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8 TED Talks That Give You The Insights On How To Lead A Brand New Life

8 TED Talks That Give You The Insights On How To Lead A Brand New Life

The first step to recreating a better life for yourself lies in your thought process. That’s why we often rely on an enlightening TED talk to wake us up and get new ideas circulating in our heads. Each of these TED talks will help you conceptualize your life differently and make positive changes with clarity.

8. Know why you do what you do

“People don’t buy what you do, they buy why you do it.”

This is the message author Simon Sinek provides in this talk. He explains the ins and outs of being an impactful leader, discussing how we form connections and gain trust from others. This talk redefines what it means to be a successful leader, using examples that can benefit us at work and enlighten us.

Watch it here.

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7. Vulnerability is power

Brene Brown is a researcher focused on shame and vulnerability. In this talk, she discusses how we mistake our own vulnerability as weakness, while simultaneously revering the vulnerability of others. From both a personal and professional perspective, Brown uses humor to approach this delicate topic. She outlines how we can transform shame as a society and recognize the strength in being vulnerable.

Watch it here.

6. Change obstacles into opportunities

Nick Vujicic was born to a Serbian immigrant family in Australia. A rare condition caused him to be born without arms or legs, creating significant hardships and severe depression early in his life. Vujicic’s poignant talk describes how to appreciate what you have instead of longing for what you lack.

Watch it here.

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5. Go with your gut feeling

Magnus Walker, driver and self-proclaimed urban outlaw, discusses his winding life journey in this TED talk. Following his passions, as well as his gut feelings, eventually led him to turn his dreams to reality — but it wasn’t immediate or easy. He discusses the importance of taking a leap of faith, and how passion can transform you.

Watch it here.

4. Stop sabotaging yourself

Mel Robbins is a lawyer, syndicated radio show host, and a career/relationship expert. In this talk, she cuts to the chase, giving a no-nonsense talk on why we don’t get what we want and how to stop the pattern. She discusses what it takes to push ourselves past discomfort and start doing the things we want.

Watch it here.

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3. Ask what you can do for others

Adam Leipzig is a movie producer, executive, and cofounder of the Los Angeles Theatre Center. He gives a revealing account of his Yale college reunion, where he discovered that most of his outwardly successful classmates were not actually happy in their lives. This led him to the realization that there are 5 simple questions that satisfied professionals can answer themselves — including “who do you help?”

Watch it here.

2. You are what you think

Perhaps one of the best quotes of all time, “you are what you think” has a wealth of meaning behind it. Valerie Mason-John is an award winning author and an expert on bullying. In this powerful and direct talk, she pinpoints why we’re mean to each other, and explains why mentally bullying ourselves can lead to bullying others. She lays out a plan of action detailing what we can do to slow the epidemic of bullying and treat ourselves with respect.

Watch it here.

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1. Have the guts to make a change

Most of us are familar with being fed up in our careers. Fed up with her monotonous desk job, Dianna David made a radical change to become a performer — more specifically, a movement storyteller. She describes the challenges faced during her transition, like judgement, uncertainty, financial difficulties, and a fear of being her true self.

Watch it here.

Featured photo credit: Tony Frantz via flickr.com

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Last Updated on February 21, 2019

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

Conflicts are literally everywhere.

Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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