“By blood, I am Albanian. By citizenship, an Indian. By faith, I am a Catholic nun. As to my calling, I belong to the world. As to my heart, I belong entirely to the heart of Jesus.“Advertising
These were the words of Mother Teresa. Mother Teresa’s original name was Agnes Gonxha Bojaxhiu. She was born on 26 August, 1910, in Uskup, Kosovo Vilayet (presently known as Skopje, Macedonia). She was baptised on 27 August, and that was the day she regarded as her true birthday. Her father, Nicola Bijaxhiu was an entrepreneur and was involved in local politics. Her mother’s name was Dranafile Bojaxhiu, and both her parents were of Albanian descent.Advertising
By the age of 12, Mother Teresa decided she would dedicate her life to religion. And at 18, she left her home, mother, and sister, to join Sisters of Loreto as a missionary, in Dublin, Ireland. Over there, she changed her name to Sister Mary Teresa, after Saint Therese of Lisieux.Advertising
During her life in Macedonia, Mother Teresa were intrigued by the lives in India, particularly, Calcutta. She was so interested, that in 1929, she made her way to India, where she lived in Darjeeling, a town in India’s west, in the Himalayan region. In May 1931, she took her first vow as a nun. Later, she was transferred to Calcutta as a teacher of Saint Mary’s High School for Girls. And in May 24, 1937, she took her final formal vow. Thus, she was entitled “Mother”, becoming Mother Teresa.Advertising
While still working for the convent, Mother Teresa felt that her real work focus was working for “the unwanted, the unloved, the uncared for”. After gaining some medical training, Mother Teresa started working in the slums of Calcutta. The main reason for this sudden transition is because on September 1946, she experienced “a call within the call” from Jesus, where the Lord asked her to work for the poor. This started her advancement towards building “The Missionaries of Charity“. The immense hard work, the struggles, and the poverty she, and some of her fellow nuns had to go through were gradually recognised by the country’s leaders, as well as the world leaders. Soon her missionaries spread throughout the globe.
Her health was deteriorating slowly. She suffered two heart attacks, and obtained a pacemaker. Due to fragile health, she stepped down from being the head of her charity in 13 March, 1997. On September 5, 1997, she breathed her last breath.
Because of the massive influence that she created, and the great impact that she has on all our lives, here are some famous quotes from Mother Teresa that will change the way you think of people.
1. Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.
2. Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.
3. We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.
4. Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do.. but how much love we put in that action.
5. Let us touch the dying, the poor, the lonely, and the unwanted according to the graces we have received, and let us not be ashamed or slow to do the humble work.
6. Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.
7. Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.
8. Live simply so others may simply live.
9. Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.
10. If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one.
11. One of the greatest diseases is to be nobody to anybody.
12. If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.
13. Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.
14. Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.
15. I can do things you cannot, you can do things I cannot; together we can do great things.
Last Updated on August 4, 2020
The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life
It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.
But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.
What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.
But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here’s how to master the Gentle Art of Saying No:
1. Value Your Time
Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
2. Know Your Priorities
Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time?
For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
3. Practice Saying No
Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
4. Don’t Apologize
A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
5. Stop Being Nice
Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets.
Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
6. Say No to Your Boss
Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no,” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning.
But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting,
“Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
8. Get Back to You
Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them:
“After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.”
At least you gave it some consideration.
9. Maybe Later
If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say,
“This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].”
Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
10. It’s Not You, It’s Me
This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often, the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time.
Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.
More Tips for a Less Stressful Life
- How to Say No When You Feel You Can Only Say Yes
- 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit
- How to Declutter Your Life and Reduce Stress (The Ultimate Guide)
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