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6 Alternatives to Diamond Jewelry

6 Alternatives to Diamond Jewelry

Every guy out there knows that diamonds are a girl’s best friend. However, he also knows that they’re a bank account’s worst enemy, as well. I won’t go into the whole origin of the diamond engagement ring (because I’d probably never stop complaining), but the Cliff’s Notes version of it is simple: diamonds aren’t really all that rare. The only reason they decimate our wallets is because we’ve been convinced they mean more than they actually do. Alas, I digress.

The point is, if you’ve managed to find a woman who understands the whole diamond debacle and would rather opt for something a bit more out of the ordinary (first of all, congrats! Second of all), here are some of your options:

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1. Lab-created “diamonds”

We are lucky enough to live at a time in which scientists can work wonders in a lab, even when it comes to replicating one of the most beautiful minerals on Earth. Diamond simulants duplicate the physical, chemical, and optical properties of actual diamonds. They are only discernible as “fakes” to trained professionals. Even those who know their minerals may have trouble noticing a difference between a real diamond and a simulant when viewed in passing with the naked eye. Of course, your significant other will always know the truth. You should definitely consult with her before going this route.

2. Moissanite

Moissanite is a silicon carbide compound that is similar in many ways to actual diamonds. Although moissanite has been found to occur naturally, scientists have been able to synthesize it completely (unlike diamonds, which, as stated, has only been replicated). Moissanite is about as durable as diamond, but it can withstand heat to a much greater extent. Not only that, but it also never loses its luster, which makes it ideal as an heirloom to be passed on from generation to generation.

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3. Knot rings

If you’re looking for a ring that symbolizes the notion that two lives have become forever intertwined, a knot ring is the way to go. Although knot rings generally don’t come with gemstones, they can be made with yellow and white gold that weave together, creating a unique piece of jewelry for your significant other to show off. Some knot rings are made so that each piece is free to move independently while remaining connected forever, which is much more meaningful than any diamond ring could ever be.

4. Gemstones

As I said in the intro, we’ve been beaten over the head with the notion that “diamonds are forever” our entire lives. However, you might not know that almost all gemstones have symbolic meaning to them as well. For example, alexandrite symbolizes prosperity and growth, while rubies symbolize peace and tranquility. Put some thought into the jewelry you buy your love, and it will be much more meaningful than simply buying a diamond because it’s a societal norm.

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5. Family heirlooms

I mentioned family heirlooms before, but the importance of a piece of jewelry that has been passed down throughout the ages cannot be overstated. When a ring is passed on to the next generation, the stories behind the ring come with it. All the accomplishments, struggles, hopes, and dreams of the past come alive and combine with an entire new set of stories to be passed on in the coming years. These inspirational stories are certainly more interesting than, “Your father bought this for me at the mall twenty years ago.”

6. Something Actually… Useful

Let me start by saying you should definitely check with your significant other before going this route. However, if you’re just starting out in your journey together, you might want to skip the ring altogether (at least for the time being). Think of everything else you can do with a few thousand dollars that will actually do something for your life as a couple. You could start putting money away for a down payment on a home or a new car, or pay off some of your significant other’s school loans. You could even opt for a more extravaggant vacation than usual, creating memories that will last a lifetime. Rather than spending money on an object that symbolizes your undying love, use that money to do something that will show your undying devotion to the love of your life.

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Last Updated on February 15, 2019

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

In Personal Development-speak, we are always talking about goals, outcomes, success, desires and dreams. In other words, all the stuff we want to do, achieve and create in our world.

And while it’s important for us to know what we want to achieve (our goal), it’s also important for us to understand why we want to achieve it; the reason behind the goal or some would say, our real goal.

Why is goal setting important?

1. Your needs and desire will be fulfilled.

Sometimes when we explore our “why”, (why we want to achieve a certain thing) we realize that our “what” (our goal) might not actually deliver us the thing (feeling, emotion, internal state) we’re really seeking.

For example, the person who has a goal to lose weight in the belief that weight loss will bring them happiness, security, fulfillment, attention, popularity and the partner of their dreams. In this instance, their “what” is weight-loss and their “why” is happiness (etc.) and a partner.

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Six months later, they have lost the weight (achieved their goal) but as is often the case, they’re not happier, not more secure, not more confident, not more fulfilled and in keeping with their miserable state, they have failed to attract their dream partner.

After all, who wants to be with someone who’s miserable? They achieved their practical goal but still failed to have their needs met.

So they set a goal to lose another ten pounds. And then another. And maybe just ten more. With the destructive and erroneous belief that if they can get thin enough, they’ll find their own personal nirvana. And we all know how that story ends.

2. You’ll find out what truly motivates you

The important thing in the process of constructing our best life is not necessarily what goals we set (what we think we want) but what motivates us towards those goals (what we really want).

The sooner we begin to explore, identify and understand what motivates us towards certain achievements, acquisitions or outcomes (that is, we begin moving towards greater consciousness and self awareness), the sooner we will make better decisions for our life, set more intelligent (and dare I say, enlightened) goals and experience more fulfilment and less frustration.

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We all know people who have achieved what they set out to, only to end up in the same place or worse (emotionally, psychologically, sociologically) because what they were chasing wasn’t really what they were needing.

What we think we want will rarely provide us with what we actually need.

3. Your state of mind will be a lot healthier

We all set specific goals to achieve/acquire certain things (a job, a car, a partner, a better body, a bank balance, a title, a victory) because at some level, most of us believe (consciously or not) that the achievement of those goals will bring us what we really seek; joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

Of course, setting practical, material and financial goals is an intelligent thing to do considering the world we live in and how that world works.

But setting goals with an expectation that the achievement of certain things in our external, physical world will automatically create an internal state of peace, contentment, joy and total happiness is an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset to inhabit.

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What you truly want and need

Sometimes we need to look beyond the obvious (superficial) goals to discover and secure what we really want.

Sadly, we live in a collective mindset which teaches that the prettiest and the wealthiest are the most successful.

Some self-help frauds even teach this message. If you’re rich or pretty, you’re happy. If you’re both, you’re very happy. Pretty isn’t what we really want; it’s what we believe pretty will bring us. Same goes with money.

When we cut through the hype, the jargon and the self-help mumbo jumbo, we all have the same basic goals, desires and needs:

Joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

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Nobody needs a mansion or a sport’s car but we all need love.

Nobody needs massive pecs, six percent body-fat, a face lift or bigger breasts but we all need connection, acceptance and understanding.

Nobody needs to be famous but we all need peace, calm, balance and happiness.

The problem is, we live in a culture which teaches that one equals the other. If only we lived in a culture which taught that real success is far more about what’s happening in our internal environment, than our external one.

It’s a commonly-held belief that we’re all very different and we all have different goals — whether short term or long term goals. But in many ways we’re not, and we don’t; we all want essentially the same things.

Now all you have to do is see past the fraud and deception and find the right path.

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