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8 Reasons Why People Who Keep Diaries Are Good Lovers

8 Reasons Why People Who Keep Diaries Are Good Lovers

Keeping a diary is about celebrating moments and all of life; lovemaking is about two people fully engaged in a reciprocal moment.

People who keep diaries make great lovers for various reasons. Introspective, seeking answers and possessing profound knowledge of their complex minds, these life’s writers simply know how to make an intimate connection.

Making love and keeping a diary share certain similarities, primarily a creation of memories. Writing down thoughts may determine their true meaning. An act of lovemaking might establish a connection between two people. Already allowing them onto those pages, here are the reasons why people who keep diaries also offer plenty of lasting memories to their lovers.

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1. They’re curious.

Their curiosity for their lover is abundant which can only lead to ecstatic experiences in the bedroom. Curiosity is one of the most rewarding traits of the people who keep diaries as it nurtures their ability to make life interesting. They want to know everything about you. They want to know what turns you on. They’re curious about what you like and want to experience it with you.

2. They know themselves.

Knowing yourself is essential to being a great judge of character. People who keep diaries are in touch with their private thoughts, making it easy to understand their lover’s thought process. They know exactly who they are and want to know the same about you. They are aware that nobody’s perfect. They are likely to understand, accept and ultimately enjoy you just the way you are. They will expect the same from you.

3. They’re open to learning new things.

People who keep diaries tend to be fascinated by life which leads to an open-minded awareness. In the bedroom, this can only be a good thing. They can teach you something new or you can teach them – either way, they want to make you feel good. People who keep diaries seek new life experiences in a variety of ways, fun in the bedroom included.

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4. They love a good story.

And they’ll make sure your lovemaking provides plenty of those (not to imply they would ever share them outside their diary). People who keep diaries are unlikely to allow boredom into the bedroom. They appreciate great stories and want to give their lover many of them. They tend to revel in their passion and cast in the role of your lover, and will try their best every time. They want to give you a special memory with every single instance of lovemaking you two have together, even if they won’t admit it.

5. Their focus is unshakable.

People who keep diaries know how to make the most of any given moment. When engaged in something, they are fully present and in the bedroom, their sole focus is you. They want to live in the moment with you. In addition to other benefits, keeping a diary is about reliving and remembering those magical moments.

6. They’re comfortable with themselves.

They might not be exceptionally confident but are often very comfortable with their true selves. As a result, people who keep diaries are entirely comfortable in the presence of their lovers – and who doesn’t like that?

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7. They enjoy a low-stress existence.

Keeping a diary provides stress relief which allows for certain lightness in an intimate relationship. People who keep diaries experience emotional unburdening on a regular basis, as writing provides a positive outlet for it. They aren’t troubled by shame or fear and love coming up with new ideas. They want new experiences with you.

8. They have very little baggage.

Through writing, people who keep diaries are inclined to deal with the past. Archiving deep feelings about their former relationships usually leads to making peace with them. Void of emotional baggage, their level of attraction will increase. They seek full enjoyment with their current lover, allowing all the right things to happen.

What are some of your experiences with people who keep diaries?

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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