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If You Don’t Feel Right, He Is Not The One.

If You Don’t Feel Right, He Is Not The One.

Leaving a toxic relationship can be extremely difficult. Even when a relationship is bad and neither partner feels happy, it can be very tough to accept that the relationship is over and move on. Many people worry that they are making a bad decision, or they fear being alone. However, leaving a toxic relationship will make you happier, more confident and more compassionate. Check out 8 amazing things that happen when you leave a toxic relationship for good.

1. You will have a clear perspective of the toxic relationship

It is hard to have a clear perspective on a relationship while it is still happening. After a toxic relationship ends you get clarity about yourself, your partner and the relationship. The relationship had highs – but it also had crashing lows which hurt you, and it wasn’t worth it for the good parts. After leaving the toxic relationship you will want a healthy, happy relationship without crashing lows, and if you until you find that you will happy to stay single.

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2. You will evolve

A toxic relationship is filled with mistrust, anger, sadness and difficulties. When the relationship ends, those experiences will make you kinder, more compassionate, and wiser. You will be better at empathizing and relating to others, and you will understand yourself more than you did before the relationship.

3. You will learn more about what you want from a relationship

Leaving a toxic relationship will teach you what you don’t want in a relationship. You will no longer tolerate being used or being hurt and you will know the warning signs to look out for to make sure you avoid toxic relationships in the future.

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4. You will become independent

Many people do not leave toxic relationships because they fear being alone, but being alone is better than being with someone who hurts you. When the relationship ends you will realize this and you will embrace being alone. While you may occasionally feel sad or lonely, you will feel much happier than you did in a toxic relationship.

5. You will learn to love yourself again

Toxic relationships can leave both partners with low confidence. Your partner may have put you down or mocked some of your habits, but once you are single you will learn to love every single part of yourself again – even the part that likes to watch the Real Housewives while eating cream cheese out of the tube.

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6. You will focus on following your own dreams

Toxic relationships often encourage dependency, where both partners don’t have any time for their own interests. When the relationship ends you will have time to yourself to pursue your own dreams and goals. Being able to set your own priorities means you will make more progress than you could while you were in the toxic relationship.

7. You will put more effort into other relationships

Toxic relationships can take up a lot of time, and leaving a toxic relationship means you get your free time back. While this may seem scary initially, it actually gives you the opportunity to spend time with your loved ones. It is likely your friends and family missed you while you were busy with your relationship, and being single gives you the opportunity to spend time with the people who care about you and love you.

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8. You will become happy

Being in a toxic relationship can make you dependent, not confident and unhappy. Once this ends, you get the chance to become truly happy again. You will feel pain when the relationship first ends, but this will pass and eventually, you will be ready to be in a relationship again. You will know that you deserve someone who loves and respects you, but you are comfortable being alone until then.

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Amy Johnson

Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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