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5 Habits You Need To Practice If You Feel Tired Of Social Media

5 Habits You Need To Practice If You Feel Tired Of Social Media

Feeling tired of social media? There’s no wonder why. While social media can be a great way of connecting with others, it can also be incredibly overwhelming. This infographic on Entrepreneur.com explains why, stating, “Each day, the average social network user receives 285 pieces of content, including 54,000 words and 443 minutes of video.” Forbes published an article describing a study showing a link between spending a lot of time on Facebook, social comparison, and depressive symptoms.

If you’re feeling stressed about social media but yet enjoy being able to connect with others online, work on your mindset. When other people write about their amazing accomplishments, choose to read about them only for inspiration and not to compare yourself to them. When you log into your social media accounts, plan how long you’ll be online, post or look for something inspirational, and log off. Avoid excessively scrolling through your Facebook news feed if you’ve had a rough day; seeing the great things that happened that day to hundreds of your Facebook friends could cause you to feel worse.

If you still feel tired of social media after limiting your time on it, and you want to take a break from being constantly connected with others online, here are 5 habits you can practice.

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1. Send messages via snail mail

It may take a few more minutes to send a letter than to “like” someone’s Facebook status, but handwritten notes are much more meaningful and heartwarming. I challenge you this week to cut out one hour of social media time to mail a few cards to friends or family members. You can find a card to purchase for pretty much any reason.

If you really want to be creative, design your own card. Grab some colored pencils, stencils, or stamps, and craft a personalized card. Your inner artist is just waiting to be unleashed, and you will make the recipient’s day.

2. Enjoy the quiet

Having personal quiet time regularly is an excellent way to reduce stress. Take a few moments to close your eyes and rest. You can meditate, pray, or write in a gratitude journal. Or, you can simply enjoy the peace and serenity that surrounds you.

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You may discover that spending time alone being quiet helps boost your creativity. After all, many people get their best ideas in the shower, a phenomenon explained in this article. Whether or not you feel innovative when you’re quiet, taking time out of your busy day for a quiet moment can be very beneficial.

3. Meet in person

Social media is amazing in that it allows us to connect instantly with people across the globe. Yet, no matter how big an online community you have developed, connecting on the internet is definitely not the same as meeting in person. Spend some time away from social media and meet people in person. You can get together for a workout, coffee, or late-night appetizers and a beer. The key is to actually meet and enjoy your time together.

4. Reinvent yourself

When you take a break from the social media, you will no longer be bombarded by other people’s lives and opinions. Your time and your mind will be free to explore new hobbies. This could be a good chance for you to rediscover your passion and motivation in life. Hence, taking a break from social media helps you focus on what actually matters to you.

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5. Get out in nature

Unplugging yourself from the internet has significant benefits. Look up and out to the magnificent world around you. Don’t be confined by your cell phone. This is the time when you will discover that you are genuinely living in the moment.

Getting out in nature and experiencing feelings of awe can greatly improve your life. Paul Piff, an assistant professor of psychology and social behavior, did a fascinating study on awe. He discovered that brief moments of awe experienced in nature make people feel less entitled and less narcissistic. According to Piff’s research, feeling awe helps people cultivate their altruism and makes them feel more connected to humanity. Spend some time admiring the beauty of nature, even if it’s just by taking a moment to look at the night sky. The world is vast and beautiful, and you can experience all it offers if you just take a break from social media to look around.

The next time you feel tired of social media, I encourage you to unplug and try one of the above ideas. I’d love to hear how it goes!

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Featured photo credit: Instagram and Other Social Media Apps/Jason Howie via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

For the original article by Celestine: 13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

“We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown

“It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

Have you ever experienced moments when things just don’t go your way? For example, losing your keys, accidentally spilling your drink, waking up late, missing your buses/trains, forgetting to bring your things, and so on?

You’re not alone. All of us, myself included, experience times when things don’t go as we expect.

Here is my guide on how to deal with daily setbacks.

1. Take a step back and evaluate

When something bad happens, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Some questions to ask yourself:

  1. What is the problem?
  2. Are you the only person facing this problem in the world today?
  3. How does this problem look like at an individual level? A national level? On a global scale?
  4. What’s the worst possible thing that can happen to you as a result of this?
  5. How is it going to impact your life in the next 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

Doing this exercise is not to undermine the problem or disclaiming responsibility, but to consider different perspectives, so you can adopt the best approach for it. Most problems we encounter daily may seem like huge issues when they crop up, but most, if not all, don’t have much impact in our life beyond that day.

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2. Vent if you have to, but don’t linger on the problem

If you feel very frustrated and need to let off some steam, go ahead and do that. Talk to a friend, complain, crib about it, or scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you happy.

At the same time, don’t get caught up with venting. While venting may temporarily relieve yourself, it’s not going to solve the problem ultimately. You don’t want to be an energy vampire.

Vent if there’s a need to, but do it for 15 to 20 minutes. Then move on.

3. Realize there are others out there facing this too

Even though the situation may be frustrating, you’re not alone. Remember there are almost 7 billion people in the world today, and chances are that other people have faced the same thing before too. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

4. Process your thoughts/emotions

Process your thoughts/emotions with any of the four methods:

  1. Journal. Write your unhappiness in a private diary or in your blog. It doesn’t have to be formal at all – it can be a brain dump on rough paper or new word document. Delete after you are done.
  2. Audio taping. Record yourself as you talk out what’s on your mind. Tools include tape recorder, your PC (Audacity is a freeware for recording/editing audio) and your mobile (most mobiles today have audio recording functions). You can even use your voice mail for this. Just talking helps you to gain awareness of your emotions. After recording, play back and listen to what you said. You might find it quite revealing.
  3. Meditation. At its simplest form, meditation is just sitting/lying still and observing your reality as it is – including your thoughts and emotions. Some think that it involves some complex mambo-jumbo, but it doesn’t.
  4. Talking to someone. Talking about it with someone helps you work through the issue. It also gets you an alternate viewpoint and consider it from a different angle.

5. Acknowledge your thoughts

Don’t resist your thoughts, but acknowledge them. This includes both positive and negative thoughts.

By acknowledging, I mean recognizing these thoughts exist. So if say, you have a thought that says, “Wow, I’m so stupid!”, acknowledge that. If you have a thought that says, “I can’t believe this is happening to me again”, acknowledge that as well.

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Know that acknowledging the thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. It’s simply recognizing the existence of said thoughts so that you can stop resisting yourself and focus on the situation on hand.

6. Give yourself a break

If you’re very stressed out by the situation, and the problem is not time sensitive, then give yourself a break. Take a walk, listen to some music, watch a movie, or get some sleep. When you’re done, you should feel a lot more revitalized to deal with the situation.

7. Uncover what you’re really upset about

A lot of times, the anger we feel isn’t about the world. You may start off feeling angry at someone or something, but at the depth of it, it’s anger toward yourself.

Uncover the root of your anger. I have written a five part anger management series on how to permanently overcome anger.

After that, ask yourself: How can you improve the situation? Go to Step #9, where you define your actionable steps. Our anger comes from not having control on the situation. Sitting there and feeling infuriated is not going to change the situation. The more action we take, the more we will regain control over the situation, the better we will feel.

8. See this as an obstacle to be overcome

As Helen Keller once said,

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

Whatever you’re facing right now, see it as an obstacle to be overcome. In every worthy endeavor, there’ll always be countless obstacles that emerge along the way. These obstacles are what separate the people who make it, and those who don’t. If you’re able to push through and overcome them, you’ll emerge a stronger person than before. It’ll be harder for anything to get you down in the future.

9. Analyze the situation – Focus on actionable steps

In every setback, there are going to be things that can’t be reversed since they have already occurred. You want to focus on things that can still be changed (salvageable) vs. things that have already happened and can’t be changed. The only time the situation changes is when you take steps to improve it. Rather than cry over spilt milk, work through your situation:

  1. What’s the situation?
  2. What’s stressing you about this situation?
  3. What are the next steps that’ll help you resolve them?
  4. Take action on your next steps!

After you have identified your next steps, act on them. The key here is to focus on the actionable steps, not the inactionable steps. It’s about regaining control over the situation through direct action.

10. Identify how it occurred (so it won’t occur again next time)

A lot of times we react to our problems. The problem occurs, and we try to make the best out of what has happened within the context. While developing a healthy coping mechanism is important (which is what the other helping points are on), it’s also equally important, if not more, to understand how the problem arose. This way, you can work on preventing it from taking place next time, vs. dealing reactively with it.

Most of us probably think the problem is outside of our control, but reality is most of the times it’s fully preventable. It’s just a matter of how much responsibility you take over the problem.

For example, for someone who can’t get a cab for work in the morning, he/she may see the problem as a lack of cabs in the country, or bad luck. However, if you trace to the root of the problem, it’s probably more to do with (a) Having unrealistic expectations of the length of time to get a cab. He/she should budget more time for waiting for a cab next time. (b) Oversleeping, because he/she was too tired from working late the previous day. He/she should allocate enough time for rest next time. He/she should also pick up better time management skills, so as to finish work in lesser time.

11. Realize the situation can be a lot worse

No matter how bad the situation is, it can always be much worse. A plus point vs. negative point analysis will help you realize that.

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12. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it

No matter how bad your situation may seem, do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it. Life is too beautiful to worry so much over daily issues. Take a step back (#1), give yourself a break if you need to (#6), and do what you can within your means (#9). Everything else will unfold accordingly. Worrying too much about the outcome isn’t going to change things or make your life any better.

13. Pick out the learning points from the encounter

There’s something to learn from every encounter. What have you learned from this situation? What lessons have you taken away?

After you identify your learning points, think about how you’re going to apply them moving forward. With this, you’ve clearly gained something from this encounter. You’ve walked away a stronger, wiser, better person, with more life lessons to draw from in the future.

Get the manifesto version of this article: [Manifesto] What To Do When Things Don’t Go Your Way

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