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Quotes From Mother Teresa That Can Change The Way You Think Of People

Quotes From Mother Teresa That Can Change The Way You Think Of People

By blood, I am Albanian. By citizenship, an Indian. By faith, I am a Catholic nun. As to my calling, I belong to the world. As to my heart, I belong entirely to the heart of Jesus.

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These were the words of Mother Teresa. Mother Teresa’s original name was Agnes Gonxha Bojaxhiu. She was born on 26 August, 1910, in Uskup, Kosovo Vilayet (presently known as Skopje, Macedonia). She was baptised on 27 August, and that was the day she regarded as her true birthday. Her father, Nicola Bijaxhiu was an entrepreneur and was involved in local politics. Her mother’s name was Dranafile Bojaxhiu, and both her parents were of Albanian descent.

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By the age of 12, Mother Teresa decided she would dedicate her life to religion. And at 18, she left her home, mother, and sister, to join Sisters of Loreto as a missionary, in Dublin, Ireland. Over there, she changed her name to Sister Mary Teresa, after Saint Therese of Lisieux.

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During her life in Macedonia, Mother Teresa were intrigued by the lives in India, particularly, Calcutta. She was so interested, that in 1929, she made her way to India, where she lived in Darjeeling, a town in India’s west, in the Himalayan region. In May 1931, she took her first vow as a nun. Later, she was transferred to Calcutta as a teacher of Saint Mary’s High School for Girls. And in May 24, 1937, she took her final formal vow. Thus, she was entitled “Mother”, becoming Mother Teresa.

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While still working for the convent, Mother Teresa felt that her real work focus was working for “the unwanted, the unloved, the uncared for”. After gaining some medical training, Mother Teresa started working in the slums of Calcutta. The main reason for this sudden transition is because on September 1946, she experienced “a call within the call” from Jesus, where the Lord asked her to work for the poor. This started her advancement towards building “The Missionaries of Charity“. The immense hard work, the struggles, and the poverty she, and some of her fellow nuns had to go through were gradually recognised by the country’s leaders, as well as the world leaders. Soon her missionaries spread throughout the globe.

Her health was deteriorating slowly. She suffered two heart attacks, and obtained a pacemaker. Due to fragile health, she stepped down from being the head of her charity in 13 March, 1997. On September 5, 1997, she breathed her last breath.

Because of the massive influence that she created, and the great impact that she has on all our lives, here are some famous quotes from Mother Teresa that will change the way you think of people.

1. Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.

2. Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.

3. We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.

4. Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do.. but how much love we put in that action.

5. Let us touch the dying, the poor, the lonely, and the unwanted according to the graces we have received, and let us not be ashamed or slow to do the humble work.

6. Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.

7. Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.

8. Live simply so others may simply live.

9. Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.

10. If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one.

11. One of the greatest diseases is to be nobody to anybody.

12. If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.

13. Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.

14. Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.

15. I can do things you cannot, you can do things I cannot; together we can do great things.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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