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5 Habits You Need To Practice If You Feel Tired Of Social Media

5 Habits You Need To Practice If You Feel Tired Of Social Media

Feeling tired of social media? There’s no wonder why. While social media can be a great way of connecting with others, it can also be incredibly overwhelming. This infographic on Entrepreneur.com explains why, stating, “Each day, the average social network user receives 285 pieces of content, including 54,000 words and 443 minutes of video.” Forbes published an article describing a study showing a link between spending a lot of time on Facebook, social comparison, and depressive symptoms.

If you’re feeling stressed about social media but yet enjoy being able to connect with others online, work on your mindset. When other people write about their amazing accomplishments, choose to read about them only for inspiration and not to compare yourself to them. When you log into your social media accounts, plan how long you’ll be online, post or look for something inspirational, and log off. Avoid excessively scrolling through your Facebook news feed if you’ve had a rough day; seeing the great things that happened that day to hundreds of your Facebook friends could cause you to feel worse.

If you still feel tired of social media after limiting your time on it, and you want to take a break from being constantly connected with others online, here are 5 habits you can practice.

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1. Send messages via snail mail

It may take a few more minutes to send a letter than to “like” someone’s Facebook status, but handwritten notes are much more meaningful and heartwarming. I challenge you this week to cut out one hour of social media time to mail a few cards to friends or family members. You can find a card to purchase for pretty much any reason.

If you really want to be creative, design your own card. Grab some colored pencils, stencils, or stamps, and craft a personalized card. Your inner artist is just waiting to be unleashed, and you will make the recipient’s day.

2. Enjoy the quiet

Having personal quiet time regularly is an excellent way to reduce stress. Take a few moments to close your eyes and rest. You can meditate, pray, or write in a gratitude journal. Or, you can simply enjoy the peace and serenity that surrounds you.

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You may discover that spending time alone being quiet helps boost your creativity. After all, many people get their best ideas in the shower, a phenomenon explained in this article. Whether or not you feel innovative when you’re quiet, taking time out of your busy day for a quiet moment can be very beneficial.

3. Meet in person

Social media is amazing in that it allows us to connect instantly with people across the globe. Yet, no matter how big an online community you have developed, connecting on the internet is definitely not the same as meeting in person. Spend some time away from social media and meet people in person. You can get together for a workout, coffee, or late-night appetizers and a beer. The key is to actually meet and enjoy your time together.

4. Reinvent yourself

When you take a break from the social media, you will no longer be bombarded by other people’s lives and opinions. Your time and your mind will be free to explore new hobbies. This could be a good chance for you to rediscover your passion and motivation in life. Hence, taking a break from social media helps you focus on what actually matters to you.

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5. Get out in nature

Unplugging yourself from the internet has significant benefits. Look up and out to the magnificent world around you. Don’t be confined by your cell phone. This is the time when you will discover that you are genuinely living in the moment.

Getting out in nature and experiencing feelings of awe can greatly improve your life. Paul Piff, an assistant professor of psychology and social behavior, did a fascinating study on awe. He discovered that brief moments of awe experienced in nature make people feel less entitled and less narcissistic. According to Piff’s research, feeling awe helps people cultivate their altruism and makes them feel more connected to humanity. Spend some time admiring the beauty of nature, even if it’s just by taking a moment to look at the night sky. The world is vast and beautiful, and you can experience all it offers if you just take a break from social media to look around.

The next time you feel tired of social media, I encourage you to unplug and try one of the above ideas. I’d love to hear how it goes!

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Featured photo credit: Instagram and Other Social Media Apps/Jason Howie via flickr.com

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Last Updated on February 21, 2019

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

Conflicts are literally everywhere.

Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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