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5 Reasons Your Family Needs A Big Dry Erase Board

5 Reasons Your Family Needs A Big Dry Erase Board

Running a household with a family is serious business. It seems like a miracle that we can tie together all the loose ends from last week before we’re pulled into next Monday, yet all too often our ropes seem frayed. Instead of enjoying a relaxing weekend, we’re scrambling just to survive the week.

If this frantic race seems like your life, take heart; there is a simple way to streamline your family, save your sanity, and bring everyone to the same page. If you want a happier household with better communication and more quality time, buy a huge dry erase board.

Introducing an oversize dry erase board as a centerpiece for communication and family involvement is a smart investment for your money for these reasons:

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1. Chores will actually get done

Life before the big board is tough because everyone is scrambling through the week like chickens with their heads cut off. The list of little things that were overlooked tend to swamp moms and dads – and when momma ain’t happy, nobody’s happy. On the board, you can devote a square to the rotation of weekly chores, as well as odds and ends that need completion. Kiddos and spouses can check off jobs when they are accomplished. The board will also remind them of their responsibilities so you don’t have to nag them.

As a bonus, you can get your children involved in assigning weekly responsibilities so they can experience greater ownership in the household economy.

2. It will ease tension between you and your spouse

All of the little things that we expect our spouses to accomplish via ESP never quite seem to happen. When they don’t, it strains our relationships. Even the “honey-dos” that are communicated, often happen in passing, when we are least likely to remember. So, when your wife wants you to take the garbage to the trash, it’s a zillion times more likely to happen if you see a concrete representation of that request on your big board.

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Each member in your family has a different way of perceiving the world. For example, some are auditory learners, while others are visual. When you have additional methods of communicating, you’re more likely to achieve the end result you have in mind.

3. It will enhance appreciation and respect in your family

So many times, the things that are asked of a family member go unrecognized or without praise because people run in and out of the house so quickly. When you have a big board, you can leave little messages that show your appreciation for a job well done or a good deed – even if that family member isn’t home. When they come back to the board, they’ll see your note, and it will make all the difference in the world.

Family members who feel appreciated and needed will take ownership in family goals, and step up to greater responsibilities. If you want to prepare your children for taking on greater responsibilities and self sufficiency, the big board is a fun and interactive way to help them take pride in their contributions and responsibilities.

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4. It is a unique ritual that enhances your families identity

When your child’s friends come over and see this gigantic board by the kitchen with all colors of the rainbow artfully squiggled, your kids will tell them all about how you guys get stuff done with the board, how much fun it is, and why their family needs one too.

The big board actually represents something far deeper that what it appears. It represents a willingness to communicate and love each other better. Centering your family around that symbol and weaving your days and weeks on it will enhance the identity of your family.

The ritual of making plans, executing them, and showing appreciation on the big board will be something that uniquely characterizes your family’s love for each other. When your kids grow older, they’ll look back nostalgically on how much the big board meant to them, and how special it was. Then you can get one for your children’s and grandchildren’s houses.

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5. It will make long-term planning attractive for your children

All the fun and excitement surrounding interactions with the big board will program the idea that teamwork, sacrifice, and long-term planning are really good things. You can get creative with it too. If you feel one youngster has been going above and beyond in helping others and taking on additional responsibilities, you can clip little coupons that are good for one round of putt-putt golf, or go-karting, or pin tickets to a baseball or basketball game.

Physical representations, like pictures of privileges that your children want to earn, like learning how to drive, or going on a vacation to the Bahamas, can be posted on top of the board. This will help them keep focused on their goals and responsibilities.

The big board will help instill the lesson that privileges are earned with responsibility, and that the two go hand in hand. Tying those concepts together in a fun family ritual will be most instructive on your children’s future while helping you to accomplish the things that need to get done around the house.

Conclusion

Your family can use all the help it can get to function peaceably and efficiently. For something that costs $100 or less, a big board will pay out big dividends for your families happiness and cohesion in the short and long term.

Featured photo credit: Color markers/ Osseous via flickr.com

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Published on January 30, 2019

How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

In roughly 60 percent of two-parent households with children under the age of 18, both parents work full time. But who takes time off work when the kids are sick in your house? And if you are a manager, how do you react when a man says he needs time to take his baby to the pediatrician?

The sad truth is, the default in many companies and families is to value the man’s work over the woman’s—even when there is no significant difference in their professional obligations or compensation. This translates into stereotypes in the workplace that women are the primary caregivers, which can negatively impact women’s success on the job and their upward mobility.

According to a Pew Research Center analysis of long-term time-use data (1965–2011), fathers in dual-income couples devote significantly less time than mothers do to child care.[1] Dads are doing more than twice as much housework as they used to (from an average of about four hours per week to about 10 hours), but there is still a significant imbalance.

This is not just an issue between spouses; it’s a workplace culture issue. In many offices, it is still taboo for dads to openly express that they have family obligations that need their attention. In contrast, the assumption that moms will be on the front lines of any family crisis is one that runs deep.

Consider an example from my company. A few years back, one of our team members joined us for an off-site meeting soon after returning from maternity leave. Not even two hours into her trip, her husband called to say that the baby had been crying nonstop. While there was little our colleague could practically do to help with the situation, this call was clearly unsettling, and the result was that her attention was divided for the rest of an important business dinner.

This was her first night away since the baby’s birth, and I know that her spouse had already been on several business trips before this event. Yet, I doubt she called him during his conferences to ask child-care questions. Like so many moms everywhere, she was expected to figure things out on her own.

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The numbers show that this story is far from the exception. In another Pew survey, 47 percent of dual-income parents agreed that the moms take on more of the work when a child gets sick.[2] In addition, 39 percent of working mothers said they had taken a significant amount of time off from work to care for their child compared to just 24 percent of working fathers. Mothers are also more likely than fathers (27 percent to 10 percent) to say they had quit their job at some point for family reasons.

Before any amazing stay-at-home-dads post an angry rebuttal comment, I want to be very clear that I am not judging how families choose to divide and conquer their personal and professional responsibilities; that’s 100 percent their prerogative. Rather, I am taking aim at the culture of inequity that persists even when spouses have similar or identical professional responsibilities. This is an important issue for all of us because we are leaving untapped business and human potential on the table.

What’s more, I think my fellow men can do a lot about this. For those out there who still privately think that being a good dad just means helping out mom, it’s time to man up. Stop expecting working partners—who have similar professional responsibilities—to bear the majority of the child-care responsibilities as well.

Consider these ways to support your working spouse:

1. Have higher expectations for yourself as a father; you are a parent, not a babysitter.

Know who your pediatrician is and how to reach him or her. Have a back-up plan for transportation and emergency coverage.

Don’t simply expect your partner to manage all these invisible tasks on her own. Parenting takes effort and preparation for the unexpected.

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As in other areas of life, the way to build confidence is to learn by doing. Moms aren’t born knowing how to do this stuff any more than dads are.

2. Treat your partner the way you’d want to be treated.

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard a man on a business trip say to his wife on a call something to the effect of, “I am in the middle of a meeting. What do you want me to do about it?”

However, when the tables are turned, men often make that same call at the first sign of trouble.

Distractions like this make it difficult to focus and engage with work, which perpetuates the stereotype that working moms aren’t sufficiently committed.

When you’re in charge of the kids, do what she would do: Figure it out.

3. When you need to take care of your kids, don’t make an excuse that revolves around your partner’s availability.

This implies that the children are her first priority and your second.

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I admit I have been guilty in the past of telling clients, “I have the kids today because my wife had something she could not move.” What I should have said was, “I’m taking care of my kids today.”

Why is it so hard for men to admit they have personal responsibilities? Remember that you are setting an example for your sons and daughters, and do the right thing.

4. As a manager, be supportive of both your male and female colleagues when unexpected situations arise at home.

No one likes or wants disruptions, but life happens, and everyone will face a day when the troubling phone call comes from his sitter, her school nurse, or even elderly parents.

Accommodating personal needs is not a sign of weakness as a leader. Employees will be more likely to do great work if they know that you care about their personal obligations and family—and show them that you care about your own.

5. Don’t keep score or track time.

At home, it’s juvenile to get into debates about who last changed a diaper or did the dishes; everyone needs to contribute, but the big picture is what matters. Is everyone healthy and getting enough sleep? Are you enjoying each other’s company?

In business, too, avoid the trap of punching a clock. The focus should be on outcomes and performance rather than effort and inputs. That’s the way to maintain momentum toward overall goals.

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The Bottom Line

To be clear, I recognize that a great many working dads are doing a terrific job both on the home front and in their professional lives. My concern is that these standouts often aren’t visible to their colleagues; they intentionally or inadvertently let their work as parents fly under the radar. Dads need to be open and honest about family responsibilities to change perceptions in the workplace.

The question “How do you balance it all?” should not be something that’s just asked of women. Frankly, no one can answer that question. Juggling a career and parental responsibilities is tough. At times, really tough.

But it’s something that more parents should be doing together, as a team. This can be a real bonus for the couple relationship as well, because nothing gets in the way of good partnership faster than feelings of inequity.

On the plus side, I can tell you that parenting skills really do get better with practice—and that’s great for people of both sexes. I think our cultural expectations that women are the “nurturers” and men are the “providers” needs to evolve. Expanding these definitions will open the doors to richer contributions from everyone, because women can and should be both—and so should men.

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