbirth is as much about the new life as it is about you, the mother. Your desires and your wishes do matter. So, if you want to give birth naturally though your previous was a cesarean birth, you have the right to plan and hope for a VBAC.

A c-section can be a lifesaver, but for some people, it can also leave that personal touch out of childbirth. There are many reasons women need surgery to give birth, and none of them are trivial.

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If you had a cesarean but now want to opt for a VBAC, your work is cut out for you! Let us give you all the scoop on VBAC.

Why should you even try for a VBAC?

You had a Cesarean last time, and your baby came out healthy and happy. So, why rock the boat this time around? There are many reasons you and so many other women worldwide contemplate a VBAC. Here are some of the major reasons:

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  • Faster recovery is one of the biggest reasons women opt for VBAC. With a little one at home already and another one about to make their entry into the world, the last thing you need is to hobble around in pain.
  • For many women, a cesarean birth feels impersonal and takes away some of the early chances for bonding with their newborn. If that is how you felt about your previous delivery, VBAC may be right up your alley.
  • Breastfeeding is one of the most beautiful aspects of giving birth. But a c-section can make breastfeeding difficult. A VBAC can help you establish an early breastfeeding bond with your newborn.
  • Once a c-section, always a c-section! For a long time now, a cesarean birth marked the end of any possibility of a natural delivery in the future. If you are planning to have more than two kids, remember that each c-section makes the chance of a VBAC dimmer.
  • It may feel irrational to others, but how you want to give birth is entirely your choice. So, a VBAC is a good idea just because you want to experience a natural birth!

What are the risks associated with VBAC that you should know about?

A natural birth may be your dream, but the ultimate aim of childbirth remains a healthy baby and a healthy mother! That is why it is important that you know about all the risks associated with VBAC before you jump on the bandwagon.

  • The biggest reason doctors are wary of encouraging a VBAC is a uterine rupture. If you had a uterine rupture during your previous delivery, you should not even attempt a VBAC this time around – yes, it is that risky. But if you had a relatively healthy, low transverse (bikini) cut cesarean, your chance of getting a uterine rupture is as low as 0.5% to 1% (depending on other health issues).
  • A uterine rupture can cause infection and brain damage to the baby.
  • In some extreme cases, a uterine rupture can also necessitate a hysterectomy (removal of the uterus). Remember that a partial hysterectomy does not cause immediate menopause but will leave you infertile.
  • In most cases, the worst that can happen during a VBAC is a failed labor process and an emergency c-section.

What different factors determine the success rate of a VBAC?

You’ve seriously considered the risk factors as they relate to your specific circumstances and still want to opt for VBAC? Good for you! In fact, studies show that a good percentage of women (60% to 80%) go on to have a successful vaginal delivery via VBAC. Some of the factors that determine the success rate of a VBAC attempt include:

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  • Check your previous c-section scar. If you had a low transverse uterine incision last time, you have a good chance of having a successful VBAC. But if you have had more than one c-section, your chances will go down.
  • If your pregnancy is progressing smoothly and none of the factors that led to a cesarean last time exist during your current pregnancy, a vaginal birth is no longer a dream for you.
  • If you go into labor without assistance before or on your due date, you are on track for a VBAC. But if you are already past your due date, the chance of a natural delivery will dip.
  • Another factor that can make VBAC difficult is macrosomia; that is, if your child is larger than usual.
  • According to studies, your age too can play a significant role in VBAC. Younger mothers are more likely to come out of a VBAC successful and without complications. But if you are 35 or above, you are 39% more likely to experience complications and a failed labor trial during VBAC.
  • Your race is also a factor that determines the success rate of a VBAC. White women are more likely to have successful VBACs than women of other races. But the good news is that non-white women are 40% less likely to experience uterine rupture during a VBAC.
  • Obese women are 50% more likely to have a failed VBAC when compared to underweight women.

How can you prepare for a successful VBAC?

If your heart is set for a VBAC, start planning for it. There are things you can do to increase your odds of a successful VBAC.

  • Research, research, and research some more! If you are going for a VBAC, make sure you know the ins and outs of it. You can even take VBAC childbirth classes along with your partner.
  • Talk to your doctor about your wish for a vaginal delivery and discuss your complete medical history with him. Many doctors try to talk women out of a VBAC. But unless there is a good reason, hold your ground. If your health care provider is not supportive of a VBAC, look for someone who is!
  • Look for a hospital that is not just supportive of a VBAC but also has a high success rate in it. The hospital should also be well-equipped to handle any emergency situation.
  • Despite popular belief, your doctor can induce labor during a VBAC. But it will be best if things kick-start naturally. So, allow your body to go into labor naturally.
  • If you are obese, talk to your doctor about the risks while opting for a VBAC. In fact, it will be a great idea to lose some weight before you become pregnant!
  • Eat well and exercise regularly. A healthy pregnancy is surely a plus if you are trying for a VBAC.
  • Most importantly, be ready for a c-section! No matter how perfect everything is moving, the slightest of problems may warrant an emergency cesarean.

“Birth is not only about making a baby. Birth is also about making mothers – strong, capable, competent mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength”. Barbara Katz Rothman

Remember this beautiful quote whenever you find yourself doubting your body. Trust your body and your doctor.

A VBAC can make you feel powerful and strong, reaffirming your inner warrior! But even if you do end up with another cesarean, remember, being a mother itself is a victory. Giving birth is only the first step, you have a whole battle lined up. So, plan a VBAC if it’s right for you but don’t let it take over your life.

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Featured photo credit: VBAC via flickr.com

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Published on August 8, 2018

How Guided Meditation for Kids Can Boost Learning and Social Skills

How Guided Meditation for Kids Can Boost Learning and Social Skills

Do you want the best for your kid? Of course you do!

Boosting your kid’s learning ability and social skills in less than 20 minutes a day? That’s where guided meditation for kids comes in.

You have probably heard a lot about meditation the last couple years. As there’s more and more research in the area of meditation, a lot of people finally start to see the benefits.

A subject that’s not talked about too much is that meditation can also help kids grow incredible learning and social skills.

Meditation for kids is becoming more popular every day as parents want their kids to see the benefits too.

What is guided meditation for kids?

First things first, what exactly is the guided meditation for kids that is talked about in this article?

We can define meditation with the help of Headspace:[1]

Meditation is about training in awareness and getting a healthy sense of perspective. You’re not trying to turn off your thoughts or feelings. You’re learning to observe them without judgment. And eventually, you may start to better understand them as well.

And according to GuidedMind, guided meditation is:[2]

Guided meditation is when you are guided, by a narrator, to elicit a specific change in your life. You are first guided to relax your body and mind, to help you reach a deep meditative state before going on a journey, in your mind, to reach a specific goal.

If you want to get into guided meditation, read this:

The Guided Morning Meditation for Beginners (That Will Change Your Day)

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As you may know, there are a lot of variations on meditation. This includes:

  • Mindfulness, focusing on the breath while accepting everything that’s happening (thoughts, sounds, etc.).
  • (Guided) Visualization, visualizing a particular event, environment, feeling, etc.
  • Heart Rhythm Meditation (HRM), focusing on the breath and the heart while feeling at one with everything. A focus on downward energy flow within the body.
  • Transcendental Meditation (TM), this technique is literally about transcending the negative through internal mantras.
  • Qi Gong, this is a form of meditation that is done through specific movement patterns while focusing on the breath.
  • Kundalini focuses on the upward flow of energy within the body. Focusing on that energy with your breath gives you a higher sense of consciousness.
  • Zazen, sitting with a back straight while focusing on deep breaths.

You can find out more about different forms in this article:

17 Types of Meditation (Techniques and Basics) to Practice Mindfulness

All these forms of meditation can be done individually or guided. Guided meditation for kids is the best choice because it will make it easier for them to follow and understand.

The benefits of meditation for kids

There are a lot of benefits meditation has to offer, but the most important benefit is that it relieves stress. In this time and age, this becomes more important than ever.

(Post-)millennials are dealing with a lot of stress due to the amount of work pressure, opportunities (decision making) and student loan debt (which results in wanting early financial success).[3]

Making sure children are stress resistant is of high importance for the future of their lives.

Of course, there are way more benefits to meditation. So, to convince you further; here follow more benefits to meditation.

There are precisely 76 benefits to meditation which are scientifically proved.[4] But the main benefits of meditation are:

  • Improved concentration[5]
  • Increased happiness[6]
  • Slows down the aging process[7]
  • Increased immunity[8] and cardiovascular health[9]
  • Improved mood and brain power

Here I’m going to look into some of meditation’s benefits that parents care about most:

Boost learning ability

The question is: ‘How does meditation for kids improve learning ability?’

There are, of course, multiple answers but there’s one simple answer; concentration. As you read earlier on in this article, meditation improves the ability to concentrate.

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If the ability to concentrate increases, it will lead to an increased attention span which is one of the factors that affect learning.

By implementing guided meditation into your kids’ life; he/she will become a better learner.

Another reason to increase the attention span of your child beside learning is that our average attention span per person is decreasing exponentially because of all the distractions that we have around us.

The more we let distractions in, the less easy it becomes to really focus on something. This is because it takes us 23 minutes to get into something after being distracted.[10]

Improve social skills

The way meditation for kids improves the social skills of the meditator is through the sense of presence it creates.[11] Being present in a conversation is more important than you may think.

Do you know those people who are just way up in their head which makes it hard to have an in-depth conversation with?

They probably don’t meditate.

By being present in a conversation, you can better understand the person you’re talking to. Not being carried away by your thoughts makes it easier to process the information the other is providing. Including non-verbal signs, you may never have noticed if you weren’t present.

Meditation for kids also improves charisma because of the loving nature that grows from meditating. Especially the kindness and gratitude focused forms of meditation for kids. By being more kind and grateful; your kid will increase in charisma and feeling of interconnectedness which will improve social skills.

Last but not least, implementing guided meditation for kids in the form of guided meditation by you (the parent) will likely improve the relationship between you and your child.

This creates the opportunity to educate your child on specific social skills you’ve picked up and the other way around. Also, a child is very dependent on its environment.

By increasing social skills yourself, you will improve the social skills of your child.

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How to get started with guided meditation for kids

Below follows a step-by-step process on how to implement guided meditation for kids into your kids’ life.

Step 1: Do it yourself first

Have you ever tried learning Spanish from someone who doesn’t speak Spanish? No, because it doesn’t make sense!

This is the same for meditation for kids. If you want to teach your kid how to meditate, you will first have to do it yourself.

Pick a form of meditation for kids you think would work best and get the hang of it. Follow guided meditation via YouTube or any platform you like.

Suggestions: Visualization meditation, body scan meditation or simple mindfulness.

There’s an easy guide on meditation you can do anywhere at any time:

The 5-Minute Guide to Meditation: Anywhere, Anytime

Step 2: Expose your kid to the practice

By exposing your kid to the practice without him/her knowing, its intention will raise their curiosity. This makes it easier to convince them afterward.

Meditate in the presence of them; put your earplugs in and start meditating while they are around. When they talk to you or touch you while you’re meditating, keep meditating until they walk away.

When you’re done, you can explain what you were doing and why you were doing and ask to do it together. Explain it in a way, so they understand it.

Here’s an article that will help you explain mindfulness to your kid:

Mindfulness: What it is and How to Explain it to Kids and Adults

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Tip: Make it sound like it’s very special (which it is) so that they’ll grow their curiosity and excitement even more.

Step 3: Do it together

Now that you have the interest of your child and know the essence of meditation you can finally do it together. Guide them through the meditation or put on the meditation you followed before.

Make it a fun and enjoyable experience for your child at first while keeping the essence of meditation in mind.

As you and your child progress you may want to make it more serious.

Step 4: Let your child express himself/Herself entirely

You will get a lot of insights about your feelings and thoughts through meditation. Your child will also experience these things and may want to express it.

Ask your child after the meditation what he/she experienced or felt. Let them get rid of everything that’s bothering them.

Step 5: Be consistent

As you do it more frequently; you will build a habit for you and your kid that will benefit you both. Reward them after each meditation.

Make it a fun experience instead of something they must do. Don’t push it.

Step 6: Be calm and let it be

Again, don’t push it and don’t expect anything. You want to get your child into meditation for kids so he/she can benefit from it in the long run. But you can’t decide for your kid if he/she wants it or not.

You will have to educate yourself first before you can train your child. Read books or articles about meditation for kids and try your best.

Conclusion

Here’s a summary of the key points you have learned by reading this article:

  • You now know what (guided) meditation for kids is.
  • You know why it’s so important to include (guided) meditation into your and your kids’ life.
  • You know how (guided) meditation for kids helps improve the learning ability of your kid.
  • You know how (guided) meditation for kids helps improve the social skills of your kid.
  • You have the steps you can follow to implement meditation for kids into your kids’ life.

Good luck and start meditating with your kids!

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