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5 Reasons Why Hardworking People Are More Blessed (And Luckier)

5 Reasons Why Hardworking People Are More Blessed (And Luckier)

Luck is such a lovely word and we would all like a piece of it every now and then. But what if I told you that luck doesn’t exist? The problem with society, and more importantly the media, is that we only tend to see the finished product. We see musical artists come out of nowhere, or we see a blog post go viral via a ‘lucky’ retweet; however what doesn’t get shown is all the groundwork that has been done behind the scenes leading up to this pivotal moment.

“It takes 20 years to become an overnight success” – Eddie Cantor

Whether you have noticed it already or not, individuals who tend to be blessed and luckier carry with them a unique work-ethic. You may only see the outcome of their success, but what goes on behind the scenes may make you question what it truly means to ‘work-hard’. You may have previously questioned why certain individuals seem to possess more luck than you. However, the fact is that these individuals have created each and every opportunity by following a precise process — and there is nothing stopping you from reaping these same benefits.

Instead of hating on these so called ‘blessed’ ones, let’s congratulate them — and analyze how these individuals achieve their luck:

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1. They Never Stand Still

“You won’t go anywhere standing still”

A cliche, yes. The truth? Even more so. Hardworking individuals are always on the move — and that doesn’t always mean physically. These types of individuals are always thinking and always trying to position themselves in the right places so that they don’t miss opportunities. Being in the right place at the right time may seem lucky to most. But remember that every decision a person makes up until that point is a choice.

2. They Remain Positive at All Times

Luck is most definitely seen as something positive, but what people often forget is all the hard times leading up to that moment. Hardworking individuals will never give up, even when times our tough. When in search of success (whatever that may be for you), there is no doubt you will approach some hurdles along the way. But it’s how you respond to them that defines your future success. Hardworking individuals will never say, ‘I’m so unlucky’. Instead, they accept that problems are part of the process and swiftly move on so they don’t miss the next opportunity, which is just around the corner.

While others worry about what went wrong, these individuals are already seeking their next chance.

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3. They Aren’t Afraid to Fail

It’s one thing being positive when things go wrong. But way before that, you mustn’t be afraid of failing. Hardworking individuals seem to have no fear when seeking opportunities.

When was the last time you did something that scared you? I don’t mean going and getting the latest Halloween costume. I’m talking about doing something new for the first time or calling someone you don’t know to arrange a business meeting. Hardworking individuals get out of their comfort zone on a daily basis and it doesn’t have to relate to the thing you are doing. Think of a professional athlete, such as a weightlifter. They fail hundreds of times before finally breaking a world-record. If they were afraid to even try to lift a heavy weight, then they would have never reached the heights that they did. These individuals understand that by consistently putting themselves through pain and sacrifice, they will grow at a much greater pace and attract more opportunities. Hardworking individuals aren’t afraid of making mistakes — because when they do, it just means they’re one step closer to finding the correct solution.

“I haven’t failed. Ive just found 10,000 ways that won’t work” – Thomas Edison

4. They Have a WHY

Hardworking individuals don’t just work hard for no reason. They have a clear purpose for why they are willing to sacrifice all the time and effort for results that aren’t guaranteed, and this is called their ‘WHY’.

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You’ve probably heard it before but your WHY is what’s going to separate you from the average Joe. Individuals that seem to have a lot of luck only attract such opportunities because they are willing to do what others are not. Many individuals have enough motivation to attract some opportunities but motivation will only take you so far; in contrast, hard-working individuals have a lifelong purpose that they believe in and will do anything they possibly can to make it a reality. For this very reason, these individuals won’t just seek instant results and won’t cave in when things don’t go their way. Their purpose is far greater than any materialistic thing, which is why they will continue to attract more opportunities day-in and day-out.

5. They Show Up…Every Day

If there were two words that could be used to advise every young person growing up, it would be these two: Show up.

Show up! It’s a simple distinction between someone who would like success compared to someone who is so desperate for success that they can’t even put it into words. Hardworking individuals show up, not just for one or two days; they show up every single day and it’s for that very reason they are blessed and lucky. There will be some days they are tired or don’t feel up to it but they will still give 100%. What people forget to realise is that your 100% will change, but as long as you give your 100% for that day, then any external factors won’t matter because you have done everything you possibly could.

‘Unlucky’ individuals tend to give up when they don’t feel at their best and will wait until tomorrow; but, unfortunately, opportunities don’t wait around. To ‘show up’ means to be present in every single moment. It means to be available so that the universe knows you are ready to receive opportunities. If you can only do one of these five points, then please let it be this one. Individuals who are hardworking forget about the past and what isn’t happening, and focus only on what IS happening at this very moment — because at the end of the day, that’s all ‘Luck’ cares about too.

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Instead of hating on individuals that seem to attract more luck than others, maybe we could learn a thing or two by studying them. Luck doesn’t have to be unique to certain individuals. Adopt as many of these five traits of hardworking individuals as possible and you will soon be attracting more opportunities in your daily life. I look forward to seeing your goals become a reality.

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12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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