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Study Finds People Who Show Their True Selves At Work Are Happier And More Productive

Study Finds People Who Show Their True Selves At Work Are Happier And More Productive

A recent study has shown that the more people show their true selves at work, the happier and more productive they’ll be.

“To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou cans’t not be false to any man”. — William Shakespeare, Hamlet

In what is claimed to be the first causal evidence showing that workplace happiness does in fact matter, the study was undertaken by researchers over at the Social Market Foundation and the University of Warwick’s Center for Competitive Advantage in the Global Economy in a bid to understand the happy-productive worker.

The research included four different experiments and over 700 participants. The experiments involved showing random individuals either a 10-minute comedy clip or providing them with snacks and drinks. This was then followed up by a discussion to decide whether the “happiness shocks” (referred to in the report) had a positive impact on the participants.

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According to Fortune, other participants were asked to discuss recent events in their lives, such as family tragedies, so that researchers could determine whether the lower levels of happiness could be associated with low productivity.

The results showed that those that were treated to a funny video or treats had an average increase of around 12% in their productivity –  even going as far as reaching 20% in some. The study also found that there was a link between unhappiness and low productivity in those that discussed less-happier experiences – that could have a lasting effect of up to around 2 years.

Pair this up with the American Psychological Association’s 2008 “Authentic Personality” report that determined whether “authenticity is related to well-being”. The results clearly show that there IS a direct line between being yourself with being happy and productive.

With these studies in mind, you might be wondering what are some of the things that you can do to stay happy – and therefore productive – at work. Here are some great tips.

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Know your strengths, own your strengths

Once you know your own strengths in your profession, you can go ahead crafting them in an effort to own them. By knowing your capabilities, you will reduce the risk of self-doubt. Instead of thinking whether you’re able to do a designated task, you’ll be positively and assuredly able to know that you can do it.

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    According to Marcus Buckingham and LeanIn, there are four key signs to recognizing your strengths:

    • Success – This is the power of feeling in control and effective when doing the task at hand.
    • Instinct – This is the feeling of looking forward to doing the task because you’re aware and confident you can do it.
    • Growth – Knowing that the activity will help you to be focused and remain inquisitive.
    • Needs – Whether the task has knocked you out or not, you still feel fulfilled and have a sense of achievement.

    Don’t always aim to please

    By aiming to please, you’re instantly going against your natural instinct because you’re reaching out to be how someone else wants you to be. Whilst there are times when conforming for the greater good is more ideal in the situation, remember to make sure you’re not always aiming to please.

    It’s okay for people to disagree with your opinion from time to time – it’s your opinion, not theirs. Having an opinion means you have a voice. Even if people decide not to listen, you will ultimately feel proud that you at least spoke your mind and shared your feelings. Don’t be brash about it. Be sure to respect other people’s opinions and even company culture, but don’t be afraid to share your thoughts.

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      The folks over at Game-Changer believe that true innovators don’t have a culture that aims to please the boss, and that employee freedom and responsibility go together:

      “The main point is people need freedom, support and challenge to make innovation happen; not to think twice about expressing themselves freely because they fear getting punished. Put simply, if you are afraid to say what you really think in a meeting, you are not free. You are a corporate slave.”

      Reflect on your values and who you are as a person

      To know yourself, you need to find out and realize what it is you are and what you stand for. This is not something that comes easy to many people, and can take years for people to properly figure out. Think of it as a stepping stone. Take the time to jump from one stone to another, learning another value of yours one step at a time.

      An easy way to start figuring your values out is to follow Colin Hile’s 5-step exercise on identifying what your core values are by applying contemplation, choice, and commitment.

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      If all else fails, just remember this, courtesy of RuPaul:

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        Ultimately, if you’re not being yourself then you’re not going to be your most productive self. By figuring out what you stand for and taking steps on improving your situation, you will not only find happiness at work and life, but also boost your productivity.

        Featured photo credit: Rawpixel.com via shutterstock.com

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        Published on May 4, 2021

        How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

        How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

        They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

        In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

        How to Spot Fake People?

        When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

        Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

        1. Full of Themselves

        Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

        Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

        2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

        Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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        It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

        3. Zero Self-Reflection

        To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

        Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

        4. Unrealistic Perceptions

        Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

        A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

        5. Love Attention

        As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

        6. People Pleaser

        Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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        Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

        7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

        Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

        8. Crappy friend

        Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

        It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

        The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

        How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

        It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

        There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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        1. Boundaries

        Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

        2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

        Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

        3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

        If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

        4. Ask for Advice

        If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

        Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

        5. Dig Deeper

        Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

        Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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        6. Practice Self-Care!

        Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

        Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

        Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

        Final Thoughts

        Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

        We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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