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If You Don’t Feel Right, He Is Not The One.

If You Don’t Feel Right, He Is Not The One.

Leaving a toxic relationship can be extremely difficult. Even when a relationship is bad and neither partner feels happy, it can be very tough to accept that the relationship is over and move on. Many people worry that they are making a bad decision, or they fear being alone. However, leaving a toxic relationship will make you happier, more confident and more compassionate. Check out 8 amazing things that happen when you leave a toxic relationship for good.

1. You will have a clear perspective of the toxic relationship

It is hard to have a clear perspective on a relationship while it is still happening. After a toxic relationship ends you get clarity about yourself, your partner and the relationship. The relationship had highs – but it also had crashing lows which hurt you, and it wasn’t worth it for the good parts. After leaving the toxic relationship you will want a healthy, happy relationship without crashing lows, and if you until you find that you will happy to stay single.

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2. You will evolve

A toxic relationship is filled with mistrust, anger, sadness and difficulties. When the relationship ends, those experiences will make you kinder, more compassionate, and wiser. You will be better at empathizing and relating to others, and you will understand yourself more than you did before the relationship.

3. You will learn more about what you want from a relationship

Leaving a toxic relationship will teach you what you don’t want in a relationship. You will no longer tolerate being used or being hurt and you will know the warning signs to look out for to make sure you avoid toxic relationships in the future.

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4. You will become independent

Many people do not leave toxic relationships because they fear being alone, but being alone is better than being with someone who hurts you. When the relationship ends you will realize this and you will embrace being alone. While you may occasionally feel sad or lonely, you will feel much happier than you did in a toxic relationship.

5. You will learn to love yourself again

Toxic relationships can leave both partners with low confidence. Your partner may have put you down or mocked some of your habits, but once you are single you will learn to love every single part of yourself again – even the part that likes to watch the Real Housewives while eating cream cheese out of the tube.

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6. You will focus on following your own dreams

Toxic relationships often encourage dependency, where both partners don’t have any time for their own interests. When the relationship ends you will have time to yourself to pursue your own dreams and goals. Being able to set your own priorities means you will make more progress than you could while you were in the toxic relationship.

7. You will put more effort into other relationships

Toxic relationships can take up a lot of time, and leaving a toxic relationship means you get your free time back. While this may seem scary initially, it actually gives you the opportunity to spend time with your loved ones. It is likely your friends and family missed you while you were busy with your relationship, and being single gives you the opportunity to spend time with the people who care about you and love you.

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8. You will become happy

Being in a toxic relationship can make you dependent, not confident and unhappy. Once this ends, you get the chance to become truly happy again. You will feel pain when the relationship first ends, but this will pass and eventually, you will be ready to be in a relationship again. You will know that you deserve someone who loves and respects you, but you are comfortable being alone until then.

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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