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12 Things That Happen When You Start To Keep Calm

12 Things That Happen When You Start To Keep Calm

Sally was a frazzled, exhausted, overweight insomniac. Turning 50 was not quite what she expected. Menopause had caused her hormones to go on strike resulting in severe night sweats, hot flushes and weight gain. Sally was tired of her crazy life and begged me for advice to find peace and calm in her tumultuous life.

If left unchecked, this type of stress that goes on for a long period is a triple whammy for weight gain–it increases your appetite, it makes you hold onto the fat, and it interferes with your willpower to implement a healthy lifestyle.

Bringing calm into your life is easier than you think. You do not have to meditate for an hour each day or attend an expensive resort. It does take a little effort on your behalf but the results will be amazing if you incorporate a few minor changes.

Let’s focus on what will happen when you approach life’s challenges and keep calm:

1. You will lose weight

Stress is a contributing factor to menopause weight gain, as well as weight gain at any other time in our lives. In the days when our ancestors’ stress was due to fighting or in the midst of famine, their bodies adapted by learning to store fat supplies for the long haul. Nowadays, many people are chronically stressed by life crises and work-life demands, therefore are prone to getting an extra layer of “visceral fat” in the belly area.

When you keep calm, you will begin to lose that excess weight.

2. You will stop craving food

When you are chronically stressed, you crave “comfort foods,” such as a bag of potato chips or a tub of ice cream. These foods tend to be easy to eat, highly processed, and high in fat, sugar, or salt. Stress interferes with your brain’s reward system, causing you to crave easy to grab comfort foods.

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When you keep calm you will be more relaxed and therefore not as likely to crave foods.

3. You will decrease inflammation in the body

Chronic stress leads to high levels of inflammation in the body. Researchers found that chronic stress changes gene activity of immune cells before they enter the bloodstream so that they’re ready to fight infection or trauma–even when there is no infection or trauma to fight. This leads to increased inflammation.

If you have any ailment due to inflammation such as arthritis, heart disease and early signs of aging, when you keep calm you will keep these symptoms at bay.

4. You will enjoy a peaceful night’s sleep

When the body finds peace and calm you will find it a breeze to not only fall asleep, but also stay asleep throughout the night.

No more waking up in the middle of the night. No more worries keeping you awake at night.

When you keep calm, you will wake up refreshed and relaxed.

5. You will have happy children

At a recent school event for my 12-year-old son, I was stressing out. It was an event where my son, who had built a solar car, and was competing against other schools.

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Be careful of the car! Don’t do this; don’t do that.

My son was getting stressed and I was making a fool of myself. I removed myself from the situation. I entrusted my son with his teachers, who know just how to work with teenage boys. I went off and found a coffee shop and chilled out.

An hour later I returned to a happy child who thanked me for trusting him and leaving him to work on his solar car.

When you keep calm, your family will be more relaxed around you.

6. You will find relief from muscle spasms

When you are stressed, your body needs magnesium to help relax the muscles. If you are constantly stressed, magnesium levels can become very low and can result in muscle spasms.

When you keep calm, you will find the muscle spams will decrease or disappear altogether.

7. You will have regular bowel motions

Following on from point number 6, decreased magnesium can lead to constipation. When you have regular bowel motions this has an add on effect with every point covered in this article.

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When you keep calm, you will achieve regular bowel motions and will be a much happier person to be with as a result.

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    8. You will be a happier person

    Once Sally made a few adjustments in her frazzled life, she became a happier person. As corny as it might sound, happy people attract happy people into their lives, creating an even happier environment.

    When you start to keep calm, you will be a happier person, which is great for you and for your family and friends.

    9. You will achieve more in your day

    When you are calm your mind will be able to process instructions in an organised manner.

    Sally noticed that once she was not so frazzled, she was able to decrease the time spent each morning showering, attending to her make-up and fixing her hair. When she was frazzled, the lipstick would not go on correctly and had to be adjusted or the shampoo bottle would explode at the wrong time, leaving a mess to be cleaned up.

    When she was calm, Sally found that mishaps were not as common.

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    When you find calm, you will achieve more in your day.

    10. You will have find your headaches disappear

    Headaches are frequently caused by anxiety. Anxiety puts a considerable amount of stress on the body, and can lead to headaches.

    When you keep calm, you put less stress in the brain. If you are prone to headaches these will decrease or disappear altogether.

    11. You will be able to handle your alcohol better

    When the liver is under stress, it is not able to filter alcohol to its optimum capacity. When you find calm in your life your liver will be better equipped to do its job properly. This is of particular concern for women when they reach menopause. Hormonal nightmare and stress is a potent combination leading to a decreased liver functioning.

    When you find calm, so will your liver.

    12. You will radiate confidence

    Say no more. A confident person is the envy of all.

    When you find peace in your life, you will radiate confidence and those around you will want to know your secret.

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    Last Updated on March 14, 2019

    7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

    7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

    Recruiters might hold thousands of interviews in their careers and a lot of them are reporting the same thing—that most candidates play it safe with the questions they ask, or have no questions to ask in a job interview at all.

    For job applicants, this approach is crazy! This is a job that you’re going to dedicate a lot of hours to and that might have a huge impact on your future career. Don’t throw away the chance to figure out if the position is perfect for you.

    Here are 7 killer questions to ask in a job interview that will both impress your counterpart and give you some really useful insights into whether this job will be a dream … or a nightmare.

    1. What are some challenges I might come up against this role?

    A lesser candidate might ask, “what does a typical day look like in this role?” While this is a perfectly reasonable question to ask in an interview, focusing on potential challenges takes you much further because it indicates that you already are visualizing yourself in the role.

    It’s impressive because it shows that you are not afraid of challenges, and you are prepared to strategize a game plan upfront to make sure you succeed if you get the job.

    It can also open up a conversation about how you’ve solved problems in the past which can be a reassuring exercise for both you and the hiring manager.

    How it helps you:

    If you ask the interviewer to describe a typical day, you may get a vibrant picture of all the lovely things you’ll get to do in this job and all the lovely people you’ll get to do them with.

    Asking about potential roadblocks means you hear the other side of the story—dysfunctional teams, internal politics, difficult clients, bootstrap budgets and so on. This can help you decide if you’re up for the challenge or whether, for the sake of your sanity, you should respectfully decline the job offer.

    2. What are the qualities of really successful people in this role?

    Employers don’t want to hire someone who goes through the motions; they want to hire someone who will excel.

    Asking this question shows that you care about success, too. How could they not hire you with a dragon-slayer attitude like that?

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    How it helps you:

    Interviewers hire people who are great people to work with, but the definition of “great people” differs from person to person.

    Does this company hire and promote people with a specific attitude, approach, worth ethic or communication style? Are the most successful people in this role strong extroverts who love to talk and socialize when you are studious and reserved? Does the company reward those who work insane hours when you’re happiest in a more relaxed environment?

    If so, then this may not be the right match for you.

    Whatever the answer is, you can decide whether you have what it takes for the manager to be happy with your performance in this role. And if the interviewer has no idea what success looks like for this position, this is a sign to proceed with extreme caution.

    3. From the research I did on your company, I noticed the culture really supports XYZ. Can you tell me more about that element of the culture and how it impacts this job role?

    Of course, you could just ask “what is the culture like here? ” but then you would miss a great opportunity to show that you’ve done your research!

    Interviewers give BIG bonus point to those who read up and pay attention, and you’ve just pointed out that (a) you’re diligent in your research (b) you care about the company culture and (c) you’re committed to finding a great cultural fit.

    How it helps you:

    This question is so useful because it lets you pick an element of the culture that you really care about and that will have the most impact on whether you are happy with the organization.

    For example, if training and development is important to you, then you need to know what’s on offer so you don’t end up in a dead-end job with no learning opportunities.

    Companies often talk a good talk, and their press releases may be full of shiny CSR initiatives and all the headline-grabbing diversity programs they’re putting in place. This is your opportunity to look under the hood and see if the company lives its values on the ground.

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    A company that says it is committed to doing the right thing by customers should not judge success by the number of up-sells an employee makes, for instance. Look for consistency, so you aren’t in for a culture shock after you start.

    4. What is the promotion path for this role, and how would my performance on that path be measured?

    To be clear, you are not asking when you will get promoted. Don’t go there—it’s presumptuous, and it indicates that you think you are better than the role you have applied for.

    A career-minded candidate, on the other hand, usually has a plan that she’s working towards. This question shows you have a great drive toward growth and advancement and an intention to stick with the company beyond your current state.

    How it helps you:

    One word: hierarchy.

    All organizations have levels of work and authority—executives, upper managers, line managers, the workforce, and so on. Understanding the hierarchical structure gives you power, because you can decide if you can work within it and are capable of climbing through its ranks, or whether it will be endlessly frustrating to you.

    In a traditional pyramid hierarchy, for example, the people at the bottom tend to have very little autonomy to make decisions. This gets better as you rise up through the pyramid, but even middle managers have little power to create policy; they are more concerned with enforcing the rules the top leaders make.

    If having a high degree of autonomy and accountability is important to you, you may do better in a flat hierarchy where work teams can design their own way of achieving the corporate goals.

    5. What’s the most important thing the successful candidate could accomplish in their first 3 months/6 months/year?

    Of all the questions to ask in a job interview, this one is impressive because it shows that you identify with and want to be a successful performer, and not just an average one.

    Here, you’re drilling down into what the company needs, and needs quite urgently, proving that you’re all about adding value to the organization and not just about what’s in it for you.

    How it helps you:

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    Most job descriptions come with 8, 10 or 12 different job responsibilities and a lot of them with be boilerplate or responsibilities that someone in HR thinks are associated with this role. This question gives you a better sense of which responsibilities are the most important—and they may not be what initially attracted you to the role.

    If you like the idea of training juniors, for example, but success is judged purely on your sales figures, then is this really the job you thought you were applying for?

    This question will also give you an idea of what kind of learning curve you’re expected to have and whether you’ll get any ramp-up time before getting down to business. If you’re the type of person who likes to jump right in and get things done, for instance, you may not be thrilled to hear that you’re going to spend the first three months shadowing a peer.

    6. What do you like about working here?

    This simple question is all about building rapport with the interviewer. People like to talk about themselves, and the interviewer will be flattered that you’re interested in her opinions.

    Hopefully, you’ll find some great connection points that the two of you share. What similar things drive you head into the office each day? How will you fit into the culture?

    How it helps you:

    You can learn a lot from this question. Someone who genuinely enjoys his job will be able to list several things they like, and their answers will sound passionate and sincere. If not….well, you might consider that a red flag.

    Since you potentially can learn a lot about the company culture from this question, it’s a good idea to figure out upfront what’s important to you. Maybe you’re looking for a hands-off boss who values independent thought and creativity? Maybe you work better in environments that move at a rapid, exciting pace?

    Whatever’s important to you, listen carefully and see if you can find any common ground.

    7. Based on this interview, do you have any questions or concerns about my qualifications for the role?

    What a great closing question to ask in a job interview! It shows that you’re not afraid of feedback—in fact, you are inviting it. Not being able to take criticism is a red flag for employers, who need to know that you’ll act on any “coaching moments” with a good heart.

    As a bonus, asking this question shows that you are really interested in the position and wish to clear up anything that may be holding the company back from hiring you.

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    How it helps you:

    What a devious beast this question is! On the surface, it looks straightforward, but it’s actually giving you four key pieces of information.

    First, is the manager capable of giving you feedback when put on the spot like this? Some managers are scared of giving feedback, or don’t think it’s important enough to bother outside of a formal performance appraisal. Do you want to work for a boss like that? How will you improve if no one is telling you what you did wrong?

    Second, can the manager give feedback in a constructive way without being too pillowy or too confrontational? It’s unfair to expect the interviewer to have figured out your preferred way of receiving feedback in the space of an interview, but if she come back with a machine-gun fire of shortcomings or one of those corporate feedback “sandwiches” (the doozy slipped between two slices of compliment), then you need to ask yourself, can you work with someone who gives feedback like that?

    Third, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about before you leave the interview. This gives you the chance to make a final, tailored sales pitch so you can convince the interviewer that she should not be worried about those things.

    Fourth, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about period. If turnover is keeping him up at night, then your frequent job hopping might get a lot of additional scrutiny. If he’s facing some issues with conflict or communication, then he might raise concerns regarding your performance in this area.

    Listen carefully: the concerns that are being raised about you might actually be a proxy for problems in the wider organization.

    Making Your Interview Work for You

    Interviews are a two-way street. While it is important to differentiate yourself from every other candidate, understand that convincing the interviewer you’re the right person for the role goes hand-in-hand with figuring out if the job is the right fit for you.

    Would you feel happy in a work environment where the people, priorities, culture and management style were completely at odds with the way you work? Didn’t think so!

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