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Pregnancy at Week 28

Pregnancy at Week 28

Welcome to pregnancy week 28! You’ve made it to the third and final trimester! You’ll have your new bundle of joy in your arms before you know it!

How your baby is growing during pregnancy at week 28

Your growing baby is now about the size of a large eggplant, or about 2 1/4 pounds and is just over 14 inches in length. She has developed eyelashes now and practices blinking. Baby will turn her head toward any bright light shown into the womb. Her eyes will have likely turned a bluish color if she is Caucasian, and a darker brown or gray color for babies of African-American, Hispanic, or Asian decent.

Your baby’s lungs are now developed enough that if she were to be born today, there is a great chance of survival! This is great news! Still, it is absolutely in baby’s best interest to stay in the womb until as late as 40-42 weeks.

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She is also packing on the pounds in preparation for life outside the womb, which means her wrinkly skin will start to smooth out. Your baby is settling herself into her birthing position, with her head snugly tucked downward into your pelvis. She also is practicing hiccuping, swallowing (amniotic fluid), sucking, and coughing! Baby is working out her own sleep cycle now as well, including, some say, REM sleep, or the cycle of sleep in which humans dream. Only a little while longer before baby is ready to meet you!

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    How your body is changing

    If you haven’t already experienced it, sciatic pain could be coming your way this week. This is a tingle that ranges from annoying to extremely painful that radiates down your hips and legs from your lower back. Try a heating pad, or think about scheduling an appointment with a chiropractor.

    With baby working out her sleep cycle, you may not be getting great sleep yourself, with all of her exercising in the middle of the night. It’s normal to worry about whether or not your baby is active enough. Generally speaking, it’s good to feel about ten movements from your baby inside of an hour’s time. If her movements are significantly less often than this, be sure to tell your practitioner. Some babies just aren’t as active, so you’ll settle into knowing what is normal for your own little one.

    Restless leg syndrome is a common pregnancy ailment during week 28 pregnancy. This is the tingly, or “creepy-crawly” feeling in your lower extremities. Often women with RLS describe a feeling that they can’t stop moving their legs. This feeling can be especially intense in the evening hours. While it’s not understood what causes RLS, caffeine may intensify symptoms, so if you’re suffering, try limiting your caffeine intake, stretching, and massaging your legs. For most women, RLS goes away upon delivering your baby.
    Your doctor will likely want to see you twice per month at this stage (changing to once per week for your final month of pregnancy). He will likely test your urine, and measure your belly and weight, as usual, but could also soon begin blood tests for significant STD’s and anything else that you or your baby may be at risk for.

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    Things to do during pregnancy week 28

    It’s a good idea to start thinking about who your baby’s pediatrician will be. Typically your baby be seen by a doctor during the first few days of birth. Many expectant mothers feel best if they can see the same doctor from the very beginning. Get recommendations for great doctors in your area from trusted friends and family with children. And while you’re thinking about it, you and your partner should make a decision about circumcision if your baby is a boy. Opinions about circumcision vary, so do some research and make an informed decision you feel would be best for your baby.

    Cord blood banking is a service many families choose. You should talk to your doctor about your options. Mothers who choose cord blood banking store blood from the baby’s umbilical cord right after delivery. They then pay a facility to safely store the collected blood to be used in a situation where the baby could benefit from its use in cases of blood and immune diseases.

    If you haven’t already done so, it’s also a great time to schedule childbirth classes. Many popular classes fill up quickly and require advanced notice to be admitted. Your doctor may be able to recommend a breastfeeding class as well. Be sure to check your insurance to see if the cost of your classes could be covered! It is completely normal to feel some anxiety about labor and delivery, especially if this is your first child! It is helpful to do your research about what to expect. Reading positive birth stories from other women can be encouraging and calming.

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    Featured photo credit: January 2013/Phaling Ooi via flickr.com

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    Published on September 21, 2020

    The Danger of Overscheduling Your Kids

    The Danger of Overscheduling Your Kids

    I am a parent of three children aged 8, 6, and 6. Like many parents, I struggle with knowing the right balance of activities for them. I don’t want my kids to miss out on opportunities to play sports and participate in activities that will enhance their lives and help them grow as individuals. However, I also don’t want them to become overscheduled kids, to the extent that they get worn out and stressed out.

    There is a balance in providing activities for our children and overscheduling them. The tendency for the latter is prevalent these days. Our lives — and the lives of our kids — are increasingly overscheduled and overworked. Thus, we need to understand the dangers of having overscheduled kids and how to prevent this from happening in our own families.

    What’s Wrong with Overscheduling Your Kids?

    1. Overscheduling Can Burn Out Our Kids

    When our kids are on the go and scheduled to the max from a young age, their potential to get burned out before reaching high school is quite high. The New York Times reported some research on burnout and found that burnout with kids relates to their workload, along with their parents’ propensity to experience it.[1] This means that overworked children are more likely to get burned out than others. Similarly, overscheduled parents tend to have overscheduled kids more often than not.

    Burnout

    When a person is burned out, they feel overwhelmed and exhausted by what others expect them to get done daily. Children who are involved in too many activities with little to no downtime have a high chance of experiencing burnout. When parents place too many expectations on their kids, they also have an increased potential to burn out.

    If you get the sense that your child is feeling overworked or overwhelmed by their daily activities, you need to know which ones can be cut back. If they have too many activities outside of school work, for instance, then that is one area that likely needs to be downsized.

    An overworked child will present various symptoms like moodiness, irritability, crankiness, despondency, anger, stomach aches, headaches, rebellion, etc. Cutting back their activities will help to relieve their stress and reduce the said burnout signs. If your kid has severe burnout symptoms, though, then professional help from a pediatrician or therapist for children should be sought.

    Downtime

    Downtime is key to helping relieve burnout. If children don’t have free time during the day to have any rest, they are more likely to become burned out than others. Downtime means unorganized free time to do what they enjoy or relax. Cut back your kids’ extra-curricular activities if they don’t have downtime in their schedule.

    Here are more tips on creating downtime for the children: How to Create Downtime for Kids.

    2. Overscheduling Kills Playtime and Creativity

    Kids need time to be kids. When their schedules are filled every day with activities like organized ballet, soccer, and music lessons, and they only take a break for dinner and bedtime, then they are overscheduled. They need to have free time after school to relax and play. When they don’t have that and proceed from one scheduled activity to the next, they are missing out on playtime.

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    Playtime is crucial to child development. If they cannot get enough time to play, then their ability to develop their creativity decreases. The Genius of Play explains that there are six major developmental benefits that children get from playtime:[2]

    • Creativity
    • Social skill development
    • Cognitive development
    • Physical development (i.e., balance, coordination)
    • Communication skills
    • Emotional development

    If children don’t have time to play because they are always on-the-go, then they are missing out on the developmental benefits of play.

    Children need downtime after school so that they can unwind, play, and decompress. Research from the Journal of Early Childhood Development and Care showed that kids need to play to deal with anxiety, stress, and worry.[3] Playtime provides an outlet for them to manage these emotions in a healthy manner and helps with the development of their creativity.

    Children need free time to play every day. Fifteen minutes at recess is not enough. They need time for it after school, at home, outside of the constraints of scheduled activities.

    Solution

    Ensure that your child has time to play after school. This is especially important for young children who greatly benefit from playing. Limit organized activities so that your child is not scheduled every day and can play after school. If they have an activity every hour, then it doesn’t allow for playtime.

    3. Overscheduling Causes Stress and Pressure

    When kids are overscheduled because their parents are so intent on having high-performing children, then they will feel stressed. Parental pressure upon a child to do well in academics, music, multiple sports, and religious studies is a reality for many kids. The children scheduled in all of these activities can often feel stress and pressure, especially when they are expected to succeed in all of them.

    It is hard enough for kids to be good or succeed at a single activity. For a parent to overschedule their child and expect superior performance in various activities, that is a recipe for a stressed-out child.

    Solution

    Parents should not schedule kids in multiple activities with the expectation of superior performance in all. They should also consider the child’s interests. If the child is not interested in one activity, then they are likely to feel stressed and pressured to do it.

    For example, if Suzy has been taking piano lessons for four years, and she no longer enjoys learning the instrument, then perhaps it is time to take a break. If Suzy is forced to continue with the lessons and daily practices, then she may feel pressured to continue performing simply because her mom wants her to do so. This can lead Suzy to resent her mother for forcing her to keep on doing something that she doesn’t like anymore.

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    Let your child help in selecting the activities that they get involved in. Also, put a cap on the number of activities they are doing. If they have a different activity every weekday, then they are likely overscheduled.

    Kids need downtime and time to play, too. If they need to do a new activity every day, that downtime is diminished, considering the time at home or outside of the scheduled activities is limited. This limited time is then filled with homework, mealtime, and bedtime prep. Eliminating activities several days a week will allow the child to have some time to play freely. The younger the kid is, the more time they need playtime. As they get older, they can take on more activities; however, under the age of 13, playing daily is a must for children.

    4. Healthy Eating Falls by the Wayside

    Any parent who’s busy chauffeuring multiple kids to different activities after school knows how tempting fast food can become. Fast food, however, leads to less healthy food choices. French fries and hamburgers — the staple combo in most fast-food joints — cannot help your child thrive nutritionally.

    When families are overscheduled, they tend to go for easy and quick meals. When rushed, many of us make poor food choices because we aren’t taking the time to think about a meal’s nutritional value and a balanced diet for our children.

    5. Family Mealtimes Become a Thing of the Past

    When we are taking our kids to sports and other extra-curricular activities that fall during dinnertime, the family often misses out on sharing a meal at home.

    This is true in our own home. There are certain nights of the week that we have practices, and so we either eat together early (if possible) or eat separately, depending on what our schedules allow.

    There is so much value in having family dinners. It provides an opportunity for family members to discuss their day, including their work and school activities. It is a time when technology is set aside so that everyone can truly focus on communicating with one another and catching up on what is happening in each other’s lives. When a kid’s activities are scheduled every evening, then that family time at the dining table gets lost. Dinnertime becomes a thing of the past as we overschedule kids and ourselves.

    Try learning more about family time here: How to Maximize Family Time? 13 Simple Ways You Can Try Immediately.

    Solution

    Assess our schedule during the week to ensure that there’s always time for dinner with the family. Make it a point to establish a dinnertime schedule for the evenings that you do not have prior engagements scheduled. Remember: the time that you have with your kids under your roof is fleeting. Before long, they will be grownups and start living on their own. You need not dismiss or minimize the opportunity to bond with your children over meals.

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    Having family mealtimes also allows you to make excellent food choices. This way, parents can create balanced and healthy meals and teach their children about the importance of eating good food for their bodies.

    How to Turn Things Around?

    1. Fix the Displaced Ambitions

    Parents with overscheduled kids often mean well. They want their children to succeed, so they give them every chance to make it happen. They sign them up for various lessons, sports, and activities that may help the kids find success in life.

    In other cases, the parent probably didn’t get such opportunities when they were young and felt that they missed out on many things. Hence, they provide those missed opportunities to their kids during their own childhood.

    Carla is an example of such a parent. Carla always wanted to take dance and ballet classes as a child. She heard her friends talk about dance classes and performances, and they would even bring recital photos to school, showing their beautiful, detailed costumes. Carla wanted to be in those dance classes and learn ballet and have the opportunity to perform in a beautiful costume in front of an audience. Unfortunately, her family could not afford to give her that opportunity.

    When Carla gave birth to a baby girl, she had visions of her little one growing big enough to take dance, ballet, and even tap classes someday. She was looking forward to dressing her daughter in dance costumes and watching her take lessons and eventually performing in recitals. When Carla’s daughter Anna was old enough to enroll at a dance class at four years old, she was thrilled. However, after a few months, it became clear that Anna was not enjoying these classes. She would cry before every lesson, begging Carla to let her stay home and not go to class. Her daughter had no interest in learning to dance.

    In truth, it happens to many parents. They would enroll their kid in an activity that they wanted to do as a child but never got to try. Unfortunately, a parent’s interest is not always the same as that of their kids’. The child may humor mom or dad for some time and do the activity out of compliance. But if the child does not enjoy it anymore, they will eventually make things clear to their parents.

    Parents should listen to their children. If the activity is something that they do not enjoy doing, ask the children what they think they would like to do, and then eliminate activities that they are not into. Similarly, teach them commitment by finishing a program, but don’t enroll them again in the same class if they absolutely do not want to do it.

    Let the kids try different activities at a young age. Sometimes they don’t know if they like something until they try it out.

    2. Try Clinics of Camps Before Committing

    Don’t enroll your child in three sports at the same time to see which one they like or excel at. Doing so will make your kid overscheduled. Instead, you can use the summer break or preseason camps or clinics to try a variety of activities they are interested in.

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    As an example, all three of my children said that they wanted to do lacrosse. We had already tried soccer, and it was not successful for two out of three of them. They would rather chase butterflies down the field or play tag than actually participate in their games. Therefore, before committing to lacrosse and spending a great deal of money on their gear, I signed them up for a sample clinic. It was a one-day program that intended to expose children to the sport and see if they would perhaps enjoy playing it. I was surprised to find that the three kids enjoyed lacrosse, so we signed up for the season. It was nice to be able to see them try out the sport in a clinic before committing to an entire season.

    Most towns and cities have parks and recreation department. This is often a good place to check for clinics and camps for various activities. Our local department even offers art and dance classes. Most of them meet between two and four times total, so the children can get some exposure to the activity before signing them up at a private facility for a more long-term commitment.

    3. Take an Inventory of Your Weekly Activities

    Often, we do an activity without reflecting on how much we are already committed to doing each week. Before we commit to any more activities, we must be willing to look at everything that each family member does. Every child’s commitment is another responsibility for the parent as well. Parents must take children to and from each practice, so you need to consider the drive time for any activity.

    For instance, if each of my three kids signed up for three different activities each week, I would be running myself ragged. Three activities for three kids means taking them to nine activities during the week. That doesn’t include the games that will likely be scheduled on the weekends. Three activities for every child, therefore, is too much for our family.

    If some practices overlap on the schedule, then you need two parents or responsible adults to transport the children to different locations. Before you sign them up for multiple activities, you need to factor downtime, stress levels, and your ability to take them to each activity in the equation.

    Consider the following before your kids can commit to various activities:

    • What is the time commitment for the child each week? Do they have enough energy and stamina for the activities? Do they get enough downtime daily to prevent burnout?
    • Is practice time required outside of their scheduled team practices and games?
    • How long is the travel time for you as a parent, along with wait time during practices? Do you have time allowances for these activities in your own schedule?
    • Does the activity time conflict with other activities on the schedule? Will it eliminate family dinners on a regular basis?
    • Does the child really want to do the activity?
    • What is the motivation for signing up for the activity?
    • Is this activity or commitment going to cause a great deal of stress on the child or other family members?

    Check out these time-management tips for parents: 10 Time Management Tips Every Busy Parent Needs to Know.

    Get The Kids Active and Involved!

    Despite everything, it does not mean that you shouldn’t sign your child up for different activities like sports, music, dance, karate, etc. They are all great activities that can help children develop a variety of valuable life skills. The goal is to enroll them in things that they genuinely enjoy and avoid overscheduling kids by not letting them sign up for too many activities at a time.

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