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7 Signs You Are Not Doing What You Want to Do

7 Signs You Are Not Doing What You Want to Do

Did you decide to start hitting the gym but failed to get out of your bed early the next morning? Or maybe, you wanted to start reading a new book but you couldn’t make it past the first five pages. You want to take your classes regularly, hang out with friends more often, give time to your family and go to the mountains on holidays, but nothing is going the way you wanted it to. I know how it feels.

Everyone fantasizes about a lot of things in life and only some of them achieve what they desired. There are times when you are brought down and distressed by hurdles and problems in life, but the one who doesn’t give up is the one who reaches his or her goals in life. Most people go unnoticed of the fact that they are not doing what they wanted to do in life and chances are you are one of them.

Well then these 7 signs you are not doing what you want to do can serve as a warning so that you change yourself and buckle up to progress.

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1. You waste a lot of time doing unnecessary things

Surfing the internet for hours and scrolling your mouse again and again, watching reality television shows repeatedly, playing video games all day and drinking too much. If that’s what you’ve been doing all along, you are never going to complete what you’ve wanted to. Think for yourself. Are things like such going to serve you for good? Will you enjoy success in life through doing these things?

You need to start taking your life seriously and taking time to evaluate yourself, your goals and your dreams. Once you start setting up a perfect routine for yourself, things are surely going to change and you’ll complete what you’ve wanted to.

2. You’re procrastinating a lot

You have a lot of things to complete and your deadline is looming but you find yourself indulged in many things that by no means are important. You are putting off your most important task for the other day, everyday and you just don’t know how to start it. Well, procrastinating is the very first thing that prevents you from doing what you want to do.

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The first thing you need to do is stop checking the same email again and again, stop watching videos that are not related to you in any way, hanging out for no reason or sitting in front of your computer and chatting with your friend about the new designer dress your ex’s girlfriend wore yesterday. You seriously need to start doing things that are in your pending list right from now on and stop procrastinating.

3. You’re complaining too often

You might not be happy with your job, your salary or the people around you and all you do is complain about things in a tea-party with your best friends. If you are one of these people you’re doing it wrong. Complaining about a lot of things will burgeon negative thoughts in your life and it doesn’t help you in any way.

What you can do is start changing things you don’t like and develop a positive attitude. It keeps you motivated and you develop a vigor to complete things that you’ve wanted to.

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4. You don’t sleep on time

Did you hear the morning alarm and you find yourself still awake? Well, all you need to start something fresh is rest. If you stay up late and don’t get proper sleep, your mind does not function well. You feel drowsy the whole day and you just can’t focus. This is what distresses you and keeps you away from doing what you really wanted to accomplish.

5. You don’t feel inspired

You just watched a comedy movie but not even a punch line made you laugh, or you didn’t even care about how fascinating the story of a boy was who saved a dog from getting hit by the bus. There are things people love to do and all you need to do is explore, get to know yourself and find things that excite you. You need to rediscover yourself and your passion to keep yourself motivated in life so that you can achieve your goals that you’ve set before.

6. You don’t have plans

The first step to doing what you want to do is planning things accordingly and setting up a road-map of how you’re going to reach it. If you get lost in the conundrum and start working out without a plan, you’re almost certain to fail. As said, a good start is a job half done, planning is what gives you a perfect initiation to what you’ve wanted to do.

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7. You are not enjoying your life

The first thing you need to do is keep yourself happy. Anyone’s success is measured not by the amount of money they’ve earned over the years or the fame they’ve accumulated to reach their prominence, but by happiness. If you feel discordant or unsatisfied with yourself or the people around you, you’re not enjoying your life and you are sure to fall back. You won’t be able to concentrate on what you want to do if you are not enjoying your life.

If any of these 7 points feel like you, you don’t need to worry. Making good changes is inevitable if you desire success and want to achieve things that you want to do. All you need to do is change the way you think of yourself, make a proper daily routine and start planning things accordingly. Success is not so far!

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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