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Pregnancy at Week 28

Pregnancy at Week 28

Welcome to pregnancy week 28! You’ve made it to the third and final trimester! You’ll have your new bundle of joy in your arms before you know it!

How your baby is growing during pregnancy at week 28

Your growing baby is now about the size of a large eggplant, or about 2 1/4 pounds and is just over 14 inches in length. She has developed eyelashes now and practices blinking. Baby will turn her head toward any bright light shown into the womb. Her eyes will have likely turned a bluish color if she is Caucasian, and a darker brown or gray color for babies of African-American, Hispanic, or Asian decent.

Your baby’s lungs are now developed enough that if she were to be born today, there is a great chance of survival! This is great news! Still, it is absolutely in baby’s best interest to stay in the womb until as late as 40-42 weeks.

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She is also packing on the pounds in preparation for life outside the womb, which means her wrinkly skin will start to smooth out. Your baby is settling herself into her birthing position, with her head snugly tucked downward into your pelvis. She also is practicing hiccuping, swallowing (amniotic fluid), sucking, and coughing! Baby is working out her own sleep cycle now as well, including, some say, REM sleep, or the cycle of sleep in which humans dream. Only a little while longer before baby is ready to meet you!

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    Photo credit: http://www.babycenter.com/fetal-development-images-28-weeks

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    How your body is changing

    If you haven’t already experienced it, sciatic pain could be coming your way this week. This is a tingle that ranges from annoying to extremely painful that radiates down your hips and legs from your lower back. Try a heating pad, or think about scheduling an appointment with a chiropractor.

    With baby working out her sleep cycle, you may not be getting great sleep yourself, with all of her exercising in the middle of the night. It’s normal to worry about whether or not your baby is active enough. Generally speaking, it’s good to feel about ten movements from your baby inside of an hour’s time. If her movements are significantly less often than this, be sure to tell your practitioner. Some babies just aren’t as active, so you’ll settle into knowing what is normal for your own little one.

    Restless leg syndrome is a common pregnancy ailment during week 28 pregnancy. This is the tingly, or “creepy-crawly” feeling in your lower extremities. Often women with RLS describe a feeling that they can’t stop moving their legs. This feeling can be especially intense in the evening hours. While it’s not understood what causes RLS, caffeine may intensify symptoms, so if you’re suffering, try limiting your caffeine intake, stretching, and massaging your legs. For most women, RLS goes away upon delivering your baby.
    Your doctor will likely want to see you twice per month at this stage (changing to once per week for your final month of pregnancy). He will likely test your urine, and measure your belly and weight, as usual, but could also soon begin blood tests for significant STD’s and anything else that you or your baby may be at risk for.

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    Things to do during pregnancy week 28

    It’s a good idea to start thinking about who your baby’s pediatrician will be. Typically your baby be seen by a doctor during the first few days of birth. Many expectant mothers feel best if they can see the same doctor from the very beginning. Get recommendations for great doctors in your area from trusted friends and family with children. And while you’re thinking about it, you and your partner should make a decision about circumcision if your baby is a boy. Opinions about circumcision vary, so do some research and make an informed decision you feel would be best for your baby.

    Cord blood banking is a service many families choose. You should talk to your doctor about your options. Mothers who choose cord blood banking store blood from the baby’s umbilical cord right after delivery. They then pay a facility to safely store the collected blood to be used in a situation where the baby could benefit from its use in cases of blood and immune diseases.

    If you haven’t already done so, it’s also a great time to schedule childbirth classes. Many popular classes fill up quickly and require advanced notice to be admitted. Your doctor may be able to recommend a breastfeeding class as well. Be sure to check your insurance to see if the cost of your classes could be covered! It is completely normal to feel some anxiety about labor and delivery, especially if this is your first child! It is helpful to do your research about what to expect. Reading positive birth stories from other women can be encouraging and calming.

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    Featured photo credit: January 2013/Phaling Ooi via flickr.com

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    Published on January 30, 2019

    How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

    How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

    In roughly 60 percent of two-parent households with children under the age of 18, both parents work full time. But who takes time off work when the kids are sick in your house? And if you are a manager, how do you react when a man says he needs time to take his baby to the pediatrician?

    The sad truth is, the default in many companies and families is to value the man’s work over the woman’s—even when there is no significant difference in their professional obligations or compensation. This translates into stereotypes in the workplace that women are the primary caregivers, which can negatively impact women’s success on the job and their upward mobility.

    According to a Pew Research Center analysis of long-term time-use data (1965–2011), fathers in dual-income couples devote significantly less time than mothers do to child care.[1] Dads are doing more than twice as much housework as they used to (from an average of about four hours per week to about 10 hours), but there is still a significant imbalance.

    This is not just an issue between spouses; it’s a workplace culture issue. In many offices, it is still taboo for dads to openly express that they have family obligations that need their attention. In contrast, the assumption that moms will be on the front lines of any family crisis is one that runs deep.

    Consider an example from my company. A few years back, one of our team members joined us for an off-site meeting soon after returning from maternity leave. Not even two hours into her trip, her husband called to say that the baby had been crying nonstop. While there was little our colleague could practically do to help with the situation, this call was clearly unsettling, and the result was that her attention was divided for the rest of an important business dinner.

    This was her first night away since the baby’s birth, and I know that her spouse had already been on several business trips before this event. Yet, I doubt she called him during his conferences to ask child-care questions. Like so many moms everywhere, she was expected to figure things out on her own.

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    The numbers show that this story is far from the exception. In another Pew survey, 47 percent of dual-income parents agreed that the moms take on more of the work when a child gets sick.[2] In addition, 39 percent of working mothers said they had taken a significant amount of time off from work to care for their child compared to just 24 percent of working fathers. Mothers are also more likely than fathers (27 percent to 10 percent) to say they had quit their job at some point for family reasons.

    Before any amazing stay-at-home-dads post an angry rebuttal comment, I want to be very clear that I am not judging how families choose to divide and conquer their personal and professional responsibilities; that’s 100 percent their prerogative. Rather, I am taking aim at the culture of inequity that persists even when spouses have similar or identical professional responsibilities. This is an important issue for all of us because we are leaving untapped business and human potential on the table.

    What’s more, I think my fellow men can do a lot about this. For those out there who still privately think that being a good dad just means helping out mom, it’s time to man up. Stop expecting working partners—who have similar professional responsibilities—to bear the majority of the child-care responsibilities as well.

    Consider these ways to support your working spouse:

    1. Have higher expectations for yourself as a father; you are a parent, not a babysitter.

    Know who your pediatrician is and how to reach him or her. Have a back-up plan for transportation and emergency coverage.

    Don’t simply expect your partner to manage all these invisible tasks on her own. Parenting takes effort and preparation for the unexpected.

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    As in other areas of life, the way to build confidence is to learn by doing. Moms aren’t born knowing how to do this stuff any more than dads are.

    2. Treat your partner the way you’d want to be treated.

    I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard a man on a business trip say to his wife on a call something to the effect of, “I am in the middle of a meeting. What do you want me to do about it?”

    However, when the tables are turned, men often make that same call at the first sign of trouble.

    Distractions like this make it difficult to focus and engage with work, which perpetuates the stereotype that working moms aren’t sufficiently committed.

    When you’re in charge of the kids, do what she would do: Figure it out.

    3. When you need to take care of your kids, don’t make an excuse that revolves around your partner’s availability.

    This implies that the children are her first priority and your second.

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    I admit I have been guilty in the past of telling clients, “I have the kids today because my wife had something she could not move.” What I should have said was, “I’m taking care of my kids today.”

    Why is it so hard for men to admit they have personal responsibilities? Remember that you are setting an example for your sons and daughters, and do the right thing.

    4. As a manager, be supportive of both your male and female colleagues when unexpected situations arise at home.

    No one likes or wants disruptions, but life happens, and everyone will face a day when the troubling phone call comes from his sitter, her school nurse, or even elderly parents.

    Accommodating personal needs is not a sign of weakness as a leader. Employees will be more likely to do great work if they know that you care about their personal obligations and family—and show them that you care about your own.

    5. Don’t keep score or track time.

    At home, it’s juvenile to get into debates about who last changed a diaper or did the dishes; everyone needs to contribute, but the big picture is what matters. Is everyone healthy and getting enough sleep? Are you enjoying each other’s company?

    In business, too, avoid the trap of punching a clock. The focus should be on outcomes and performance rather than effort and inputs. That’s the way to maintain momentum toward overall goals.

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    The Bottom Line

    To be clear, I recognize that a great many working dads are doing a terrific job both on the home front and in their professional lives. My concern is that these standouts often aren’t visible to their colleagues; they intentionally or inadvertently let their work as parents fly under the radar. Dads need to be open and honest about family responsibilities to change perceptions in the workplace.

    The question “How do you balance it all?” should not be something that’s just asked of women. Frankly, no one can answer that question. Juggling a career and parental responsibilities is tough. At times, really tough.

    But it’s something that more parents should be doing together, as a team. This can be a real bonus for the couple relationship as well, because nothing gets in the way of good partnership faster than feelings of inequity.

    On the plus side, I can tell you that parenting skills really do get better with practice—and that’s great for people of both sexes. I think our cultural expectations that women are the “nurturers” and men are the “providers” needs to evolve. Expanding these definitions will open the doors to richer contributions from everyone, because women can and should be both—and so should men.

    Featured photo credit: NeONBRAND via unsplash.com

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