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Valuable Quotes From LeBron James That Everyone Can Relate To

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Valuable Quotes From LeBron James That Everyone Can Relate To

Love him or hate him, LeBron James is a winner. He is an athlete, a success story, an Ohio native, and he is tall. At 6’8″, LeBron James towers over some of the competition. But win or lose, he does not let life or basketball get him down. Throughout his career, LeBron has continuously strived for greatness, starting as the overall first pick of the 2003 NBA draft, and then setting an NBA record in his first game as a Cavalier, and going on to become Rookie of the Year that same season.

LeBron has been criticized by the media for having poor defense as a rookie, for his play in pressure situations, the way he handled his free agent period, for his decision to join the Miami Heat, and more. He has also been ranked by Forbes as one of the world’s most influential athletes.

LeBron James is not just an athlete, a ridiculously tall, good looking, powerful, influential guy, he is also an avid philanthropist. In addition to supporting the Boys & Girls Club, Children’s Defense Fund, and ONEXONE, he established his own organization: the LeBron James Family Foundation, and also provides scholarships to students through the University of Akron.

Not raised with a silver spoon, LeBron James was born to a 16-year-old single mother, and his childhood was a struggle in Akron, OH. At 9 years old, he moved in with a youth football coach and was introduced to the game of basketball. Now, as an almost-31-year-old, LeBron is married with kids of his own: Bronny, Bryce, and Zhuri, and he gets to introduce his kids to basketball and share his own values.

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Never one to allow a stereotype to label him, LeBron is far from a dumb jock. Let’s see what he has to say.

1. “Maybe my pain was motivation.”

motivation

    I love this quote. For some, pain will bring them down and allow them to become bitter and world-weary. For others, they will use their pain, their experiences, and their pasts to push them forward to a better and brighter future, using it as motivation to be great.

    2. “Ask me to steal, block out, sacrifice, lead, dominate. Anything. But it’s not what you ask of me, it’s what I ask of myself.”

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    ask

      LeBron has a great quote here. Anyone can ask anything of you, but what can you ask of yourself? How do you push yourself, how do you improve?

      3. “I like criticism. It makes you strong.”

      criticism

        So true, LeBron, so true. And trust me, not being able to take real (and constructive) criticism is a true detriment to you and your career and future. Don’t get defensive, learn from it!

        4. “You can’t be afraid to fail. It’s the only way you succeed. You’re not gonna succeed all the time and I know that.”

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        failure

          Failure happens. Life isn’t fair. You will not be the best or succeed at everything you do, it’s just not possible. Learn from the failure and move forward a better, stronger person. Learn from it and it will allow you to succeed (or fail less) next time. Success is built on failing first and building up again.

          5. “I don’t need too much. Glamour and all that stuff don’t excite me. I am just glad I have the game of basketball in my life.”

          basketball

            It may be a game, but it’s not “just” a game.

            6. “I hate letting my teammates down. I know I’m not going to make every shot. Sometimes I try to make the right play, and if it results in a loss, I feel awful. I don’t feel awful because I have to answer questions about it. I feel awful in that locker room because I could have done something more to help my teammates win.”

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            letting down

              LeBron is awesome. He cares more about his team’s success as a whole than his own as a singular entity. This is the true meaning of a team player. Go Cavs!

              7. ” I treated it like every day was my last day with a basketball.”

              last day

                Life is short, play the game you love with every single bit of energy and vitality you have. Someday, there will come a day where you won’t be playing anymore.

                8. “There is a lot of pressure put on me, but I don’t put a lot of pressure on myself. I feel if I play my game, it will take care of itself.”

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                pressures

                  It’s hard not to put pressure on yourself to always kick butt, always win, always be the best. LeBron knows there is a whole world of basketball fans putting pressure on his shoulders, and he is trying not to put even more on himself. I love his attitude.

                  Learning from LeBron James: criticism helps you get better, failure happens but you get back up again to succeed, and it’s all about the team.

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                  8 Simple Ways to Be a Better Listener

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                  8 Simple Ways to Be a Better Listener

                  How would you feel if you were sharing a personal story and noticed that the person to whom you were speaking wasn’t really listening? You probably wouldn’t be too thrilled.

                  Unfortunately, that is the case for many people. Most individuals are not good listeners. They are good pretenders. The thing is, true listening requires work—more work than people are willing to invest. Quality conversation is about “give and take.” Most people, however, want to just give—their words, that is. Being on the receiving end as the listener may seem boring, but it’s essential.

                  When you are attending to someone and paying attention to what they’re saying, it’s a sign of caring and respect. The hitch is that attending requires an act of will, which sometimes goes against what our minds naturally do—roaming around aimlessly and thinking about whatnot, instead of listening—the greatest act of thoughtfulness.

                  Without active listening, people often feel unheard and unacknowledged. That’s why it’s important for everyone to learn how to be a better listener.

                  What Makes People Poor Listeners?

                  Good listening skills can be learned, but first, let’s take a look at some of the things that you might be doing that makes you a poor listener.

                  1. You Want to Talk to Yourself

                  Well, who doesn’t? We all have something to say, right? But when you are looking at someone pretending to be listening while, all along, they’re mentally planning all the amazing things they’re going to say, it is a disservice to the speaker.

                  Yes, maybe what the other person is saying is not the most exciting thing in the world. Still, they deserve to be heard. You always have the ability to steer the conversation in another direction by asking questions.

                  It’s okay to want to talk. It’s normal, even. Keep in mind, however, that when your turn does come around, you’ll want someone to listen to you.

                  2. You Disagree With What Is Being Said

                  This is another thing that makes you an inadequate listener—hearing something with which you disagree with and immediately tuning out. Then, you lie in wait so you can tell the speaker how wrong they are. You’re eager to make your point and prove the speaker wrong. You think that once you speak your “truth,” others will know how mistaken the speaker is, thank you for setting them straight, and encourage you to elaborate on what you have to say. Dream on.

                  Disagreeing with your speaker, however frustrating that might be, is no reason to tune them out and ready yourself to spew your staggering rebuttal. By listening, you might actually glean an interesting nugget of information that you were previously unaware of.

                  3. You Are Doing Five Other Things While You’re “Listening”

                  It is impossible to listen to someone while you’re texting, reading, playing Sudoku, etc. But people do it all the time—I know I have.

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                  I’ve actually tried to balance my checkbook while pretending to listen to the person on the other line. It didn’t work. I had to keep asking, “what did you say?” I can only admit this now because I rarely do it anymore. With work, I’ve succeeded in becoming a better listener. It takes a great deal of concentration, but it’s certainly worth it.

                  If you’re truly going to listen, then you must: listen! M. Scott Peck, M.D., in his book The Road Less Travel, says, “you cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.” If you are too busy to actually listen, let the speaker know, and arrange for another time to talk. It’s simple as that!

                  4. You Appoint Yourself as Judge

                  While you’re “listening,” you decide that the speaker doesn’t know what they’re talking about. As the “expert,” you know more. So, what’s the point of even listening?

                  To you, the only sound you hear once you decide they’re wrong is, “Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah!” But before you bang that gavel, just know you may not have all the necessary information. To do that, you’d have to really listen, wouldn’t you? Also, make sure you don’t judge someone by their accent, the way they sound, or the structure of their sentences.

                  My dad is nearly 91. His English is sometimes a little broken and hard to understand. People wrongly assume that he doesn’t know what he’s talking about—they’re quite mistaken. My dad is a highly intelligent man who has English as his second language. He knows what he’s saying and understands the language perfectly.

                  Keep that in mind when listening to a foreigner, or someone who perhaps has a difficult time putting their thoughts into words.

                  Now, you know some of the things that make for an inferior listener. If none of the items above resonate with you, great! You’re a better listener than most.

                  How To Be a Better Listener

                  For conversation’s sake, though, let’s just say that maybe you need some work in the listening department, and after reading this article, you make the decision to improve. What, then, are some of the things you need to do to make that happen? How can you be a better listener?

                  1. Pay Attention

                  A good listener is attentive. They’re not looking at their watch, phone, or thinking about their dinner plans. They’re focused and paying attention to what the other person is saying. This is called active listening.

                  According to Skills You Need, “active listening involves listening with all senses. As well as giving full attention to the speaker, it is important that the ‘active listener’ is also ‘seen’ to be listening—otherwise, the speaker may conclude that what they are talking about is uninteresting to the listener.”[1]

                  As I mentioned, it’s normal for the mind to wander. We’re human, after all. But a good listener will rein those thoughts back in as soon as they notice their attention waning.

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                  I want to note here that you can also “listen” to bodily cues. You can assume that if someone keeps looking at their watch or over their shoulder, their focus isn’t on the conversation. The key is to just pay attention.

                  2. Use Positive Body Language

                  You can infer a lot from a person’s body language. Are they interested, bored, or anxious?

                  A good listener’s body language is open. They lean forward and express curiosity in what is being said. Their facial expression is either smiling, showing concern, conveying empathy, etc. They’re letting the speaker know that they’re being heard.

                  People say things for a reason—they want some type of feedback. For example, you tell your spouse, “I had a really rough day!” and your husband continues to check his newsfeed while nodding his head. Not a good response.

                  But what if your husband were to look up with questioning eyes, put his phone down, and say, “Oh, no. What happened?” How would feel, then? The answer is obvious.

                  According to Alan Gurney,[2]

                  “An active listener pays full attention to the speaker and ensures they understand the information being delivered. You can’t be distracted by an incoming call or a Facebook status update. You have to be present and in the moment.

                  Body language is an important tool to ensure you do this. The correct body language makes you a better active listener and therefore more ‘open’ and receptive to what the speaker is saying. At the same time, it indicates that you are listening to them.”

                  3. Avoid Interrupting the Speaker

                  I am certain you wouldn’t want to be in the middle of a sentence only to see the other person holding up a finger or their mouth open, ready to step into your unfinished verbiage. It’s rude and causes anxiety. You would, more than likely, feel a need to rush what you’re saying just to finish your sentence.

                  Interrupting is a sign of disrespect. It is essentially saying, “what I have to say is much more important than what you’re saying.” When you interrupt the speaker, they feel frustrated, hurried, and unimportant.

                  Interrupting a speaker to agree, disagree, argue, etc., causes the speaker to lose track of what they are saying. It’s extremely frustrating. Whatever you have to say can wait until the other person is done.

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                  Be polite and wait your turn!

                  4. Ask Questions

                  Asking questions is one of the best ways to show you’re interested. If someone is telling you about their ski trip to Mammoth, don’t respond with, “that’s nice.” That would show a lack of interest and disrespect. Instead, you can ask, “how long have you been skiing?” “Did you find it difficult to learn?” “What was your favorite part of the trip?” etc. The person will think highly of you and consider you a great conversationalist just by you asking a few questions.

                  5. Just Listen

                  This may seem counterintuitive. When you’re conversing with someone, it’s usually back and forth. On occasion, all that is required of you is to listen, smile, or nod your head, and your speaker will feel like they’re really being heard and understood.

                  I once sat with a client for 45 minutes without saying a word. She came into my office in distress. I had her sit down, and then she started crying softly. I sat with her—that’s all I did. At the end of the session, she stood, told me she felt much better, and then left.

                  I have to admit that 45 minutes without saying a word was tough. But she didn’t need me to say anything. She needed a safe space in which she could emote without interruption, judgment, or me trying to “fix” something.

                  6. Remember and Follow Up

                  Part of being a great listener is remembering what the speaker has said to you, then following up with them.

                  For example, in a recent conversation you had with your co-worker Jacob, he told you that his wife had gotten a promotion and that they were contemplating moving to New York. The next time you run into Jacob, you may want to say, “Hey, Jacob! Whatever happened with your wife’s promotion?” At this point, Jacob will know you really heard what he said and that you’re interested to see how things turned out. What a gift!

                  According to new research, “people who ask questions, particularly follow-up questions, may become better managers, land better jobs, and even win second dates.”[3]

                  It’s so simple to show you care. Just remember a few facts and follow up on them. If you do this regularly, you will make more friends.

                  7. Keep Confidential Information Confidential

                  If you really want to be a better listener, listen with care. If what you’re hearing is confidential, keep it that way, no matter how tempting it might be to tell someone else, especially if you have friends in common. Being a good listener means being trustworthy and sensitive with shared information.

                  Whatever is told to you in confidence is not to be revealed. Assure your speaker that their information is safe with you. They will feel relieved that they have someone with whom they can share their burden without fear of it getting out.

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                  Keeping someone’s confidence helps to deepen your relationship. Also, “one of the most important elements of confidentiality is that it helps to build and develop trust. It potentially allows for the free flow of information between the client and worker and acknowledges that a client’s personal life and all the issues and problems that they have belong to them.”[4]

                  Be like a therapist: listen and withhold judgment.

                  NOTE: I must add here that while therapists keep everything in a session confidential, there are exceptions:

                  1. If the client may be an immediate danger to himself or others.
                  2. If the client is endangering a population that cannot protect itself, such as in the case of a child or elder abuse.

                  8. Maintain Eye Contact

                  When someone is talking, they are usually saying something they consider meaningful. They don’t want their listener reading a text, looking at their fingernails, or bending down to pet a pooch on the street. A speaker wants all eyes on them. It lets them know that what they’re saying has value.

                  Eye contact is very powerful. It can relay many things without anything being said. Currently, it’s more important than ever with the Covid-19 Pandemic. People can’t see your whole face, but they can definitely read your eyes.

                  By eye contact, I don’t mean a hard, creepy stare—just a gaze in the speaker’s direction will do. Make it a point the next time you’re in a conversation to maintain eye contact with your speaker. Avoid the temptation to look anywhere but at their face. I know it’s not easy, especially if you’re not interested in what they’re talking about. But as I said, you can redirect the conversation in a different direction or just let the person know you’ve got to get going.

                  Final Thoughts

                  Listening attentively will add to your connection with anyone in your life. Now, more than ever, when people are so disconnected due to smartphones and social media, listening skills are critical.

                  You can build better, more honest, and deeper relationships by simply being there, paying attention, and asking questions that make the speaker feel like what they have to say matters.

                  And isn’t that a great goal? To make people feel as if they matter? So, go out and start honing those listening skills. You’ve got two great ears. Now use them!

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                  Featured photo credit: Joshua Rodriguez via unsplash.com

                  Reference

                  [1] Skills You Need: Active Listening
                  [2] Filtered: Body language for active listening
                  [3] Forbes: People Will Like You More If You Start Asking Follow-up Questions
                  [4] TAFE NSW Sydney eLearning Moodle: Confidentiality

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