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9 Things First Time Pregnant Moms Understand So Well

9 Things First Time Pregnant Moms Understand So Well

Here are 9 things you’ll understand if you’re a first time mom.

1. If you are a stranger, no, we don’t want you touching our belly.

Seriously, just stop asking. First of all, when you touch my belly, no part of you is actually in contact with my baby. It’s all me. Second of all, I wouldn’t want your grubby fingers touching my baby even if you could! I promise you, the yuck factor it gives me is way, way bigger than whatever pleasure it gives you. Gross.

2. Pregnancy symptoms are magical.

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The first time I felt my baby’s sweet fluttering kicks inside, I felt like the world stood still. It was as if he was nudging me, reminding me just how real and alive he is. As I sat in waiting rooms, the DMV, church, at home watching TV, I was constantly reminded that my body was nurturing a brand new precious life, without me consciously even doing anything. Pregnancy is magical. Baby, your mama already knows you from the inside out.

3. …but some pregnancy symptoms are not so magical.

Any first time mom knows that sometimes the sweetest kicks from her baby are occasionally overshadowed by having to rush to the bathroom constantly, either to puke, or to keep from wetting herself. Smells are especially dangerous, from last night’s onion peels in the trash to the range of new smells your own body is producing, the slightest whiff of the wrong thing can tie your stomach in knots. Yeah, I’ll just say it. No one really tells you how disgusting some pregnancy symptoms are.

4. Yes, we’re excited.

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And even with all of nastiness, we keep envisioning meeting our little one for the first time face-to-face, and all of the unpleasantness just fades away. We lay out our baby’s freshly washed layettes and baby hats in his nursery and the “realness” of it all starts to set in. Before you know it, your new little bundle of joy will be in your arms.

5. But we’re also exhausted from answering that question
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Just remember that you aren’t the first person to ask us, well, whatever you just asked us. Some questions are kind of exciting to answer, like giving us a chance to tell you our due date and, why, yes, I AM a first time mom! But if one more person asks us if we have a name picked out (because, even if I do, I’m not telling you), we might lose our minds.

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    6. And we’re also terrified.

    Trust us. We’re fully aware by what painful means we will get this baby out of us. And we know that babies come with gobs of spit up and poopy diapers and yes, we’re afraid. Very afraid. We’re also afraid because we aren’t sure that we were ready for a baby after all. We were ready for the idea of a baby. But the reality of a little mini-me toddling around our house, breaking things and breaking our hearts is sometimes a little overwhelming. We’ve never done this before!

    7. No, we haven’t thought about THAT.

    A short list I haven’t decided about while I’m pregnant: vaccinations, placenta encapsulation, nipple cream, making baby food, using organic cotton sheets, when I’ll have my second baby, how I intend to lose the baby weight, preschool, how I’ll sleep train my baby, or what sports I’ll put him in when he’s five years old. Please stop pressuring me to make complicated decisions when my baby hasn’t even been born yet!

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    8. As a first time mom, we totally don’t know what we’re doing, but neither did you!

    For the most part, first time moms approach impending motherhood with a certain amount of confidence. But for a lot of things, we’re chanting the old, fake-it-til-you-make-it mantra. And be honest, doesn’t everyone?

    9. We totally love the special treatment.

    And lastly, all that special treatment we get, offers to sit while everyone stands, an extra helping of ice cream, a nap every day, foot rubs… yeah, we dig it. Keep it coming. But not the chatty “advice” that comes with it. That, you can keep to yourself.

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    Published on April 9, 2021

    50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

    50 Single Mom Quotes On Staying Strong And Loving

    Being a mom is not easy. Being a single mom is even more challenging. Having children means you are on the job 24/7. Even while you are sleeping, you are still ready to wake at the slightest peep because that is what moms do.

    Moms, especially single moms, need more people cheering them on. Your love and care matter to your kids. You are their superhero. I think single moms are superheroes, too.

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    The quotes below are words of encouragement for all of the single moms out there. Keep up the great work! Your hard work will pay off. Someday, they will be grown up and living on their own. Your job will never truly be done as a mom, but you can pat yourself on the back today and every day for doing mom duty day in and day out.

    Here are 50 single mom quotes to encourage all the single moms out there.

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    1. “Being raised by a single mother, I learned to appreciate and value independent women.”—Kenny Conley
    2. “As a single mum you’ll discover inner strengths and capabilities you never knew you had.”—Emma-Louise Smith
    3. “One thing I know for sure – this motherhood thing is not for sissies.”—Jennifer Nettles
    4. “Mothers and their children are in a category all their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.”—Gail Tsukiyama
    5. “And one day she discovered that she was fierce and strong, and full of fire and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.”—Mark Anthony
    6. “She never quite leaves her children at home, even when she doesn’t take them along.”—Margaret Culkin Banning
    7. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”—Alice Walker
    8. “Everyone has inside of her a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be, how much you can love, what you can accomplish, and what your potential is.”—Anne Frank
    9. “Doubt is a killer. You just have to know who you are and what you stand for.”—Jennifer Lopez
    10. “You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are.”—Melissa Etheridge
    11. “Motherhood is the greatest thing and the hardest thing.”—Ricki Lake
    12. “You don’t take a class; you’re thrown into motherhood and learn from experience.”—Jennie Finch
    13. “If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.”—Oprah Winfrey
    14. “I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”—Charlotte Brontë
    15. “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”—Nora Ephron
    16. “When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”—Diane Von Furstenberg
    17. “If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.”—Margaret Thatcher
    18. “Women have discovered that they cannot rely on men’s chivalry to give them justice.”—Helen Keller
    19. “Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.”—Sharon Jaynes
    20. “Success, they taught me, is built on the foundation of courage, hard work, and individual responsibility. Despite what some would have us believe, success is not built on resentment and fears.”—Susana Martinez
    21. “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”—Maya Angelou
    22. “The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.”—Ayn Rand
    23. “God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.”—Rudyard Kipling
    24. “The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because stuff worked out. They got that way because stuff went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.”—Elizabeth Gilbert
    25. “There will be so many times you feel like you failed. But in the eyes, ears, and mind of your child, you are a SUPER MOM.”—Stephanie Precourt
    26. “Motherhood is the ultimate call to sacrifice.”—Wangechi Mutu
    27. “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”—Maya Angelou
    28. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
    29. “There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.”—Jill Churchill
    30. “There’s no doubt that motherhood is the best thing in my life. It’s all that really matters.”—Courtney Cox
    31. “I realized when you look at your mother, you are looking at the purest love you will ever know.”—Mitch Albom
    32. “I have found being a mother has made me emotionally raw in many situations. Your heart is beating outside your body when you have a baby.”—Kate Beckinsale
    33. “Single moms, you are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwoman. Wear your cape proudly.”—Mandy Hale
    34. “I’m not really single. I mean, I am, but I have a son. Being a single mother is different from being a single woman.”—Kate Hudson
    35. “Being a single parent is twice the work, twice the stress, and twice the tears but also twice the hugs, twice the love, and twice the pride.”—Unknown
    36. “For me, motherhood is learning about the strengths I didn’t know I had, and dealing with the fears I didn’t know existed.”—Halle Berry
    37. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things… a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Denice Williams
    38. “You do the best you can. Some days you feel really good about yourself and some days you don’t.”—Katie Holmes
    39. “I would say to any single parent currently feeling the weight of stereotype or stigmatization that I am prouder of my years as a single mother than of any other part of my life.”JK Rowling
    40. “Just because I am a single mother doesn’t mean I cannot be a success.”—Yvonne Kaloki
    41. “I didn’t plan on being a single mom, but you have to deal with the cards you are dealt the best way you can.”—Tichina Arnold
    42. “Nothing you do for children is ever wasted.”—Garrison Keillor
    43. “A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up. She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things, a mother’s love is more than enough.”—Deniece Williams
    44. “Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials.”—Meryl Streep
    45. “Having kids—the responsibility of rearing good, kind, ethical, responsible human beings—is the biggest job anyone can embark on.”—Maria Shriver
    46. “Mother is a verb. It’s something you do. Not just who you are.”—Cheryl Lacey Donovan
    47. “A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dates all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path.”—Agatha Christie
    48. “A mother’s arms are more comforting than anyone else’s.”—Princess Diana
    49. “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.”—W.R. Wallace
    50. “Being a mother is the greatest blessing and the hardest challenge in all of life.”—Dr. Magdalena Battles

    Final Thoughts

    Single moms are remarkable women. They are to be respected and honored for all that they do. If you know a single mom, then share this article with them. Tell them “you are doing a great job as a single mom.” They need our encouragement and support.

    They may be parenting alone, but it is good to let them know that there are people in their life who care for them. We can all be there for the single moms out there. Even if it is just to say, “keep up the great work, you are an amazing woman!”

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    If you are a single mom, keep up the good work! You are amazing, and your kids are lucky to have you!

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