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7 Signs You Are Not Doing What You Want to Do

7 Signs You Are Not Doing What You Want to Do

Did you decide to start hitting the gym but failed to get out of your bed early the next morning? Or maybe, you wanted to start reading a new book but you couldn’t make it past the first five pages. You want to take your classes regularly, hang out with friends more often, give time to your family and go to the mountains on holidays, but nothing is going the way you wanted it to. I know how it feels.

Everyone fantasizes about a lot of things in life and only some of them achieve what they desired. There are times when you are brought down and distressed by hurdles and problems in life, but the one who doesn’t give up is the one who reaches his or her goals in life. Most people go unnoticed of the fact that they are not doing what they wanted to do in life and chances are you are one of them.

Well then these 7 signs you are not doing what you want to do can serve as a warning so that you change yourself and buckle up to progress.

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1. You waste a lot of time doing unnecessary things

Surfing the internet for hours and scrolling your mouse again and again, watching reality television shows repeatedly, playing video games all day and drinking too much. If that’s what you’ve been doing all along, you are never going to complete what you’ve wanted to. Think for yourself. Are things like such going to serve you for good? Will you enjoy success in life through doing these things?

You need to start taking your life seriously and taking time to evaluate yourself, your goals and your dreams. Once you start setting up a perfect routine for yourself, things are surely going to change and you’ll complete what you’ve wanted to.

2. You’re procrastinating a lot

You have a lot of things to complete and your deadline is looming but you find yourself indulged in many things that by no means are important. You are putting off your most important task for the other day, everyday and you just don’t know how to start it. Well, procrastinating is the very first thing that prevents you from doing what you want to do.

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The first thing you need to do is stop checking the same email again and again, stop watching videos that are not related to you in any way, hanging out for no reason or sitting in front of your computer and chatting with your friend about the new designer dress your ex’s girlfriend wore yesterday. You seriously need to start doing things that are in your pending list right from now on and stop procrastinating.

3. You’re complaining too often

You might not be happy with your job, your salary or the people around you and all you do is complain about things in a tea-party with your best friends. If you are one of these people you’re doing it wrong. Complaining about a lot of things will burgeon negative thoughts in your life and it doesn’t help you in any way.

What you can do is start changing things you don’t like and develop a positive attitude. It keeps you motivated and you develop a vigor to complete things that you’ve wanted to.

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4. You don’t sleep on time

Did you hear the morning alarm and you find yourself still awake? Well, all you need to start something fresh is rest. If you stay up late and don’t get proper sleep, your mind does not function well. You feel drowsy the whole day and you just can’t focus. This is what distresses you and keeps you away from doing what you really wanted to accomplish.

5. You don’t feel inspired

You just watched a comedy movie but not even a punch line made you laugh, or you didn’t even care about how fascinating the story of a boy was who saved a dog from getting hit by the bus. There are things people love to do and all you need to do is explore, get to know yourself and find things that excite you. You need to rediscover yourself and your passion to keep yourself motivated in life so that you can achieve your goals that you’ve set before.

6. You don’t have plans

The first step to doing what you want to do is planning things accordingly and setting up a road-map of how you’re going to reach it. If you get lost in the conundrum and start working out without a plan, you’re almost certain to fail. As said, a good start is a job half done, planning is what gives you a perfect initiation to what you’ve wanted to do.

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7. You are not enjoying your life

The first thing you need to do is keep yourself happy. Anyone’s success is measured not by the amount of money they’ve earned over the years or the fame they’ve accumulated to reach their prominence, but by happiness. If you feel discordant or unsatisfied with yourself or the people around you, you’re not enjoying your life and you are sure to fall back. You won’t be able to concentrate on what you want to do if you are not enjoying your life.

If any of these 7 points feel like you, you don’t need to worry. Making good changes is inevitable if you desire success and want to achieve things that you want to do. All you need to do is change the way you think of yourself, make a proper daily routine and start planning things accordingly. Success is not so far!

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10 Success Principles for Living Your Dream Life

10 Success Principles for Living Your Dream Life

Are you stressed out and overwhelmed, wishing you had more time to do the things that really matter? Are you ready to do something better, something special in your life or your career?

You were born with a gift that no one else in the world can express like you. When you dance to your own music, you naturally develop your innate abilities and excel in work and life. You are a total rock star. But when you live someone else’s idea of who you should be, it throws off your groove.

Many people—maybe you—stopped following their dreams way too early in life because their talents were ignored, minimized, or shamed. They didn’t have the chops to win an American Idol competition or nab an Olympic gold medal, so they stopped expressing their inborn gifts altogether.

You don’t need to be an award winner to rock your life. Living your dream life is about discovering your superpowers and feeling vibrant and joyful when you use them. It’s about owning what makes you unique and finding like-minded people to support you.

Here are 10 success principles to help you live a rich and rewarding life on your terms that have worked with thousands of people in my workshops and will work for you, too.

1. Get a Hobby to Move Closer to Your Dreams

If you never became a professional dancer or a world-renowned author, it does NOT mean you should stop dancing or writing! These activities make you come alive, even if you “only” do them as favorite pastimes.

Engaging in a hobby is one of the most important success principles you can follow to move closer to your dreams.

When you try something creative for the first time or in a long while, you begin to see opportunities at work and in life that you were unaware of before. You also feel happier and more energized, according to a recent study from New Zealand.[1]

Some of my most burned-out executive clients reinvigorated their careers by discovering a creative outlet that refueled them after the workday ended. Research at San Francisco State University shows that having a hobby lowers stress and helps you succeed at work.[2]

So, give yourself permission to try new things and revisit old passions you gave up long ago. Setting aside just one hour a week for personal exploration can significantly change your life.

Who knows? Your creative outlet could transform into a thriving business or lead to a new profession down the road.

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2. Focus on Your Strengths, Not Your Weaknesses

Did you know that you are more likely to succeed when you develop your natural strengths rather than work on your weaknesses? The problem is that you probably don’t know where your true talents lie.

Here are a few options to help you discover your unique strengths. You can:

  • Take the VIA Character Strengths Survey[3]
  • Try Gallup’s CliftonStrengths Assessment[4]
  • Answer a few Superpower Questions

Once you understand what makes you tick, you can use these skills at work and your personal life to get more done in less time. If you boost your unique abilities through practice and study, you can accelerate your career and become a leader in a field that matters to you. It’s worth investing in yourself this way.

3. Jumping off a Cliff is NOT Required

Here’s the deal: most people are too afraid to change. When participants first come to my workshops, they tell me they have mouths to feed, bills to pay, and fear that if they follow their dreams, someone will get hurt.

The old saying “leap and the net shall appear” does not comfort them. Because they are hesitant to plunge into the unknown, they believe their only option is to stay put where they are in life. Can you relate?

You do not have to sacrifice the life you have now to start a new one. I was a psychology professor by day and singer by night for years before I transitioned into a full-time music career.

Just take a little time out each week to do what enlivens you through a hobby, volunteer work, etc. Get a feel for it.

Is it what you really want? If so, increase the time you spend doing it and make the transition when the time feels right.

4. Give Your Inner Critic Some Love

The main culprit that keeps you from stepping outside your comfort zone and getting the life of your dreams is KCRP or K-CRAP – the radio station that plays 24/7 in your head. The moment you try to do something interesting with your life it slaps you down with such chart-topping killer hooks as “Who do you think you are?” and “You’ll never be good enough!”.

Have you ever noticed that KCRP’s mean-spirited DJ sounds like your parents, teachers, bosses, and other authority figures who shut you down creatively? These folks don’t need to stifle you any longer (although they often still do) because your inner critic does it for them. That keeps you stuck in a rut.

To break free, try thinking of this DJ as a gruff old grandfather who gives you crap to keep you safe. Remember, this grumpy grandpa is woefully out of touch with the times. So, his stern opinions don’t really matter much, do they? Give him a pat on the back for his good intentions, and put your focus back on what makes you come alive.

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This success principle will give you the courage to venture into the unknown where you can dance to the beat of your own drummer.

5. Embrace Your Inner Weirdo

Many of us don’t go after our dreams because we’re afraid folks will find out how odd or strange we are. But our little eccentricities often turn out to be our greatest strengths. Yes, it’s good to be quirky.

Odds are, you lost track of your true passions and talents before you were even old enough to know you were getting off-track. You became slowly “adulterated” by learning to:

  • Take on family roles that don’t match who you really are.
  • Spit back what teachers taught you in school rather than risk getting bad grades for being original.
  • Hide parts of yourself that don’t seem acceptable to certain social groups.

The price for fitting in is that you may wind up leading a life that doesn’t fit you all that well. Your true calling becomes clear when you embrace what makes you different from others and allow yourself to stand out from the crowd, even if it feels awkward.

Often, the very qualities you view as your flaws are your greatest gifts.

6. See the Bigger Picture to Find Your True Calling

I cannot stress the importance of this success principle enough. Your true calling is right in front of you. But you may miss it because you’re looking for it in the wrong place.

To “see” it clearly, try widening your point of view.

Case in point: Maria felt she needed to retire early from being a police detective, so she could travel abroad. I encouraged Maria to think of ways that she could continue to serve as a law enforcer (a career she loved) and travel overseas at the same time.

A few months later, Maria landed a job with the United Nations in Bosnia training the local police force to understand and embrace human rights procedures.

Like Maria, you are an everyday rock star capable of accomplishing greater things than you can imagine. Is what you’re looking for right in front of you, too? Do you have an inkling of what it may be?

Look beyond your day-to-day activities, your current job, and even the town you live in. View your life from an eagle’s perspective and be open to new possibilities.

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7. Try a Little Wish-List Magic

Pretend I’m your fairy godmother and I give you permission right now to be your most magnificent self. What kind of life would be music to your ears? It doesn’t matter whether it seems unattainable or even downright crazy. Write it down on a wish list.

Get quiet. Be honest. Think big.

What would you like your career, your relationships, your health, your finances, and your spiritual life to be like? Jot down enough details so that your wishes seem tangible to you. Then, look at this list every morning before you start your day and every night before you go to sleep.

Sounds silly? It’s not. It works! Permitting yourself to daydream about a rich and fulfilling life is the first step to manifesting it.

8. Take Breaks to Get Clues About Your Ideal Future

Did you know that working straight through to a deadline leads to diminishing returns? Research shows that taking a break for 15 minutes every 75 to 90 minutes can help you recharge, refresh your focus, and get more done in less time.[5]

Wait, it gets better! A Stanford study shows that walking increases your creative output increases by 60 percent. Doing repetitive activities such as walking, running, riding your bike, swimming, and sweeping allow solutions to problems to pop into your mind out of nowhere.[6]

What does this success principle have to do with creating your dream life?

These mini-breaks allow you to get vital clues for what to do next to attain your ideal future. Plus, you won’t waste precious time and energy getting lost in other people’s agendas.

9. Take Action on Your Inspired Ideas

Once an inspired thought pops into your mind, take action.

This is one of the most powerful success principles for turning your dreams into reality; the sooner the better. Whatever it is—from calling an old friend to taking a new route home—be sure to do it!

Pay attention to your oddball hunches. You need to go after what you want, not just dream about it. As comedian Jim Carrey warns,

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“You can’t just visualize and go eat a sandwich.”

10. Count Your Rockstar Moments

Still not sure you have what it takes to get your dream life? This final success principle is guaranteed to help.

Make a list of everything you’ve ever accomplished. As you read back through it, put a star next to each item, and let it sink in.

You’ll be pleasantly surprised by how good you’ll feel about yourself afterward. You’ll also see how effective you’ve been in the past at getting what you want. You’ve succeeded before, you can succeed again.

You already rock. You just need to own it. Trust me, you’ve got this!

Final Thoughts

Eleanor Roosevelt said,

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

Following these success principles will help you find the time and energy to do the things that really matter and live with clear intention.

By spending just one hour a week doing something you love, focusing on your strengths and achievements, embracing what makes you different, and acting on inspired ideas, you can create a life that is a perfect fit for you, step-by-step.

If you don’t have a clue about what your dream life could look like yet, don’t worry. Your heart knows. It has been “talking” to you for a long time. It’s just being muffled by KCRP, buried under a lot of “shoulds” and fear.

This article can also help you figure out the life you truly want to live: How to Get Motivated and Be Happy Every Day When You Wake Up.

Stand still, get quiet, and listen. It’s constantly telling you what you need to do to realize your own rockstar potential. It may be just a whisper now, but the more you pay attention to it, the louder it will get, and the easier it will be to follow.

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